[celebratewewill]

sometimes it helps me get through hard times by hearing about successful stories...so i was wondering if any of you could help me out here. it doesn't have to be a perfectly happy story, maybe just one that ends well. anything is helpful. i am bouncing back and forth between anger, sadness and hope...and i was wondering if you could help me out with the hope part. thanks in advance.

tina

[ALI143]

I've gotta happy story that still hasn't ended.

My hubby and I were blessed with two bio. children and we decided we really liked children. A number of reasons later we decided we'd adopt our next one or two probably from China. My youngest was turning four soon and I felt ready for that next child. We researched and found that an older child adoption through our state would be great for us. We learned about EVERYTHING we could and thought it's not as scary as we thought it could be. We went to classes and the set backs started happening. Workers sick, switching workers, a new guy that knows less then us, getting passed over for kids because he forgot to send in our paper work!!! (Even more set backs but I'm starting to lose the point of my happy story)
So I was fed up with it all and I went to his office and I looked in his book of available children and I saw a nine month old. My heart recognized her and I said she's the last one I'll ever apply for. If she's not mine then I'll never trust my intuition again. Well, I got chose for her (after a few more worker set backs) and she's here right now on my lap and I have never been more right in my life. She's PERFECT for us in every single way!!!!!

I had a plan and it didn't work out. I didn't know why till I got her. I heard once that the way to make God laugh is to tell Him your plans for life.

I don't know what you are going through right now, but I can tell you in the year in a half waiting I went through all the emotions you described and more. People always kept encouraging me that it'll happen soon enough, but I really thought they were full of it!

[jtraut28]

We started the adoption process in Nov of 2003 and FINALLY brought our baby home in June of 2005. We had one failed adoption, we backed out of an adoption, our agency was unresponsive at best and there were many many many days and nights that I spent in tears wondering if I would EVER be a mother. I considered that maybe it just wasn't in my cards to be a mom. I considered living a "childless life" and tried to convince my husband that that might just be what we have to do.
I tried my best to keep my spirits up, but every holiday and lots of days in between I would come crashing down in total despair with these thoughts of defeat, uncertainty, and helplessness. And then there was light....she is 2 years old, and the absolute joy and soul and all great things in my life. There are absolutely no words to describe the feelings I have when I hold her, look at her, watch her sleep, and when she looks up at me and says, "miss" which means kiss and "fqueeze" which means she wants a squeeze and she says a hundred times a day that most precious precious word, "MOMMY". It brings tears to my eyes that I ever in a million years considered giving up. The joy is unexplainable. No matter how many times someone tells you "it's worth it" you can not possibly know the meaning of that until you've trudged through it and have your child in your arms. It will happen. There is no doubt. If you want it, it will happen. Hang in there and don't ever ever ever let your hope die. Someone needs you to hang in there. Someone who will call you Mommy. Blessings to you this holiday season.

[MMC66]

Addy's adoption went super smooth without a single glitch. We first heard about her bmom in August of 2004 just a few weeks after we had completed all our paperwork and homestudy and she chose us about a week after we first talked on the phone.

She lived several states away and was due the end of October. We talked every couple of weeks in the beginning, then weekly and sometimes more frequently as time went on. i had a couple of panic moments - one when I suggested that I come meet her prior to the birth, I think the idea freaked her out a little and I was afraid I'd blown the whole thing. But she decided she wanted a visit, I went and it was wonderful. The other panic moment was when we didn't hear from her and couldn't reach her for several days toward the end of her pregnancy. I was conviced, she had changed her mind and we would never hear from her again. Turns out she was exhausted and was tired of people calling her so she turned off her phone for some peace and quiet

She was scheduled to be induced on Oct 21 so I headed out on the 19th. I took her shopping for groceries to fill her frig and some stuff for the hospital. She ended up going into labor on her own the night of the 20th and Addy was born at 1:00pm on the 21st - just perfect and beautiful. I was the first to hold her in the delivery room and I spent the next 24 hours by bmom's side in her room taking care of her and Addy. They were both discharged the next day. Addy went with us to a little apartment on the hospital campus and tprs were signed on the the 24th and we flew home on the 28th and the rest is history.

