[Guspiv]

Ok so Gavin has been sick off and on for about a month. Between a cold and new teeth coming in. Anyway so a couple of nights when he is extra pitiful he has slept with us, or with on of us in the spare bedroom because he tries to take up the whole bed. Anyway, I am really at my wits end because now the little booger will NOT sleep in his crib

Last night I spent 2 HOURS trying to get him to sleep in his crib. I tried everything. Letting him cry for a 1/2 straight, picking him up putting him down, staying in the room, PHYSCIALLY LEANING OVER THE CRIB AND HOLDING HIM DOWN for like 20 minutes. He was very tired I tried taking him back downstairs and refusing to hold him, he was content to lay on the floor and fall asleep.
I dont know what to do, he can be fast asleep and we lay him in the crib and he SCREAMS!!!!!!!!! Do I need a new crib mattress? Please any suggestions will be helpful.

Please suggestions PLEASE!

[NJNative]

"I dont know what to do, he can be fast asleep and we lay him in the crib and he SCREAMS!!!!!!!!! Do I need a new crib mattress? Please any suggestions will be helpful."


Nope. He just got used to sleeping with you and now he doesn't like to be alone. Can you possibly gate his room and let him fall asleep on the floor if necessary? I went through this with my son when he was sick once. I sat in the rocking chair in his room and read a book. I wanted to be as boring as possible. He fell asleep on the floor eventually (I gave him a few small toys and books to play with and a bottle.) This went on for maybe three nights. The next night I put him in his crib and he was fine. Slept in the crib happily til he was past two and cried when we moved his "cribbie" out and his big boy bed in.

Hang in there -- sometimes toddlers seem like aliens from another galaxy and you can't for the life of you figure out what they want!

Robin

[melon161]

Oh, this brings me back to the good old days.

You don't need a new crib matress, he just wants to sleep with you. When my son was sick at about 11 months we let him sleep with us for two days and he is now going to 2 in march and still sleeps with us. It only takes 1 or 2 days for them to realize it's much better sleeping with you then it is sleeping alone. LOL

As I said, my son is still sleeping with us so obviously I haven't worked hard enough to get him in his own bed so unfortunately I have no advice, I just wanted to let you know that you weren't alone and you DON'T need a new crib matress.

Stacy

[momofmykids]

Have you tried Supernanny's approach? Put him in his bed and you sit in the floor in his room with your head down. No eye contact, no talking to him, just sit there. I've never had this problem, but it seemed to work on the Supernanny show!

[saxxxy]

I had the same problem with my daughter right around her first birthday. She would be fast asleep, put her in the crib, wide awake and screaming. UUGG

We also had a twin bed in her room so I would pull her out of the crib and lay on the twin bed with her. She would go right back to sleep.

I found that she would go to bed just fine on the twin, but not the crib. I packed up the crib and graduated her to the twin bed with a railing.

That was a year ago. She still doesn't sleep great through the night, but she gets earaches, and new teeth, etc... etc..

[LisaCA]

this may be unpopular, but you might want to just stick him in his crib and walk away, no going back to hug and soothe, whatever. He's feeling crappy and taking advantage of that (hey, that's what I do too ). he'll be fine, he won't die of crying too much, etc. he will exhaust himself and go to sleep. we did that with dd who hated to sleep in her crib. she'd start off there but cry when she awoke and demand to be cuddled. tiring of this lovely routine, we then forced her to stay put. let her wake up, cry and cry herself to sleep. She caught on rapidly and doesn't want to sleep with us.

just a thought.

Lisa

[michellemartin]

I'd get into the shower when at my wits end listening to Karma cry. She didn't like sleeping in her bed when she was about 10 months old.

One night, I was really really tired and put her into her carseat (not strapped in) and put that in her crib. It actually worked. She liked going for car rides and I think the car seat soothed her enough... for ME to get sleep .

[AdrienneG]

Dont laugh at me, but did you try Hylands homeopathic teething pills and a warm mist humidifer in his room?

[Lovebug]

We graduated DS to a twin bed, too...it honestly worked like a charm. he hated his crib and LOVES his bed. He was aboout 14 mos when we did it...he is 2 now.

--Renee

[kelleymac]

It's gut-wrenching to hear them cry, but we had to let Jonah cry too. When he's sick and we have to wake with him for meds, etc. he gets into that routine and we have a night or two of fussiness before he settles in again.

Each time it's easier, and he will not sleep with us now, which is okay since he's a terrific sleeper in his own bed.

Hang in there, this too shall pass.

Kelley

[sugarbabysmommy]

We used to have these same struggles, and we too let babe fall asleep on the floor and move babe to the crib. What helped the transition, flannel sheets, they helped the matress feel warmer. We also let babe fall asleep in our bed and then hubby (not me!) would move babe to the crib. Crazy, but it worked like a charm. If I moved babe, babe would surely wake up and demand my attention, if hubby did it all was good.

My hubby used to sing and gradually go to sleep on the floor when babe would protest, hubby is able to sleep pretty much anywhere so he would be snoring away, and eventually babe would lie down and go to sleep. I couldn't go into the room, all hell would break loss (Mama! Mama! etc), but at the same time we wanted to babe to know we where there so hubby got the duty. And yes, I am a stay at home mom and he works, but this worked better and made the episodes shorter, plus a happy and healthy mommy the next day was a good mommy, and that good for both hubby and baby.

Good luck

[Lexie]

We had a futon on the floor and we would sleep next to my ds when he was 9-15mos and he would fall asleep with us and then we would get up and leave him on the futon for the rest of the night. You could also try letting him fall asleep in your bed and moving him when he is good and asleep.

Hang in there--
Lexie

[Luv]

Okay i though i was just living a losing battle apparently i am very much not alone! ds was hospitalized with breathing problems when we brought him home of course he slept with us i was afraid that he would have trouble breathing and i wouldnt be able to hear him.......that was two months ago and he hasnt left my bed since i put him in his bed and he doesnt make a fuss but when i wake in the morning or middle of night guess who is there? i will certainly try some of your techniques, thanks!

luv

[StacyM]

It's not just you... I know it's hard, we have the same issue at times. My little one was sick this past week, just a minor cold, but it throws her out of whack and she is really clingy. It was to the point that I couldn't do anything without her. She normally sleeps really well in her crib at night and for naps, but was in bed with us for four nights and I couldn't lay her down for a nap...had to sleep with me holding her, or not at all. She too would cry and cry and not calm down.

It's happened to us before also when she is teething. It's exhausting, but I just decide that when she doesn't feel well to give her the extra cuddling she needs. She has always gotten over it...and has been back in her crib the last two nights.

Has he done this before, or is it new behavior? My guess is that he will get over it in time. Also, you didn't mention, but does he have a lovey...something he likes to cuddle with in his crib? I've found this works wonders! It sort of replaces the need to cuddle with mom, or dad. M loves hers and it helps her relax and get ready for bed too.

Good luck...let me know how it goes!
S

[traceyk]

Umm, I probably am odd person out, but what's wrong with him sleeping with you? We co-sleep and love it If it's bed size you could always get a bigger bed. Have you tried Calms Forte for Children? You can get it at Wild Oats and Whole Foods.