[nicks]

I was trying to think of something that I could give to our pbm at the hospital when she delivers. Any suggestions?

[Izzygirl311]

I was thinking the same thing. I was thinking of a silver charm on a chain with the words " Thank you" on the back and the date. (Of course, it would be hard to have the date inscribed as it can be a movig target... but...)

[kakuehl]

What about a locket which could contain a picture of the baby. I'm from the "old days" but that's something I would have cherished. (I would love to have a picture of D as a newborn with his aparents!)

Blessings,
Kathy

[mrsdatabits]

When our DD's bmom was in the hospital we knew she'd probably be there a few days since she was having a c-section. I've done my share of just waiting in a hospital so I figured it'd probably be worse having to recuperiate in the hospital. Therefore, we put together a gift bag of things to do while she was there and some other fun things (our DD's bmom was also very practical).

Since we'd gotten to know her a little bit, we had some idea of things she'd like. We got her a book of sudoku puzzles and a pencil (in her favorite color), a counted cross stitch, a disposable camera (she'd mentioned wanting to get some pictures while we were there), and a picture frame (for if she wanted to put one of those pictures in it later on), and some body wash & lotion with a pouf. I'm thinking there were a few more items we'd put in there, but I can't remember for sure.

We went with this idea after hearing others on this site mention doing something similar. Another idea might be pj's and slippers if you know her size.

[SarahHatton]

At our goodbye visit (we did foster adopt) we presented our youngest son's birthmom with a locket containing his photo and a lock of his hair. On the front of the silver locket was his birthstone. She cried and thanked us.

Sarah

[DebCsMom]

We gave our children's Birth Mother Photo Albums that matched the baby Book. I also had made a footprint of the baby & then put it in a cute frame. We gave them a necklace with the child's birthstone, too.

Deb

[blessedbybug]

Originally Posted by nicks

I was trying to think of something that I could give to our pbm at the hospital when she delivers. Any suggestions?

In both our situations, we brought a vase of roses to the hospital. I wanted her to feel like a Mom, or should I say, THE Mom, during that time. I also felt anything more would be presumptuous (sp?). She still had alot of time to think about her decision to place and I didn't want to do anything at all that might make her feel influenced in any way.

AFter the revoc period was up, we gave her a locket with Bug's initials on it. We will do the same for Roo's first mom if/when we are blessed with contact with her again.

[KristineM]

We got our daughters birthmother pink roses and a Willow Tree Angel. The one below:

http://www.demdaco.com/images/26022_72_99.jpg

[HBV]

We brought flowers and magazines, then a cross made of baby's birthstones for the day she left the hospital.

[Mommy24]

My bsons parents sent me a ceramic vase (it was huge) filled with lots of different flowers, it was so heavy I couldnt carry it out of the hospital. 16 years later it is proudly sitting in my living room with an artificail arrangement in it and many memories everytime I look at it

[snaps]

I would check with your attorney. In our case we adopted in Tennessee, but live in Georgia. Both attorneys advised against gifts of any kind until after things were more finalized.

[Persephone76]

I just spoke with my Lawyer today about any type of gift before she signs (She's due in Jan) and he said NO. He would not give her anything, because you don't in anyway want to make her think you are paying her. Even small gifts he said.

[kelceesmom]

After the birth of our baby we gave the bmom a plush robe. After paperworked was signed a locket.

[redbonec]

Such good ideas.

At the hospital we brought some magazines for decorating and cooking (she likes to do both) and an iron basket with plants in it.

At the placement ceremony--at the hospital after signing paperwork two days after the birth--we gave her a gift bag. In it were three identical bracelets--they are all matching except one is little. One is hers, one is mine, and the little one is the baby's. She said she wears it everyday to remind her of the special bond we share.

It is hard to think of just the right gift!

[friends4ever]

a photo album would be good so she can put the babys photos in it