[NurseNikki]

Thought I would start a new thread for those expecting in October, November or December. We thought we were going to be expecting in August, but pbmom was mistaken when we talked, and said the wrong month. Whew! Big difference between August and October!

Hopefully we will be meeting our pbmom in the next few weeks. Our agency is not new at this, but our CW doesn't usually take individual cases (she is a supervisor). So, since this is our first adoption as well, we all feel like we are kind of fumbling around a bit. It is all a learning experience.

Anyone else waiting for a baby due Oct/Nov/Dec?

[nicks]

Hi!! We are not officially matched yet, but if all goes well, we will be expecting in November. We had not met the pbmom yet, but we have been in contact for the last month.

[NurseNikki]

Great! We have not met with pbmom yet, either, but have been talking on the phone. Is yours an agency match, or private? We are working with an agency, but this match was found privately.

[louisianalady]

Yea! I've been waiting for a thread like this. Thought I was too early to have many cohorts . . . We were recently matched for a birth expected in December.

Sometimes I think the long match is great - TONS of time to plan! We can really take our time reading up and selecting nursery stuff, strollers, etc. etc. (And I'm discovering that there's SOOO much to learn, but the way!) But I've already had bad days, with lots of paranoia about how secure the pbmom's decision can be given the early stage of her pregnancy.

[timbo30]

We are not matched yet. We adopted our son last Oct. at birth and are in the process of updating our homestudy. We hope to be bringing home another baby by the end of the year. I know, it seems so soon. But we are feeling like this is what is right for our family. Good luck with those of you so close to matches. We only had 2 1/2 weeks between match an plaement last time. I wish we could have gotten to know our sons b-mom more before but at the same time I was so glad that it was quick. Less time to worry about things that might happen. Anyway, I think there are good and bad about both long and short matches.

Timbo

[adoptmom_02]

Hi everyone - This is our second adoption. with the same birth mom. Due in Dec.

[NurseNikki]

Welcome, everyone! I was wondering if I would have very many who were matched for this time frame, but was so excited, I had to try. Glad to see some out there waiting with me!


I think what I am most excited about is that I will have the whole holiday season off work to spend with the baby. We are expecting in late October, so I will be off Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year's! I would have gotten all but the first one off anyway on the actual holiday itself, but to be able to stay home and snuggle with the little one!

We are hoping to meet our birthmom in person the first week of August. I have to travel for work next week, and our SW can't do it this week. We have spoken to pbmom via phone a few times. She seems very shy, but very willing to answer questions if asked. She doesn't ask many questions, but hopefully will feel more comfortable after we get together.

Hope everyone is having a good week!

[NurseNikki]

We already have a lot of things - crib, swing, etc. We bought carseat/stroller combo when our homestudy was complete. Yesterday I bought some of the bottles I want to use, and a few more sleepers. How about the rest of ya? Started getting things like this yet?

[nicks]

Hi- We are still not officially matched...We are still waiting to meet our pbm. She is due Beginning of November. We decided on a furniture set today and are just waiting to place the order...We have cleared out the nursery, and are getting ready to paint. We are still deciding on the bedding! I think we feel we need a little more confirmation before we move full force...But I am ready!!!!!!! It is so exciting... I just wish we knew for sure sh is on board... I think we are at 75% right now.

[NurseNikki]

Nicks - I know what you mean. DH and I painted our nursery when we were rolling thru the wait time for our homestudy, as sort of a therapy. We use that room now for our little niece when we babysit, so it is getting used. But, until we meet our pbmom face to face, we aren't getting a whole lot of new stuff. I mean, I bought some bottles yesterday, and a few more onesies, but we aren't sharing the news with a whole lot of friends or family until we meet her, and get a better sense that this is what she wants.

Our pbmom is 17, wants to go back to school this fall, and says she really wants a two parent family for her child. So, at this point, it sounds good, but, that can change at any minute. So we are treading lightly - excited but realistic is how I like to think of it.

Good luck! When do you get to meet her? Have you talked to her at all yet?

[adoptmom_02]

Hi Ladies,
We are not even signed up with anyone yet. We still have to get our homestudy done. Ds birth mom is who we will be adopting from. she is still so early anything can happen. dh and i talked that if she does not place with us. We will just try to adopt another baby.She came to yo us and asked if we would like to adopt her baby. We will be using an attorney for ds birth mom. if it turns out to be a failed placement we will sign up with an agency.

We have not told any of our family that she is expecting. i wont say anything untill she is much much farther along like in Nov or dec.

[Aychey]

Hi ya'll, We are expecting our baby, a girl, at the end of Oct. The due date is my birthday! We ended up with a private adoption on our own. Our birthmom is a friend of a friend's daughter, we met her at the end of March and have been able to go to all the doctor apts. and ultrasound with her. We talk almost everyday with our birthmom. Week before last I got to feel our baby kick. We just got set up with a lawyer and getting the process started. We have not had our home study yet and may not have to have one depending on the judge. Hopefully all will go quickly and without any problems. The birth father is unknown. I am getting anxious for her arrival and everything to be final.

[NurseNikki]

Welcome, Aychey! We are in for October as well, and I think it is a girl, but we have not gotten official confirmation! We are going to talk to pbmom tonight, and she was to have a sonogram today, so we will see!

It is great that you know your pbmom so well! We have not met ours yet, but hope to next week sometime. I have spoken to our pbmom on the phone, but the conversations are not usually very long. I don't push, because I don't want to be nagging or overbearing. I am hoping that after we meet in person she may be more comfortable talking, but I realize that might not be the case either. Just taking it a day at a time!

[adoptmom_02]

I wish I could go to the the doctor with bmon. I would love it if bmom asked me to come. we are hoping to see her next month it will give us a chance to talk at least i hope so. She has been kind of distant with us. For about a month now. I talked to her yesterday and i have a feeling i can't shake, it seems like she might of changed her mind and not telling us.

[louisianalady]

We're doing an agency adoption, and we'll have no direct contact with the pbmom until after she delivers. I'm kind of sad to be missing out on the opportunity to get to know her now. You ladies are lucky!