[LegalBeagle]

I'm a newbie here and hope this is in the right place (please move if not).

I am a single female who is living with & "engaged" (but no date for the forseeable future) to my SO. I want to adopt and DF is not opposed to this, but not dying for it either. So I plan to adopt on my own, but how does the adoption/homestudy process work if just one partner is planning to adopt?

Any advice greatly appreciated.

[ocracoke]

I don't know too much about it. I do know that every adult who lives in the house has to participate in the homestudy process. So even if he isn't gung ho he will need to participate. At least that is my understanding.

[mommieof2cuties]

The fact that your living together and your partner is not into the itea of adoptiong might cause some issues. I was unclear if DCF told you no or yes that you could adopted? You might want to try foster to adopt? I am sure you will get a ton of advice of this subject!

God Bless,
Summer

[Leigh131313]

I'm curious, and please do not take this as an attack.

If you are planning to marry this person and spend your life with them, why would you adopt if they are not wanting too?

It just doesnt make sense. Perhaps you can explain so I'll understand

[blessedbybug]

Originally Posted by LegalBeagle

I'm a newbie here and hope this is in the right place (please move if not).

I am a single female who is living with & "engaged" (but no date for the forseeable future) to my SO. I want to adopt and DF is not opposed to this, but not dying for it either. So I plan to adopt on my own, but how does the adoption/homestudy process work if just one partner is planning to adopt?

Any advice greatly appreciated.

If your SO is not supportive of your decision to adopt, then it might be a roadblock to approval. After all, if you plan to marry and spend your life together, any child would be a part of that family in the end. IMO (and that is all it is) it would be wise to wait until you and your SO could make the decision to adopt together. Adoption is a rough ride and you need all the support you can get, esp from the person most important in your life right now. Best of everything...

[hotspice58]

In New York, you'd both have to do it. If it's just you, you might want to think about living on your own. There are background checks done on all adults in the household; both your incomes would be used.

[lisa in venice]

In CA only you would have to do the full homestudy as you can adopt as a single women. He would have to still go thru the full background check as would any adult living in your home. I do think his lack of commitment might be a red flag to the SW.

lisa

[hopeful3]

I must admit I have to agree with Leigh.... Don't take that the wrong way. The adoption journey is a roller coaster ride. I would really think this through and discuss it with your SO. Hubby and I are happily married and this adoption journey has brought us closer, but with that said, there are tough times emotionally ..... I am not sure that is the way you want to start a marriage..... Just my opinion... Good Luck!