[KristineM]

Well everyone, it seems to me that this was quite possibly a hoax that the birthmother had made up. She was supposed to forward the email that she received from the birthfather to me and she never did. I spoke with her last night and she said that she had accidently deleted the email. She could not tell me exactly what the email said, she said that it was from an annonymous sender. That it had no email address attached to it and that the IT guys from the US Army could not trace it. I am thinking that she may have been testing the waters seeing how far she could push the hoax and seeing just how we would react. Or it could be that she is thinking of trying to get our daughter back. I don't know at this point... what do you guys think??

What would you all do at this point?

[Tudu]

My daughter's mother made alot of off the wall claims in the begining. We heard weird stuff, it was her way of dealing. She made up quite a few doozies. She still has a need for drama and will call with strories, now they are about her other children and boyfriend. It can be hard to tell when to get fired up and when to just listen. When she is clean the drama dies out a little.

[MissyB9479]

The birthfather is getting married soon, correct? It could be possible that she felt threatened by his marriage and wanted to do something to try and make him look bad in your eyes? The old saying is hurting people hurt people.

[Kimmisue]

I reply with Missy. I'd move on and put it behind you. I would definitely stay guarded when it comes to things she says just in case. I'm glad it's a hoax though. Better to have this problem than the other. IMO


Kim

[AwaitingBeloved]

Wow, Kristine, I'm sorry this happened at all. I'm relieved thinking it may have been a hoax, but not convinced it's the end of it even if it was. I would stay guarded in the since that I'd really watch what I say to the birthmom for awhile. If she is so desperate to make these kinds of waves, I would just be weary of what I share with her, at least until she earns your trust back. And I hope she's getting some counseling, but that's not your responsibility.

[KristineM]

I agree with you, and we are going to be wary of her for a while.

[Jensboys]

You know, I might be tempted to mention this to bdad because NOW who knows what she is telling HIM about you. It might be best to eliminate the middle man!

Jen

[AdrienneG]

Id respond to her the same way I'd respond to anyone else who thought they could play games with me. I tend to deal with people by whether they are an adult or a child doing this but I do not jump in and join their drama.

[Lexie]

It certainly sounds like she made it up and I would be extremely cautious in my relationship with her going forward. Anyone that would make up something so serious has no integrity. I find it appalling