[Dragonfly999]

I am sorry to hear of your loss, that must be devastating after all the paperwork and waiting and wondering. The only words of wisdom I can offer are that: the boy you lost - and loved - is being loved and cared for by his bparents - and any situation where a child is being loved is a good one. Take happiness from his well being in the world!

[Guspiv]

I know there is nothing that I can say to make you feel any better but I will pray for your family. I know it must be hard. You have every right to mourn for your son, he was with you a whole month. We didnt have our TPR until more than a month after Gavin's birth, due to circumstances beyond our control, so I know you bonded with him during that time. you should mourn him, however hard it is, it is the healthiest thing to do.

[SadieAnn]

Simone,

Just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you and sending you many prayers. Regarding comments from others I'm sure you'll find some of the best words will come from this forum or others who understand adoption. We also heard a few unbelievable things from people close to us after we lost our baby/placement.

I tried to remember that some of these people were also hurting because they had bonded with the baby,... and/or they were lashing out because they were angry that we had been hurt. But it still is hard because once the words are said they bounce around in your head.

((((hugs)))))

[NaomiNJaysmom]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.

[Bassette]

Simone, I'm so glad that you checked in with your forum friends. I continue to think of your family at this difficult time. It's great that you are staying in touch and allowing people to support you. I hope that you are getting many hugs from friends and family. Take care.

[lisb3]

Simone, I am so very sorry. Your poor heart, it will take a long time to heal and you will always love Eamon. I am glad to see you are getting back to actively pursuing another mathc, it's not clinical, heck, you want a baby. It doesn't take away from your pain or loss of Eamon. I wish you the very best!!

Lisa

[definitelyjulia]

Oh that just makes my heart sad for you! I'm glad that you are finding some comfort in your daughter right now.
Blessings to your family!
Julia

[Momoffive1966]

I hope today was better than yesterday and tomorrow is just a little bit easier than today...

[redhedded]

Simone, Just thinking of you. Hope that you are doing okay and often wonder how your girl is handling this very painful experience.

[dutchgirl2]

Hi everyone! Yep, we're still hanging in there (what else can you do?). Our daughter is handling it with all the usual aplomb of a busy toddler and seems to have come through all of this pretty unscathed (thank goodness!). She does still ask where baby is at times, but not as often as a week ago.
We have in the meantime received an email from Eamon's mom, explaining what happened to make them reclaim him and how terribly sorry they are for having hurt us so. We had asked her for closure and she did the best she could, which we appreciate. She even offered to send us pictures and updates on him as he grows up. But to be honest that would be too much for my heart, although my husband said he'd like to receive them. And there's no reason he can't continue a relationship of some sort with them if he so desires. For me personally, I just need to move on and be satisfied with the knowledge that we didn't do anything wrong, that they truly do care for us and that Eamon is with parents who love him deeply, just like we do.
We will be ok, has become my mantra, and I believe it too. Our profile has been sent to another pbfamily and once again we begin the exciting rollercoaster that is adoption.
Thank you all so much for being there for us. It helps more than you can ever know!
Simone

[Guspiv]

I am glad that you guys got some closure and you can know that he will be loved.

[cathy102]

First, I want to say I am excited for you that your profile is being shown to another family. Hoping that something will work out for you very soon.

What a wonderful thing the mom and dad did to email you, offer to send pictures of Eamon. But you know something? I would be just like you and not want them and move on. They sound like they are doing very well with Eamon.

Take care and keep us posting on how things are going...

[skootinalong2]

I just want to say how sorry I am.

Teralyn

[Momoffive1966]

It's bittersweet closure but at least you got that. We found out what happened to our precious one (that failed 10 days before he was born) thru my hairdresser!!!!who is dear friends with the couple who actually adopted Jayden...it was overwhelming for me when I heard, everyone kept saying it was closure but at the time it just opened a very ugly wound for me. Now, a few months later I can see that it helped me to know how he was......it's just hard. But now we have our precious son and he is soooooo meant to be ours!!! Hold on, your time is coming. Hug that precious little one, she'll help ya get thru this. I know my sweet kiddos did help me so much....

[Hopp]

As we are now matched and moving forward, I am reminded what a huge scarry leap of faith this is. I'm constantly thinking that when "our" child comes home to us it will be through the right birth mom, and not before. I think that we are all going to have "our" children in our lives regardless if we birth them naturally, or birth them through adoption. All of our babies will come home!

Many blessings!