[Emster]

We're three days from estimated time of Baby Boy's arrival, and I have heard nothing. I didn't expect to get much, since we don't have open communication with pbm. I called the agency worker two days ago and did not get a call back, so I called again this morning...she's out of the office. I'm trying not to drive them nuts...I know they have lots of things to do. And I don't have fears that things are going awry. I just want to know what to expect, how things are progressing, what will the hospital plan be..etc... If there is no news, I want to know there is no news.

I have nested almost as much as I can, I have all my daycare and insurance lined out. I am working solely to fulfill my obligation here at work, but am basically here in body only Not very productive, to say the least.

Anyone else out there on pins and needles?



I realize I can't MAKE this baby come, but I just want some form of contact with someone. So guys

[ourdreamcametru]

Hey EM, just wanted to let you know you're being thought of! Keep us posted and we'll keep you and yours in our prayers.

Kelley

[StorkWatcher]

Em, we're thinking of you. I remember those frustrating no call-backs from the agency right when the adoptive parents are going so nuts! Hang in there. No news at this point doesn't mean anything bad is happening. The Bmom is probably going crazy, too, w/ the impending birth and is just trying to find things to do for the next 3 days, just like you!

There's not much to do but keep as busy as possible. Maybe you could go out to eat somewhere special the next few nights (they could be your last for a LONG while) or run any extra errands outside the home. Do you have friends or family you could drop in on? I thought the staying at home part was the hardest for me the last day.

[moonbeam23]

I'm right where you are, Emster, except my pbmom is due in a couple of weeks, and I haven't heard from her in a few days. My mind starts going crazy and doubting, and it's insane. Wow that's exciting for you, the due date is so close. I am sure you will hear something very soon. Hang in there. My stomach is in knots too!

[BlessedBe]

Bless your heart! I'm back at work now and today I was just thinking about those last few days of work before I left know that C was going to be induced - I totally shouldn't have been at work, much less allowed to get behind the wheel of a car in those last few days.

I'm thinking of you and praying the days fly by until baby comes!!!

Hang in there!

[double r]

Emster,

Hey congrats. I have been there and can totally relate to them not calling you back. Where is the baby being delivered? If it is where the agency is located, I can give you great places to eat and shop. Just email me.

My best suggestion is keep busy. Do all those things that you won't be able to do when the baby arrives.
Go to a movie.
Go out to dinner at a nice place or a bar where you can't bring kids.
Get your hair or nails done.
Have a massage.
Go shopping for spring clothes.

Once the little one arrives, these things will be a luxury.

Thoughts and prayers. Keep us posted.

[saxxxy]

Hi Emster,

Wow, the memories you bring back. I remember sitting at work exactly two years ago today and thinking the very same thoughts. Every day I would pack up and leave like I would not be returning for two months.
What a wonderfully exciting time for you. My daughter turns two one week from Sunday.

I agree with a post above, no news is probably good news at this point. Hang in there.

[alwaysus]

I made and froze food.. dinners and cookies etc... I knew that spare time would be a rare thing once Elijah came. I, forall intents and purposes"nested" I went NUTS the last few days before Elijah was born. I jumped out of my skin everytime the phone rang. I checked to make sure the dial tone was working etc... My Dh was ready to have me sedated. I didn't sleep, I paced.I was so nervous I ( sorry) kept throwing up.If life were fair, I should have lost 20 pounds that week!
It seems hard, but boy it's worth the wait!
Good luck!
Keep us posted!

[joskids]

5 weeks ago I was you. Our baby was born 3 days early but birthmom took an extra week b4 she was ready to sign surrender papers so it was a very difficult time. More difficult than I thought it would be and we've done this 4 times now. Ugh. My thoughts and sympathies are with you. Once your baby is with you, it's like labor pains, you really do forget. So consider yourself in labor and stay strong.

Josie

[Guspiv]

Last year I was you. Our son was overdue and we had not heard from the agency. Just keep in mind that at this point potential birthmom is very uncomfortable and probably not feeling to great, so she may not be making phone calls. I would keep trying to keep in touch with the agency and maybe they can call and check on her for you if you dont have a line of communication with her. Other than that, all you can do is wait.

[Emster]

I was able to get in touch with the sw yesterday afternoon to at least hear that there was no news. PBM has been keeping a low profile, so next contact will just be the call telling us she's headed for the hospital. All tests came back as planned--no drugs, no hiv, no surprises. All will be well, I just needed to know the sw remembered we were here...
I'm just to the point where I've passed off all my work and now I don't want to start new things, etc. I just want to see that little baby boy's little face!

Thanks for all your replies of understanding and support. I can't wait to tell you all how everything works out!

[Oliver1]

Just wanted to add my 2 cents regarding things we did to help pass time and stay sane.

1. Purchased a special "coming home" outfit for baby.

2. Created a CD of songs that meaningful and fun for us. Made one for the Bmom and the baby too.

3. Wrote a letter to baby to give to her when she was older. Just about how we were feeling, what we were thinking, what we were doing, and things we thought would be powerful for her to read.

[Guspiv]

I am glad that you have recieved at least an update. I know it is very hard when you are waiting for that call, but still going to work because you dont want to waste any of your days off sitting home, mind as well get paid for it
Please keep us updated. And keep in mind that just because she isn' calling in to the social worker does not mean that she has decided to parent. It is a very difficult and sensitive time. Hopefully your sw will keep you up to date with all progress even if the potiential birthmom calls to say, "hey I'm still pregnant just wanted you to know. Every little contact helps
Hang in there.