[honu]

Our court date is approaching and we would like to get our 13 y/o soon to be Daughter a gift on finalization day. She has a very strong bond with her Biofamily and it is likely some of them will even come to court, so we will not do anything until afterwards, and don't want to make her feel too weird, but at the same time want to show her the day is special and meaningful to us. She knows we love her and she is very happy with us, but without telling the whole big story this finalization day is not without it's stress. She has contact with her Biofamily that has been extremely manipulative and downright hurtful to her making her feel she is at fault and makes them look bad because she is in the system. I promise we're working through all the issues, this is really about the gift.

I found the perfect card for her about families being made in different ways, but what about a gift? The only thing that has come to mind is maybe a necklace or ring to remember the day by and we could engrave it. Other ideas anyone? Thanks!

[emmaalso]

Perhaps a charm bracelet with some of her favorite activities etc as charms?

[honu]

That's actually a neat idea, especially since she does a lot of different things here since she came to live with us. It would be kind of a reminder of the things she has decided to do and have in her life with us. Thanks!

[DianeScraps]

I second the charm bracelet - the italian charms have a TON Of stuff that is very appropriate.

My girls are younger - but I had one gotten one for chirstmas that had about 1/2 of it 'heart' charms, so when I gave them their bracelets I took a heart off of mine for each of theirs.

[shaylynn]

Hi I like the idea of a charm bracelet too. For my kids (they were younger) I bought a comforter set and took it to a embrodery shop and had them embroder the adoption date, the new name and "forever loved" on the one corner. Also, an idea would be a cedar chest with her name on it in which she could keep whatever her special possesions are.

[honu]

The cedar chest is a neat idea too, and she would like a special place to keep some mementos of her family and other stuff. Anything else anyone? We're going to court Friday.

[LisArno]

I may use the charm bracelet idea myself. Could add a charm to it every year on Finalization/Family/Gotcha Day.

[Leigh131313]

How about a daughters pride ring? You put the stone of you, dh and her's in the middle....or if you have other kids, you could include their birthstones too? Just a thought.