[AMom2Two]

Originally Posted by KristineM

So did you buy the birthmother of your child/children gifts prior to the adoption being finalized? If so, what?

no....we did not.

[definitelyjulia]

Both the agencies we're working with said it was ok. It's not like we bought them a car or anything. LOL Just small things. But having said that I would definitely check with the state or states you're adopting from. I wouldn't want to put the adoption in jeopardy over something like special treats or gifts.

[gottahavehope]

We have also gotten small gifts for our pbm. I made her a cd, got her some lotions, some maternity clothes. I also sent her a copy of When Harry Met Sally-after I found out she never saw it. How could I not-that is a must see for every woman. We've been matched since she was 8 weeks, so holidays and stuff came up. Plus, we are both surprise gift givers by nature, so we have fun sending each other little, fun stuff. She actually sends us gifts as well. She sent us a wall hanging for the nursery, and a little outfit for the baby with bibs that say I love Mommy and Daddy.As long as there not excessive, our lawyer said these things are fine. We got an engraved locket and a picture frame book to give to her at the hospital. She has already told us she has surprise gifts for us as well. I know that she got my husband a onsie that says, hands down-best dad around since father's day is in June. There is a space for the baby's handprints to go on it. So, we are going to do see if the nurses will help us do the baby's handprints when we are at the hospital and surprise my husband. I don't think it is necessary to get something and really depends on your relationship and overall comfort level.