[DogMommy]

Hi everyone! We just received word today that we are approved! Now we have to assemble our profile, write our letter and begin to have our profile shown! We are so excited! I am looking forward to having such an awesome group to wait with! I'm interested in what you guys think about baby showers and buying things for baby while you are waiting to be matched?

[adoptmom2be]

Congrats DogMommy

Okay so I know we just got the call on the possible match yesterday but the wait is making me crazy! I am waiting for the cw to send us a pic and the foster mom's number.....sigh - maybe tomorrow.

[midnighttang]

Originally Posted by DogMommy

Hi everyone! We just received word today that we are approved! Now we have to assemble our profile, write our letter and begin to have our profile shown! We are so excited! I am looking forward to having such an awesome group to wait with! I'm interested in what you guys think about baby showers and buying things for baby while you are waiting to be matched?

Congrats! We've been waiting for a short time now, but we had already bought a lot of stuff before the home study. We just got good deals and I am so baby crazy, I couldn't stop shopping. Now we have a nursery and no baby, but I just keep the door closed and I don't look in there. In the begining, I went into the room every day, but I've tried to stop myself. We did get some use out of it while babysitting my niece, though. I know that when the baby eventually arrives, I'll be happy I don't have to get it all ready. I know we're not going to have a shower until the baby arrives. I want my friends to be able to buy the right girl/boy clothing and I don't feel right about having one until we're sure. My friends give me trouble about having everything bought before they get to throw the shower, but I just don't want any of them to spend their money until we're 100% sure.

Congrats to adoptmom2be as well I can't imagine how horrible the wait is for you now. I'm not a very patient person.

[midnighttang]

I just realized after looking at my timeline it's been nearly three months of waiting I hope we get the call soon. We started planning a trip to San Diego a couple weeks ago and that has really helped the time pass. We're leaving in just 2 weeks My boss (who was adopted many years ago) told me that her parents got the call for her when they were on vacation and they had to rush home, so maybe the same thing will happen to us. I'm not counting on it though. On the other hand, babies do tend to make appearances at unusual times. We can only hope.

[kittymom]

I'm in a mopey mood lately on the adoption front. We've been waiting six months now. I am surrounded by pregnant people, and next month I have to attend the baby shower of my 15-year-old cousin, who said she wanted to place her baby with us but is now keeping it. (I support her choice to keep the baby, of course, but it still adds another layer of depressingness to the shower.)

For some reason, I had it in my head we'd have our child this summer, but it's looking less likely. *Sigh* I need something to snap me out of feeling sorry for myself. I was hoping my DH and I could take a trip to Ireland in June, but we've had some unexpected expenses this spring that make it not such a great idea anymore. Blah. I just want my kid. I want to stop preparing to be a mom and just get started being one!

[Daisy1339]

Kittymom - I could have written your post. I am feeling the exact same way and have been waiting just as long as you guys have.

Every now and then the wait really gets to me, too, and right now it's pretty intense. We are considering going with an additional agency in August and last night we went to a "required" info meeting with one of them. First of all, I'm annoyed that we HAD to attend, since we went to it 2 years ago, but the SW said, "No, no, our policies have changed in 2 years, so you have to go". Guess what? Not a single difference. No shocking or remarkably different change. Two hours wasted. Second of all, if we choose them it will be 6 months before we're even on their books. There's more classes (which we've taken with our current agency, but "they don't count") and big fat profile/homestudy and a video, etc.

I'm so sick of the hoops. I really am. I could have run that info meeting and fielded all of the questions, no problem.

I hate that I'm a veteran of the adoption process.

Sorry for the venom. I'm just really low today.

[midnighttang]

Kittymom, I know where you're coming from. This Saturday I am going to a barbeque with 4 other couples. Three of them are pregnant with their second child and one will be bringing her new baby, also her second. I do love the kids and I like being an "aunt", but it's hard being around so many pregnant women and all these children 2 and under who have been concieved and born since my husband and I started trying. The worst is when I have to listen to my friend talk about how long it took her to get pregnant the first time (a whopping 8 months). Sorry for the rant. I guess I'm just getting frustrated, too.

