[Guspiv]

I know that a simular thread has been posted before, I just can't seem to find it, so your input is appreciated.

So if you read my previous thread in reference to a visit with my son's birthmother you know I have a few issues going on. One issue is my son's birthmother signs cards and letters to him Mommy. I didnt think it was something I had to deal with yet because it doesn't bother me, but obviously I need to deal with it soon. So I plan to have a conversation with her (via either letter or phone) to suggest some names we can use. I am opposed to 1st name only for a few reasons 1. she gave Gavi the gift of life and us the greatest gift we could ever imagine and I believe she deserves a place of honor and a first name bases just doesnt seem enough to me I dont know.(if you did decide to use just a first name I am interested in why, not that I think you are wrong but is it easier just to use a first name if your child will not be in continuous contact with his birthparents? 2. In my family you put a "handle" on an adults name.
So how does your child refer to his/her birthparents? How did you come up with the name? Your input is appreciated.

[Bassette]

Kiran was born in Guatemala, which is a spanish speaking country. Madre means mother in spanish. So his birthmother is "Madre M____" and his foster mother is "Madre O____". She raised him the first 5 months of his life and we have a continued relationship with her family. So Ki is blessed with three moms.

[LisaCA]

"bema X" for bmom and "beda Y" for bdad


the rest of the brelatives retain their original titles such as grandma, aunt, etc, unless they requested a special title (which some have).

[blessedbybug]

Bug will call her first mother by her first name, at her request. Birthsisters are by first names. Birth grandparents are Grampa T and Gramma B.

[Free_to_be_me]

I am called my first name, or occasionally "birtmudder". My sister and parents are also called their first names.

[MrsSmith]

I call my bmom by her first name, and we are having DD call her bparents by their first names as well.

[SchmennaLeigh]

Munchkin currently calls me Nenna which is her variation of Jenna. I will prefer to be called by my first name (because I dig it). She can call me whatever she decides in the future. Right now, Nenna melts my heart just fine.

[Tigger27]

My bdaughters will call me by my first name most of the time. My 2 1/2 yr old calls me a variation of my name right now that made me cry the first time I heard her say it on a home movie that her aparents sent to me, where she was pointing at my picture in a photo album they've made for her and saying my name. I'm just glad to know that both my girls will know who I am - it doesn't matter what they call me as long as I know they're being taught who I am, that's all that really matters to me.

The aparents have also used variations like Mommy *my first name* so whichever works for them is fine with me, whether it's my first name or Mommy *my first name*. I just want my girls to know who I am is all and how much I love them - I think that's what pretty much every bmom wants their child to know.

[Jenn4615]

I also call my Birthmother by her first name and we also refer to our daughters Birthmom by her first name aswell.

[radkat]

My oldest daughter (age 11) calls her biomom "Mom". She calls me "Mommy".
My youngest kids (ages 10, 7 and 7) call their biomom and me "Mom"
When they are talking about her to someone else they call her their Other Mother.

[Ragnarok]

My birth son calls me Uncle Brad, and my wife (his birth mom) is Auntie L.

[alwaysus]

Paul refers to his birthmother as Auntie T. Elijah will as well. The reason being that she is my husbands sister and therefore she is Auntie.

Lana

[tobeafamily]

Birth mom = Bema
Birth dad = Beda

Ryan came up with them when he was about 18 months old.

HTH

Regina

[Casey677]

Dh and I are disagreeing here a bit. He grew up with all adults having titles whereas I grew up calling most by their first names only (accept parents and grandparents). I would like to refer to dd's bmom by her first name. Dh doesn't know which title to use for her, but thinks she needs one.......I think we will end up using firstname.

[traceyk]

We refer to our b-mom by her first name and will have Drihan do the same.