[Vogi2002]

Originally Posted by jaenelle

Well, some of us don't have any choice -- I'm on it for medical reasons, and can't go off.

I didn't mean it like that, if you read the post that I was REPLYING to, I meant it as they couldn't MAKE me go on BC (which is what she was talking about), not that I am against it. I'm not sure what that has to do with you being on it for medical reasons...

Natalie

[jaenelle]

Originally Posted by Runyan2002

I didn't mean it like that, if you read the post that I was REPLYING to, I meant it as they couldn't MAKE me go on BC (which is what she was talking about), not that I am against it. I'm not sure what that has to do with you being on it for medical reasons...

Natalie

I know that; I was just pointing out that for some of us, it's NOT a choice. Never mind. Whatever. It's been a HORRIBLE day today, and I don't think my brain is working right.

[Vogi2002]

That's okay...we both misunderstood each other!!

Well I guess that is another note: SIDE EFFECT TO WAITING - WE ARE all CRABBY but yet somehow understand each other oh so well!! LOL

[Mrs. Elle]

Congratulations on the baby and God Bless!
I don't want you guys to think I don't believe that God's timing is perfect, it is. I just don't like when people throw it in my face and they have no idea what it is like to wait. It is just hard when you see all of these people who abuse their kids and you think "what? THEY deserved a kid?" I think you all know where I'm coming from. Hmm, maybe I'm getting bitter, I hope not. I just feel like for 3 years I've prayed my guts out, sobbed, prayed some more, acted like I was ok with waiting, prayed...you get it, I am just ready to have my child(ren), you know?
Thanks for understanding,

[jaenelle]

Originally Posted by Runyan2002

That's okay...we both misunderstood each other!!

Well I guess that is another note: SIDE EFFECT TO WAITING - WE ARE all CRABBY but yet somehow understand each other oh so well!! LOL

Yeah, I guess so. Anyway, thanks for being understanding and not flipping out on me. I think I misunderstood what you were saying. Sorry.

[Andrea Shea]

I loved reading this thread......I just shook my head and smiled a lot.

I had a failed prospect earlier this week and one of my coworkers actually asked if I had tried praying. She also said that when God thought I was ready to be a mommy he would deliver a child to my husband and I.

I calmly looked her in the eye and said "well, right now he is to busy "delivering" the tenth child to a crack whore downtown, isn't he." That shut her up.

[Andrea Shea]

I just remebered the best (or the worst) one ever...

One of the lovely young women that a friend of ours was dating asked why we just don't have a baby of our own. I told her that wasn't possible....she asked why not.. I told her I had a hysterectomy. She sat for a moment and the conversation went like this

What are you then? she asked

What do you mean?

Well, if you don't have any female organs left, are you still a female?

Beer came out of my husbands nose.......

I said, as far as I know, I am still a woman.

She then presents her argument - well, if they castrate a horse, isn't it called something else, and cows too. Doesn't that classify them as something other than a cow that can have calves?

I just stared at her...... she then said, well it isn't like they took your boobs too, I guess.

This idiot is now raising a baby boy.......I suppose brain cells and eggs are not connected. We never saw each other again after that night. Hind sight is 20 20......I didn't break her nose....where is a time machine when you need one.

Goodnight everybody!!

[emmaalso]

Andrea,

People are unbelievable. If I saw those encounters in a movie I would say thats crazy noone would ever say that...
HOw can they possibly say and beleive these things? My brother had cancer as a kid and a girl once told him he must have been really really bad to get it as a kid. WHAT?!?!?

Take care and stay strong dont let the idiots get you down.

[CanMomEh]

Oh My! I just thought of another horrible thing I have heard in regards to adopting. My sister, the most supportive person i have, once said to me:
" People think that if you pay for your child (private adoption vs. CAS) then you would take better care of it than if you just got it and did not have to pay any money for legal or anything."
she back peddled and said that it was not how she felt but how first moms considering adoption for their children would think.
When ever she says that i just sit there - jaw on the floor and watch her try and back peddle. She paid over $1000 for her puppy so maybe that;s why she says that - I've never paid for a pet - there are too many free to good home - kindo like the thousands of children waiting for adoption in FC.

[poullafouca]

I loved, "How much are you going to pay for your baby", that was particularly comforting and sensitive!

Poulla

[Birth4Mom3]

Originally Posted by dawnrenee58

Dawn Renee

4/06 I am currently fostering 11 month old Timoteo Rafael in the beautiful city of Managua, Nicaragua. We are just waiting for the final adoption decree before we can go hoooome!

7/03/06 Adoption decree granted. Now we need BC, Passport, and visa. Just a few more days!!!

7/07/06 HOME! FINALLY!!

8/24/06 HUH?? PREGNANT??????????!!!!!!!!!

See? It's true! All you had to do was adopt and then you suddenly got pregnant! Now THAT won't do anything to dispel the myth!!

My mother - who never had fertility issues mind you - has always said for as long as I can remember that once a young couple gets a puppy, they immediately get pregnant right after. She could always cite dozens of couples for whom this was true as well.

You didn't happen to get a new puppy after your son came home did you? Cuz' that would explain it!

[Fran27]

I tried the puppy thing... twice. Didn't work

Ok I didn't really try it as it's the first time I hear it But either way it definitely didn't work for me, haha.

[jbntb]

We haven't even signed on with an agency yet and we're already hearing the "advice".
Why don't you get an older kid so you don't have the diapers and have to lose sleep?
Or... Are you sure you want to adopt now...at your age (I'm 35 and apparently over the hill?!?)
And the one we all hear, "If it's meant to happen, it will" I know I need the support of my family thru this but sometimes I wish I had never told them.

[CanMomEh]

My mother has "been so supportive" but with DH not always wanting to go through with it (i told him if he said no then it would be no - no hard feelings but he still wants to do the training) she always tried to be neutral whenever the issue came up between DH and I. This weekend I went camping with her and DH 12yr old Niece - AZ. I taught AZ how to fish and do some fun stuff while camping. AZ went to bed and my mother said the following after "adoption" became topic for discussion around campfire.
"well if it doesn;t work out and they find that because DH is [not ready] i think that at the very least you would make a very good ..... now who amongst you thinks she is going to say i would've made a great mom ? ... AUNT. After seeing how I took interest in my niece AZ I have demonstrated that I will be a great aunt do DS soon to be son (she is due Dec 1). - Wow I Just did not know what to say.

She told this to DS and said that she meant well - but it just floored me. She earlier told me that the proper place for children is with thier birth mother. not foster care nor adoption. She was talking about a little girl who stole our hearts but ended up with maternal grandmother (from pot to fire?) but my Mother thinks that was the best place for her. Um Hello ? Un fit mother anyone? CAS does not just take kids away for fun you know!