[danimom2005]

Hello i am tryign to adopt a baby she is almost one and i have had her since she was 2 days old. the relinguishment papers were signed when she was a few days old but the word consent was left out so the lady that does this at teh court said it had to be fixed well now the birth mom is pregnant again and involved with some guy who is telling her not to sign the papers and to take the baby back.I know that she can do this but what would she have to do and she also has 3 children in foster care so even if she wanted to could she get this baby back and still live in the county that has prioven her unfit..They have given her her other kids back but always take them back again and they have been in foster care for a little over a year.Any help would be great or advice would be wonderful. My brothers step son is the one that knows this lady and he is trying to tell her to do the right thing. so just pray and ive me any advice possible.

[SchmennaLeigh]

They have given her her other kids back but always take them back again and they have been in foster care for a little over a year.

This sentence is confusing. Her children have been returned to her or they are still in foster care?

If her children have been returned, she has been proven fit and, therefore, I don't see the problem. If they have been returned and taken away again, yes, I would have reservations.

[danimom2005]

sorry about that i am upset and scared and worried and all that what i was tryign to say is in the past they have been giving back to her but DSS always takes them back into foster care and they are still in foster care and her boyfriend tried to stick his nose in adn he is the one tellign her to take this baby and i am just scared that she can but i dont see how if she has 3 children in foster care would dss not take this baby and put her in foster care if this woman tried to take her from her only home.
I am just confused and no that by law she can take the baby but shes never even asked about the baby or acted liek she wanted her until her new bfriend stuck his nose in.he didnt even want the child shes preg with at first . SO someone give me advice pl;ease

[SchmennaLeigh]

If you don't have a lawyer, get one ASAP. Also, I would file a report with the BBB with whomever muffed up the relinquishment papers and left out the word consent. If it is a lawyer, file a complaint with the board.

If the child is eventually taken, I would also advise you to sue whomever is responsible for the negligence of forgetting the word "consent." I'm normally anti-frivolous-lawsuit but this one isn't; someone, somewhere needs to be taught a lesson that they need to cross their t's and dot their i's when it comes to things like this because otherwise, they're messing with people's lives.

That said, fathers can always act adversely to the news of an unplanned pregnancy, even in marriage, so it's not as if his initial reaction makes him unsuited for this child.

[WLD]

danimom2005 - I'm sorry for what you are going through. Definitely, get a lawyer. Have you talked to the bmom yourself or is all the information you have from a second party?

[danimom2005]

Bmom only emailed me to ask me to resend the papers and started tellign me how she had stuff going on and how she was in awreck and misplaced the other papers.but never said anythign about not signing my brother told me abotut his cos they have been talking to her and her boyfriend is the one tellign her not to do this but he isnt her bdad her bdad died in september he wants my baby so he can draw a welfare check but he dotn know his stuff cos if shes unfit to get her 3 kids out of foster care how is he going to get her to take my baby awayf rom me. I have never been proven unfit or had children taken away from me.thar is what makes it so bad and hard cos i have heard from her in a week.i am just not sure what to do but i have an atty who is trying to fix some of this.

[danimom2005]

jutst to let everyone know bmom signed the papers adn sent them to teh atys office adn we are starting the long process of the home study.