We still have a great relationship with bmom and just went to visit last month.

Martha

[dutchgirl2]

Our first adoption went very smoothly too. We had only been on the waiting list for 4 months when we got a call telling us that a baby girl had been born in our state and that her parents had chosen us to place her with. Her mom wanted me to be the first to hold her and bond with her and could we please come to the hospital immediately. So I called my husband at work, hurredly packed bags for both of us and for the baby . We drove the 4 hours to the town she was born in, in an utter haze of happiness and disbelief. We finally held her at just 10 hours old and she was the most beautiful baby we had ever seen. She was a preemie and ended up staying in the NICU for 13 days before we could bring her home, but the joy we have felt since first seeing her, has never gone away. She is the love of our lives and is definately what has kept us going when the adoption of our son fell through. She is our absolute ray of sunshine.
Yes, there are happy endings. Hang in there, your child will find you. Wishing you happy holidays and peace

Simone

[AwaitingBeloved]

Hi Tina,
I don't have any good stories.. I'm sorry... but wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you in a special way and wish you peace. And I think it's great you are reaching out and letting yourself feel your grief, though I know that grief rots.

Hang in there and may you find peace and hope and an everlasting love in your next placement.

[mxf0068]

I don't know how many times I have heard this. And perhaps it is a concept that cannot really be understood until it is your time. I am living my own miracle situation.

I am a single Mom to my 5 yr old son (bio). I knew that any siblings B had would be adopted. I spent years researching and planning to begin the process. I had several set-backs, and yet I was able to sign with my agency January 2005. Everyone told me how impossible it would be for a single woman to adopt... and I spent many hours/days/weeks/months wondering if they were right. 48 hours ago, I was at work about to leave for lunch when I got the call that will change my life forever. My daughter had been born the night before and my agency wanted to know when I could fly to Colorado to pick her up. Not even 24 hours later, I was on a plane then went straight to pick up my daughter. I feel so blessed.

However cliche it sounds, when the timing is right, your baby WILL find you. Do what YOU need to get through this time. Be angry, cry, be selfish. In the end it will work out.

Blessings

Mary

[Bassette]

Our adoption experience was incredibly smooth and we were blessed with a beautiful son. The paper chase was arduous and we felt nakie during the approval process. There was no stone left unturned, so it seemed but it was all predictable,...no surpises at all. The wait was difficult I admit but we had a wonderful experience complete with a happily ever after ending.

All my best to you.

[celebratewewill]

you guys rock!!!! thank you. thank you so much.keep them coming!

[billysmommy]

You know my story , but I'll share it for others . Our first adoption was smooth and perfect, our son was born healthy and beautiful. We have a great relationship with his first mom, and a very open adoption. Three years after our son was born, his first mom placed our daughter with us. 2 months later her biological father contested the adoption. We fought long and hard and just received the holiday gift we have been waiting for : our daughter is ours.
Never give up hope.

[ses1230]

Hi Tina,

We were matched with a pbmom last December, she was due March 25th. A few days before Christmas, she decided to unmatch. Last Christmas was not happy, to say the least.

After the new year we matched again, and guess when DD was born? Yes, March 25th!

After the failed match, I couldn't understand why it happened, and I felt all the emotions you describe. I really wanted to quit the process, or at least take a break for a while but DH wouldn't let me.

Now when I look at DD, I understand.

Take care!

[celebratewewill]

thank you all!!!l keep them coming, please!!

[ahfdragonfly]

DH & I ttc for 4 years. We did the drugs, IUI & IVF. After the IVF failed, I couldn't take it any more, I knew that God had other plans for us, besides pregnancy. 2 months later, we filled out our paperwork & started the process of adopting from Korea. At the same time, a baby girl was born in Korea, that needed a mommy & daddy. We got her picture this last Feb, & in June, at 8 mos old, she came home to us on dh's birthday! I know that her bmom most have suffered ( & probably still does) with the decision to place her little girl, but I knoe in my heart, that this is the child that God made for us to parent.

Good luck & God bless!
Millie