[March]

We are going to adopt a baby girl due in early March through an open adoption. The birthmom gave up her 3 month old daughter in June so we have been foster parents to her since then. The babies will be half sisters. Mom is planning on taking the 9 month old back and sharing custody with the grama (the Dad's mom).

I know this is confusing.....

Anyway, birthmom and birthdad (no longer a couple) would like us at the birth etc.and to take the baby home from the hospital with us and will be considered foster care until the adoption is complete.

We have alot of history with birthmom and are happy to have an open adoption.

We would like to do something nice for her at the hospital in terms of a gift. Any ideas?? We are working through our county and not an agency any ideas are much appreciated. I would love to hear from others who have gone through an open adoption and what your involvement was in the labor room etc.

Thanks!

March

[Hopp]

We will be in the delivery room as well. My plan is to be there for birthmom as she has NEVER (4 other deliveries) had anyone with her. She is excited to "have a friend with her" and that delights me. I plan to be low key, make sure she has what she needs and then see the baby born. My DH has told "G" that he would love to be there (as she invited him), but he wants her to officially make that call once labor starts. He feels she may change her mind about having a guy in the room.

I plan to give G a silver necklace with a cross on it. I have a matching one for the baby. when our child is old enough to understand and take care of it, they will have their matching necklace. I wanted her to always feel connected to us and her baby. We are all strong Christians and she feels (as do we) it was God who brought us together. That seemed to be an appropriate tie to give both her and the baby a cross.

After the delivery and until she is discharged, I plan to be with her as much as she wants me so she doesn't feel abandoned once the baby is born. That's very important to me because we just love G dearly.

Anyway, hope that helps.

[March]

Thanks so much for the quick reply-this was my first post!


I LOVE the idea of a matching cross necklace for birthmom and baby!!

When is your baby due?

Have you adopted other kids?

Thanks,
March

[Hopp]

Our little bundle is due in February. There seems to be come confusion as to when G is really due. So, it could be the first to the middle part of February.

We have no other children, although I'm a youth minister and the 50 kids I work with all say they are our "kids." I have to agree since "our" 16 Senior High Youth are at our house regularly. They are great, and can't wait for the baby.

I'm excited for you! Go to the thread that says Feb. & March Adoptions and join our group. We are keeping up with each other and it's been fun. THere are some moms on there that became parents in Feb/March of '05. They have given us some great stories to look forward to.

Glad you are here. Blessings!

[my2miracles]

I gave my daughter's bmom a necklace with a heart charm. The heart was actually 3 hearts entwined as one.

I explained to her that the the 3 hearts represented me, her and our eternal bond & love for the same beautiful baby.