[miasmom]

Hi guys!

I do not post here usually, just lurk. I am mom to Mia who is now 2 1/2 yrs old (independent adoption at birth) and Gwen (2 month old biological baby girl)...
When we adopted Mia, b-mom wanted contact. I sent pictures via email every few months and we had planned to have her visit within the first couple of yrs.(never happened) We also talked on the phone every few months. The last time I emailed her was this time last yr and we never heard back. B-moms b-day is next week and I want to send her a note and some pics. I am just not sure if I should.
1) because we have not heard back for so long, maybe she no longer wants contact?
2) because I wonder if she will be uncomfortable knowing we had a baby...

Just looking for some advice. I really want to get in touch to make sure she is doing well but I am just not sure how to handle it.

Thanks so much!
Mindy

[taramayrn]

You need to send the update and pictures. Do not take her silence as a sign that she doesn't want contact anymore. While she might not respond she knows you still care. She also needs to know about your new baby. It might upset her for a while, but she needs to know.

[SchmennaLeigh]

Silence from firstparents is hard to determine, isn't it? She's dealing with a lot and may not want to worry you with the nitty gritty details or make you feel bad by her pain/etc. I'm in agreement with Tara; send the update.

[miasmom]

I just sent her an update and it got returned to me. It said she diabled her email acct. She also moved and changed her numbers awhile back and I am not sure if I have the right one. Do you think I should call? She used to live with her parents and I have their address but last time I talked to her she had moved. Maybe I should mail an update there?
I am at a loss now...