[lmrod55]

Simone - I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I don't know that I could say anything that would help, but know that I am thinking of you and wishing you peace in what has happened. -ld

[angelkisses0102]

I am so sorry for your loss...and very impressed with your spirit and attitude at this time...may you be blessed with finding your forever child soon.

[gregorysparents]

As others have said.....I am truly sorry for your loss. I know that words can't heal the open wounds completely, but I am sure that it will help.

I am glad that you decided not to give up. You know what they say, "if you fall of the bike, get back up and try again" Or was it a horse that someone was riding!?!

You know, there is that slight chance that if these birth parents decide that maybe they can't handle raising this little boy, maybe you will be blessed to have this child back with you. Will there be any contact between you and the birth parents?

The negative side of this situation is that you have lost this little boy. The positive side of this situation is that you had a wonderful relationship with this baby and his birth parents. Be glad for that. We are loosing our three year old that we have had for over two years to parents that we don't have good feelings about.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Christina

[nawlinsmom]

Just sending heartfelt prayers your way. Please take care of yourselves through this difficult time. I am also very sorry for your lost.

[SadieAnn]

I'm so glad to hear you are getting right back in. We did the same. I found that it actually helped me to do so. It encouraged us to look forward. I kept telling myself the same thing over and over, "the only way we'll never be parents is if we give up... so that is NOT an option"!

[mumofone]

I am so sorry this happened. I can only imagine the pain you are going through right now.

[redhedded]

Simone, I am so so very sorry for you, dh and sweet A. There is nothing to say but you are in my thoughts and prayers.

[cathy102]

I am so sorry what happened. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. I think that is the best thing you can do is get right back in the waiting game. You just never know when you will get that call again...I am hoping it's soon for you...

((((((Hugs))))))))

[AwaitingBeloved]

Simone,
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
So sorry. You have a great spirit, still acknowledging your blessings.

God bless you and your family.

[AMom2Two]

(((Simone)))


I can't imagine having a baby home for a month and having to return him. The grief, the HEARTACHE, the empty feeling inside of you, even the illusions you had about the type of relationship you would have with bfamilies. You grieve them all. Some people don't understand that. In their haste to comfort you, they say even more hurtful things, which makes the process harder.

I remember after our second failed placement, what I really feared the worst, who the next pbparents would be? What would they be like? Will they be honest with me or fool me like what just happened? Will this happen again? Will they like me? Will they hate me? Will I like them? Will I feel comfortable in an open adoption with them? So many mixed emotions in with all the grief, so much heartache and self doubt. Why didn't I sense this? What could I have done? Why did this happen??? Why God, why?? I just want my baby. Anger at one' self for being so naive and if you have a little one that is waiting, like I also did, and I saw her sadness, more anger comes at yourself because you should have protected her better, right? But how.... ??? What would you do differently the next time?

I am so sorry you and your dh are experiencing this. I am so sorry your little girl had to experience this.

I'm VERY glad to hear that you are back in the books. That helped us also. I took a three week break before going into the books on a Friday. Best move I could have made. That Tuesday, we got the call that a little baby boy was born that morning and he needed a home, do we want him? Today he is one.

I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts. Keep moving forward. We're here for you!

((hugs))

[sneezyone]

I've taken my time responding to this. It's sad that these things seem to come in waves, Kelli and now you too. Maybe it's the holiday spirit that has folks reevaluating the role of/need for family in their lives. I can't begin to imagine how hard it must be for you. You'll be in my prayers.

[mamacrina]

I'm so very sorry. I wish I could say or do something that could make this right. I feel for you...I am instantly transported back to March when we had our baby for only a day. But our hearts had become attached during the 4 month match...and especially so after we held her, cared for her in that brief amount of time.

I am glad you are trying again. I'm so glad we did too, otherwise we wouldn't have our daughter now. But the baby in March will always hold a special place in my heart.

I'm not sure if any of this is helpful, but please know that we understand and care.

Many hugs and wishes for peace to come soon to your family.

[happygmom]

Originally Posted by dutchgirl2

Yes, I realize he was never fully ours until TPR was signed, so please don't bring that up.

I see postings and articles that advise adoptive and birth parents to "guard your heart" when the final outcome is uncertain. It is asking the impossible. As humans, we are wired to love our babes at first sight. So, as you say "don't bring that up".

So sorry for your disappointment. {{{{Hugs}}}}

Happy G'Ma

[sugarbabysmommy]

I am so sorry. I wish you all peace.

[MrsSmith]

Simone,

I have no words of wisdom for you, just (((hugs))) and prayers for you and your family. I wish you peace and a smooth road from here on out in your adoption journey.

Heather