[mommieof2cuties]

I have to add that I am concerned that she wanted to eat! I am someone who even as a child would get up in the middle of the night and eat a sandwich or cereal...I was not fat or overweight as a child not until I got married! LOL But I am someone who needs to eat often (the right food that is) so maybe new daughter is also someone who needs to eat again before bed? I hope everything starts to fall into place as you both learn about each other.

God Bless,
Summer

[Bassette]

Originally Posted by twinsbk

Congrats on your new daughter ... while consistency can be so important, just as important is flexibility and the ability for the child to come to you with problems

Bravo! Fantastic advice.

I haven't read replies and don't know if this has already been mentioned but my first thought was that the behavior doesn't fit her declaration of being hungry. Perhaps her fit was over something else, like her fear of being in a new home with a new family. Stating that it was simply hunger may have been her way of not having to share her real feelings and motivations with you. A cop out of sorts, but really who can blame her for not wanting to share her most intimate feelings with someone she just met recently. I think she deserves alot of flexibility and understanding right now. At age 9 she needs time to adjust to her new life, new rules, new parents etc. Just a thought. Hang in there with her. If she just came to you she is full of confusion and emotions.

[mommieof2cuties]

Just wondering if you have an update for us?

God Bless,
Summer

[OSUMommy]

Hi! I am new to this site and hope to learn alot. We adopted a child at age 5 and now she is 9. Crying spells and tantrums are a constant even though we all are working hard on curing the problem. We have counselor, etc... Our daughter has a strong need for control after all she has been through and while part of it might be her personality, I think the adoption was quite traumatic and she is fearful she will be given away again so she tries to stay in control. We talk alot about it. So hang in there with what you are experiencing. It may go with the territory of adopting.

That being said, she never needs to eat after dinner but our natural son has a high metabolism and has to eat often so it may take some careful analysis. Hang in there!

OSUMommy

[mommieof2cuties]

just wanted to say hello...was hoping for an update

God Bless,
Summer