[stillwaiting]

Originally Posted by ruth1

Are you adopting international or domestic? Ruth

Good question I was wondering the same thing. Ruth - I gather you are adopting internationally.

[ruth1]

Yep, International!

[rjsmom]

We are doing domestic. We go for our first seminar with the agency July 1st then we'll really begin after that.

Originally Posted by ruth1

Congratulations rjs mom! Looks like we'll be in this together. We send off a couple big checks tomorrow, so now we're really moving forward.

Are you adopting international or domestic?

Ruth

[stillwaiting]

Rjsmom....I have a good feeling about this! My son's birthday is July 1st! I wish you the best of luck.!

[StorkWatcher]

rjsmom - Are you using the same agency you used the first time?

[rjsmom]

Originally Posted by StorkWatcher

rjsmom - Are you using the same agency you used the first time?

STORKWATCHER - yes we are (at least that is the plan at this point)

[SanInUtah]

My DH came into our room the other night and carefully told me that he's not sure he wants to adopt again. He had a girlfriend in high school who miscarried a second trimester preganancy and wants that same feeling toward any other child we parent.

He honestly feels that he's compromised in the way he feels toward our adopted son, who is a troubled little hand full. In all honesty, I'm not as bonded iwth Mig as I'd always expected to be. He won't allow it. If we had another adopted child, especially an infant, I think his concerns would evaporate. Still, he's being honest and straightforward with me about current feelings. So, the inquiry we placed about the adorable little boy in Oregon (Dylin on the NWAE website) isn't going to amount to anything.

I'm 41, so we're running out of time to conceive and we've lost a couple of early pregnancies that refused to implant. I don't know what to do at this point without incurring $40k debt. When I think of driving 200miles one way to see a fertility doc, three times a week. Ughhhhh.

[Leigh131313]

oh San, I am so incredibly sorry. You will get through this.

[rjsmom]

stillwaiting - your feelings were good. We have hit the ground running. We had our class meeting on the 14th and were presented with a scenario. Our bio along with another couples (who we know and are fabulous) were sent to the pbparents for saturday delivery. UPS lost the package so it had to be resent and they finally got it tuesday. We got the call late last night that they chose us. So we are going to meet the pbparents saturday. I'm very nervous. She is due August 8th.

Ruth1 - how are you doing?

[mommamarci]

rjsmom- Congratulations!!!!!! I cannot believe it is happening that fast for you. Isn't it bizarre how some poeple who seem wonderful wait for so long and other go so quickly? (That was not meant to imply you are not wonderful. I am just marveling at the randomness of this whole process.) I cannot wait for an update as to how the meeting went.

[rjsmom]

Marci - you and me both. And I know what you meant. The first time seemed like forever and this time I haven't even had time to absorb that we are really doing this.

[swampguy]

We adopted our daughter in 2001.It was through the state,and it took a long 2 years.Two and a half years later,after thinking about doing it again,the phone rang.Do you guys want to adopt her half brother?We did not even know she had a brother,but quickly responded yes.She is now 6 years old and her brother is 4.It was the best thing we ever did.Our family is now complete and all is well.

[intladoptionblog]

I've just posted a blog about this topic over on the international adoptionblog site. Here's the link for that specific post:
<http://international.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/sibling-spacing-when-to-add-a-second-chi>

Seems lots of people are thinking along these lines now. Must be the summer air!