[brooklyn_girl]

I can completely relate to how you ladies are feeling. It's just so hard! I have started looking into finding a therapist to talk to so I can vent to someone and work through my feelings. Hoping that will help while we wait.

[stilldeciding]

I feel for all of you who love kids and have to wait for a child. I had 3 years of infertility with my DH being medically sterile. We went through all the hoops and though I am in great shape reproductive wise..we wasted thousands of dollars to conceive...I was 20 years old when I was TTC..so I think it was worse, as I was young and healthy yet still nothing. We finally gave up ttc and since we couldn't get pregnant we used no birth control. We ended up at my church and long story short I got prayed over. When it was all said and done..it took me 3 years to get pregnant and weeks later I M/C, then 3 short weeks later I got pregnant again. Surprise...we did it on our own, no meds, no docs..nothing. Then when we wanted a second child....I was pregnant after literally ONE time together with DH. Do NOT give up even when the wait is long. I DO believe miracles can and will happen. But in Gods timing. I am now awaiting a match through adoption and still may go for another bio child if it doesn't work out. But I believe whatever God's will is for you WILL happen. I know for us, we should NOT have kids but we do. It was a miracle and a surprise when it happened, to this day I marvel at my boys and think...how did we ever have kids at all? Its still a shock. So none of you EVER give up! Things will work out for ALL of you. I am sending good wishes all your way. You deserve to be happy and you will have your child...just have faith! If It can happen for me, I know it can happen for all of you! God Bless!

[SoBayMama]

Hello, I am new to these boards, but DH and I have been waiting for a while. We have two bio sons, ages 8 and 12.
We went to an adoption event back in February, and expressed interest in several of the children we met there, particuarly a pair of sisters, ages 7 and 8. They hugged us when we said good-bye, and I cried on the way home, because I wanted to take them home that day. I cried again when we were told that they were being placed with another family.

BUT...

We just found out that we are being considered for placement with them! Apparently the placement did not work out. Our social worker and the girls' worker have agreed, we are just waiting for supervisor approval! We first took our classes two years ago, so we are so excited that it is finally going to happen!

[adoptmom2be]

Yeah SoBayMama - will you have to do more visits with them?

[Lolley33]

Originally Posted by SoBayMama

BUT...

We just found out that we are being considered for placement with them! Apparently the placement did not work out. Our social worker and the girls' worker have agreed, we are just waiting for supervisor approval! We first took our classes two years ago, so we are so excited that it is finally going to happen!

AWESOME! SoBayMama, that is great news!

[maddie036]

SoBayMama - maybe it was meant to be - that is wonderful!!

DogMommy - congratulation on being approved! I have just purchased a couple of things - one pack of diapers and some onesies. We have been waiting for 9 months so far, so in retrospect, I am glad that I didn't go too crazy yet.

[SoBayMama]

Originally Posted by adoptmom2be

Yeah SoBayMama - will you have to do more visits with them?

If we are approved (which we will know by the end of the week) we will still have to do some visits, but we are hoping that because they seemed to take so well to us when we met that it won't be too many before they can move in.

Now that it is so close, the waiting feels even harder. I feel like these girls are meant to be our daughters, and I spend much of the day wondering what they are doing, where they are, and if they are ok. Now that my dream has names and faces, my patience is running out! I want them home with me!

I think maybe the timing is going to work out perfectly. Because I am a teacher, I will have the whole summer off to bond!

[JDS98]

We were matched (through an agency pick) with a emom on the 15th. In her paperwork she had claimed that the bfather new about the pregnancy and the adoption plan. They are still together and possibly living together, although i don't know that for sure. Well the social worker couldn't get a hold of her b/c her number was no longer listed so decided to just show up at her house yesterday to see what was going on. She was knocking on the door when both the emom and bdad pulled into the driveway. She got a new number for them and set up to come back on saturday to meet with them (to do an evaluation on their decision). The counselor says that she got the feeling that the bdad had no idea what was going on. I hope that maybe he was just caught off guard and didn't know how to respond. But of course now I am concerned that maybe she's not being 100% truthful with the agency. I want to believe that everything will be fine in the end but i also don't want to set myself up for disappointment. Of course we will continue on but i like to guard myself too.