[simplywaiting]

I've been reading posts for a while but this will be my first post. My husband and I are going to meet a birthmom in about a half an hour. She has already given birth, but we haven't been given many details from the agency about her or the baby. We are both very nervous since we have only had the chance to meet one other birth couple before, and they chose another couple.

All your prayers and thoughts in the next hour or so would be greatly appreciated! I will let you know how it goes.



Vicky

[quiescentfury]

My prayers are with you. Good Luck and I hope the meeting goes great!! You have to update us after.

Maureen

[Acolo]

I just said a little prayer for you hoping that it goes well and that no matter the outcome you and your husband feel good about it. Good luck! Hope it goes smoothly!!! Let us know as soon as you can!

[ourdreamcametru]

Our prayers are going up as we speek! I know this is a stressful thing but remember, if it's meant to be it will be!
Please update us as soon as possible.

[simplywaiting]

Well I think it went well. It was just the birthmom and her 5 year old there. She was a very sweet girl and my heart was breaking for her. I read all the time about the bittersweetness of people's adoptions, but you really don't understand it till you meet that birthmom who is dealing with so many emotions and guilty feelings. She broke down a couple of time while we chatted and I just wanted to sit down next to her, hug her and cry with her...of course I didn't want her to think I was some freaky overly emotional woman either!! I can not even imagine how difficult it must be for her. I just hope that I helped her feel a little better about her decision, no matter what she decides on. I tried to make sure that she understood that I would never promise her anything that I couldn't and wouldn't keep, and that I wanted to know what she was looking for when it came to the openness of the adoption. Now we just wait to hear from the Agency.

Vicky

[quiescentfury]

Vicky is this to adopt the 5 year old or another child that she has?

[simplywaiting]

This is to adopt a baby she just had the mid to end of December. She wants an open adoption so that her 5 year old will know their sibling.

Vicky

[quiescentfury]

Good Luck. I hope you hear from your agency soon. This must be a very exciting and nerve recking day for you. Is the pbmom interviewing other families? How soon would the placement be if she choose your family? This has to be so hard for her. You sound like you were very understanding and supportive. I am praying that you hear something soon. Keep us updated!!


Maureen

[AwaitingBeloved]

Hi Vicky,
I just saw your post.

This sounds very promising for you, and as you said, heartbreaking for the pbmom and her five year old.

I am praying for you and all involved in this so that what is meant to be will be and whatever that is all will find healing in it's wake.

I really hope you have great news soon.

Good luck, Vicky!

[simplywaiting]

Well just got a call from the Agency. She likes us very much. I hope I am not jinxing us by saying that. As I said earlier, she is very emotional right now and feeling very guilty. From the sounds of it, she is still weighing her choices between parenting and adoption, but likes our openness for the open adoption. So my prayers are with her right now to be able to sort out her feelings and guilt, and be able to decide what is right for her and her baby. Should she decide to place I suppose it could be any day now. The baby is at a foster mom for babies through the Agency. The SW said she should know more tomorrow. I believe she saw at least one other couple if not 3 all together. I think we must have been the most understanding and open, and we actually got her to chuckle a couple times, so I think she found us personable and friendly.

So I will continue to pray for her and this very difficult decision.

Vicky

[AwaitingBeloved]

Vicky, my prayers are continuing for you all as well! I hope this is the one! It does sound good... and it's good that she is feeling the sadness, too. I think it's important in dealing with her grief. And maybe she's being realistic with her expectations regarding her grief and loss. It is so hard to feel so good at someone else's sorrows, but I think for her, it's possible that she will find peace in knowing that she's picked a good family if she moves forward with this.

Good news by the sounds of it. :-)

[gregorysparents]

Vicky,

My thoughts and prayers are with you, your family, the birth mom and most importantly, this little baby.

May you receive some good news soon!!!

Christina

[taramayrn]

Vicky,
Wow, what a whirlwind. I will be praying for this mom and for you and your family. Keep us updated!!

[mommieof2cuties]

My thoughts are with you also Is the baby a boy or a girl? If she picks you how soon will you get to meet the baby? My thoughts are also with your pbmom at this time and her five year old.

God Bless,
Summer

[simplywaiting]

I believe the baby is a boy. I didn't want to get into too much detail about the baby because it was obvious it hurt for her to talk of him. My husband and I obviously don't care whether it is a boy or a girl. I am not sure when we would actually be able to take him home if she proceeds with her adoption plan. Our Agency is not the most forthcoming with information, it is more of a need to know basis and apparently we do not need to know. But I have got the impression it could be at any time, they could call us and say come pick up the baby. So I am just waiting, trying not to get too excited or attached yet, but with baited breath...


I just keep praying that the birthmom is able to be at peace with her decision, whichever it may be.

Vicky