[Persephone76]

We're meeting our P Birthmother next week at our home. Is there anything we need to do? Should we have photo album of usto show her? Should we bake something? Also we might be meeting her other 2 children.

This match is though word of mouth.

[BrandyHagz]

I met with my daughters parents for the first time at their home. We had intended on it being a short hour - 2 hour meeting...it ended up being all day and half the night. They did have a birthday cake for me, because it was close to my birthday....we also ate dinner.

I would suggest having some drinks and maybe some finger foods - but be prepared to do something more, should the meeting progress to something longer.

[SchmennaLeigh]

We ate dinner together on our first face-to-face meeting. Food seems to be a good "ice breaker." At least for me when I was pregnant.

Best of luck.

[Leigh131313]

Our first meetings have either been in coffee shops or at the emom's house....Although we did have them over after the initial meeting. It's hard to know what to make, not knowing food preferences!

I'd go with the finger food type stuff too...that way they can pick and chose what they like.

Try to have fun!!

[taramayrn]

Food is always great. My son's adoptive parents brought a small photo album with pictures of their life for me to keep.

[SchmennaLeigh]

Originally Posted by taramayrn

My son's adoptive parents brought a small photo album with pictures of their life for me to keep.

Tara; that's a great idea that I don't think I've ever heard of before. Awesome.

[taramayrn]

It really was great Jenna. They had many pictures of their daughter E., one of the outside of their house, their other family members, etc. I still have that little photo album. I wish I would have made one up for them too.

[Persephone76]

Thanks to everyone who replied! I'm excited but nervous. Next Tuesday can not come fast enough. She's going to her U/S that day and having it put on video so we can see it when she comes over!!

Any ideas on what kind of finger foods?

One other thing I'm wondering about, is we have no children right now, but we have a 'baby' room. We tried to adopted years ago and bought stuff, we just kept the room since we were TTC. We're just shut off that room and kinda use it for storage right now.

Should we clean up that room and open it up? DH thinks it would be okay to show her the room. But I'm worried it might look as if we think this is a done deal or something? What do you think? (She knows we've been trying for years)

[nicks]

Hello! I think it would be fine to show her the room. Does this mean they are coming to your home? I think it shows that you are committed to adopting, and even though you have been trying for a while you have not given up hope, and you ready for a child,, even if it is not done, that's alright.

We met our pbparents at a chuckie cheese so her children could play. We brought a gift for their 2 children, just soemthing small, and I made homemade chocolate chip cookies..(These were a big hit,, the father loved them!) Godd luck to you.. Remember, just be yourself, and relax,,,(as nervous as you may be) it will go smoothly if you are yourself.

[loveajax]

Good luck!

One funny thing is that the SW said not to bring pictures of our nursery, etc. to the meeting we had with birth parents. After the meeting, DD's birth mom was worried that we "weren't prepared"!! I think it's great that you will be able to show her the room.

On the first day we met birth parents, Dd's birth mom gave us an u/s picture. I could not stop weeping. If you get a chance, write down everything after the meeting because it will be so special to tell your child about it someday.

I know you are nervous, but I am sure it will go great!