[bandareed]

I'm still rather new to this site. I've posted a few times here and there, some mentioning my adoptive DD's bio sibs; 2 year old twin girls. The bfamily lost 5 children through TPRs. I've lived in fear for the twins safety. They were finally removed 10 days ago. Sadly, today I found out that they were returned to the parents. The judge didn't feel that there was enough evidence.

I do believe that people can, and do often change. This is not such a circumstance. The girls are already showing signs of severe neglect. And the bmom had told me many things that are of great concern.

The bfamily knows that I have made a report(s) to the authorities, so I will no longer have contact with them. I don't think that the girls will be removed again. The family lives in a remote area and the type of abuse and neglect that the girls experience is very hard to prove.

Today, has been a devastating day for me. After two years, I feel that it is over. I have to face the fact that I can not save them. BTW, many past social workers and the other families that adopted the siblings have all advocated for the removal of these girls.

I just wanted to take a moment to share. This community has been a blessing to me though this.

[Linny]

You have my sympathies.

We have been where you are; and come, as you have, to the conclusion that there is only so much you can do. (The system DOES stink, doesn't it!?!?!)

God Bless you for trying. (((HUGS)))

Sincerely,

Linny

[intladoptionblog]

This is a crying shame...

[Fran27]

This is so sad!!! This system indeed stinks...

[hotspice58]

Sending cyber hugs and prayers your way!!!! Keep crying!!!

[mac1227]

My heart goes out to you. The first adoption that we went through fell through. The bmom decided to keep her. Four years later, I was reading the news paper to find that she had left her daughter home alone with a younger sibling and their trailer caught on fire. I still wonder today, what would have become of that child had the bmom given her to us.

[bandareed]

Thank you all for your kind words. I had hoped that my DD's sisters would grow up in my home. And have contact with thier other birth siblings, as my DD does. However, I could have accepted them being placed in another safe home. Just knowing how they are living now and that they are not safe is killing me. I know the system is not perfect. Boy, it's hard when it effects someone you care about!

Thanks again for the support. I'm trying hard to have faith that the family has "changed" and the girls will be fine.

-B

[bandareed]

Mac-

How awful! It's that kind of thing that I fear. Thank you for sharing. It helps hearing that I'm not the only one that has gone though this.... I know that I'm not, just feels like it, out here in the "real world" where friends and family don't have any experience like this.

[redribbonrose]

Four years later, I was reading the news paper to find that she had left her daughter home alone with a younger sibling and their trailer caught on fire.

Mac that is terrible! We had a failed match, bmom decided to raise the baby with the man who raped her 12 year old daughter. I still think about that little boy and pray that he doesn't get abused.

To wonder is tough, but to know about something like a fire.... my heart aches for those babies and for you.

Bandareed, thanks for caring for those children. I hope they are okay and that there might be a glimmer of hope that the mom decides to be a real parent.