[AMom2Two]

It took me 3 years to get dh to agree to adopt our second child.

The age difference was great for us. Dd was so excited when we bought Ds home. She was a big help. No jealousy. They are very close.

[TickTock]

Prior to us getting Emma we had a little boy for almost 9 months. Emma's adoption was almost a sure thing. In the back of my mind I knew I could not do foster-to-adopt again (too much of a rollercoaster.) Then out of the blue we heard about Katie.....We always knew we wanted more than one- we just didn't think they would only be 3.5 months apart.

[stillwaiting]

tick tock - I can't imagen your life with babies 3.5 mo apart. You must be exhausted and elated all in the same breath.

[Leigh131313]

When are you ready for #2? Hmmm....let me think....we have sent off all of our "stuff" for number two, our son is 2 years old....I'll let you know when I feel we are ready...hopefully by the time the second one is in highschool.

[Lovebug]

Lol...I'm with Leigh! We just submitted all out stuff for number 2 and our DS is 2yrs 4 mos.

--Renee

[SanInUtah]

[quote=stillwaiting]Our son will be two in a few days and my dh and I are on again - off again about adopting another child.


It's been 3 years since we finalized on our son and I swore then 'never again'. Los Angeles County has lunatics and incompetents for social workers. We were lied to about our son's medical and placement histories. I swore I was done!

Now, we live in another state and I'm back to thinking about it. Since I've married now it involves introducing my DH to the expectations and routines. After hearing and seeing what we went through he originally said 'no way' but now we're sending out home studies and looking at online photos. LOL

Kids need siblings. They feel more rooted. The have more happy memories. Parents need to diversify and not put all their expectations on one poor kid. JMO. It's different for everyone, I know.

[lisa in venice]

I thing taht when or IF you will add another child to your family depends on so many things. When Nathan was th only I was sure Iwanted another but I just couldn't handle it until he was two. We began the process for # two just before his second birthday and brought dd home when he was two and a half which was a perfect spacing for them. When Rachel was about two I felt ready for another but there was just too much going on in our lives so we waited another year and stted treatment when she was three and half but it didn't work and we ended up doing a third adoption when she was seven and a half. Not exactly the family I planned but that's IF for you. The minute Sam was in my arms I KNEW that I wanted one more but like what had happened before we were not ready for another for a few years. Miranda came right around Sam's fourth birthday.

I guess in each case I was sure that I wanted another and was never ambivilent about that but the timing was a sticking point. I KNEW with each one that I would regret not adding to our famliy and with the first it was not something I ever gave more then a fleeting thought to. i was not going to raise and only. I am not sane enough to to that, poor kid with no siblings as a buffer. I think that if you are ambivilent it not not something you are ready for There are great advantages of raising an only. only children are much mroe succssful in school in their career and have more advantages in life. Some people do much better with having only one child. My dh and I were talkinga bout that the other day. We have frineds who have onlies and they marvel at the chaos that we live with with not just four kids but four loud rambunctious kids with tons of different activities. Sometimes just juggling all of their stuff is herculean but at the same time the quite simplicty of these people's lives just doesn't sould like much fun. Each of us are happy with our families and it really is jsut a mater of personality.

lisa

[ruth1]

Well, after all this talk, my husband and I sent off the first of our paperwork for an international adoption today! I guess we're ready.

I'm very excited now, and I'm sure you will be hearing more about our journey. I was not a member of this forum when we adopted our first, but I look forward to getting advice from everyone this time around!

Ruth

[stillwaiting]

Ruth!!!!!! We made you adopt again!!!!!!!!! Just kidding! I am so happy it got the wheels spinning for you. I am sure you had it in the works before this post! However, I hope you will continue to share with us!

CONGRATULATIONS

[megaphonemo]

DH and I are both from huge families, and loved every bit of it growing up, so adopting again (and then maybe again after that if we can afford it) is pretty much certain for us... DD is 10 months, and we are thinking of restarting the process in the spring.... DD will be 1.5 then..... But I am not getting any younger, you know??


Congrats on the paperwork!!

Mega

[rjsmom]

This thread made us decide that it was time also.
After a few crazy happenings this past week it hit me that life is too short and I told DH that I was ready (using term loosely) for two. I called the agency and we are going to get started.

Good luck everyone with your decisions!

[bajj]

My dh and I just knew we wanted more than one child. We knew before we even got married. We started the process again when my oldest was almost 2 1/2 and my boys are 3 years and 3 weeks a part in age. Now we're debating, do we add a third and if so, when? It's such a personal decision and there is no right or wrong answer. Each family is different and you guys will decide what is best for you.

You're in my prayers!

[bajj]

Originally Posted by rjsmom

This thread made us decide that it was time also.
After a few crazy happenings this past week it hit me that life is too short and I told DH that I was ready (using term loosely) for two. I called the agency and we are going to get started.

Good luck everyone with your decisions!

Congrats on your decision! I do hope it goes well for you!

[ruth1]

Congratulations rjs mom! Looks like we'll be in this together. We send off a couple big checks tomorrow, so now we're really moving forward.

Are you adopting international or domestic?

Ruth

[stillwaiting]

RJS and Ruth!!! I am so excited for both of you. Please keep us posted on your progress.

Thanks everyone for your responses.