[cowgirlup1210]

Hello twelve months ago a girl came to me asking me to babysit her child overnight, she came back a week later to see the child, I have had this child since she was 3 months old she is now 15 months old and I am really thinking about trying to adopt her, the birth mother has not seen her in about two months and whn she did see her she only wanted money from me does anyone know how I would find out information about how to adopt this child? thank you and have a great day

[mommieof2cuties]

I think your first step is to contact DCF and apply for emergency foster care explainning and being honest. You have no rights to this baby and could get in a ton of trouble for having her in your care without proper records. Also if you have been paying for everything show DCf that, DCF is not into removing a child that is in a safe place but you will still need to have them complete a homestudy. You will also have to establish that the baby's mom has left her and has neglected her. From what I have been told you will have to prove that she is not fit to care for this baby. The babys father and relatives will also have to be contacted in order for an adoption to even come up in topic. Even if the mom wants you to adopt you still have to make sure no one else in her or the fathers family wants her. I do wish you much luck. Please make sure to update. Also giving the mom money can be viewed as many different things so watch yourself with that also.

God Bless,
Summer

[b4truth]

just a question, have you ever discussed it with the bmother? did you let her know that you'd be interested in adopting. maybe getting a feel for her desires before contacting ss would be the way to go.

i am concerned that antagonizing her or her family may backfire (i.e. litigation, anger, etc)...when a simple conversation may be sufficient.

it seems logical (to most who read this) that she doesn't want to raise this child but maybe, from her point of view, she just can't...financially, emotionally, but she doesn't want to accept giving up her child completely.

you already seem comfortable with her visitation so i'd let her know that nothing would really change but that legally you'd be able to provide her with medical care, get her into school, etc. i'd present it as a win win situation which it is. (she knows you take good care of her child and have not withheld visitation) maybe then you could go to ss together and have them help you with a legal arrangement.

[cowgirlup1210]

Hello all first of all let me start out by thanking you for your response to my question and now let me give a little more input into my situation, the bmother and I have talked about the option of my husband and I adotping this precious child and she has voiced many times that she would allow the adoption to take place however she does not want to upset her family, well since we last talked about this the bmothers family has found out that we have had this child for a ya now, they are very glad we have her due to the lifestyle the bmother leads which is not safe for the child and actually since I wrote the first post I received a call from the bmothers family and they want to meet and talk with my husband and I about the options we have I will soon write back again to inform everyone what came about thank you ad may god bless

[mommieof2cuties]

That sounds wonderful. I am glad things are looking good for you! Please do keep us posted

God Bless,
Summer

[patti Daniels]

Contact an attorney.