[kaylee23]

Hi all,

We have been matched with a wonderful birthmother and will go get our baby girl next month. I wanted some ideas on what would be a good birthmother gift.

Any suggestions?

Thanks

[christy78]

Kaylee,

I too have bee contemplating a gift. We have not been identified yet, but have thought of purchasing two prayer box pendants. I would like to find gold ones, and place our childs name in one to give to the birthmother, and the birthparents names in the second box to give to my son or daughter. I would like to wear that necklace, it is a small way of my showing how grateful I am for their decision to place their child for adoption.

[michellemartin]

A photo frame with the baby's birth name (possibly and/or adopted name) engraved (first and middle but not last) with the date of birth is a nice gift . It's not to expensive and pretty much you can find a mall that has a gift store that can do this in a few minutes to a hour or so. Typically a mom will stay in the hospital for a day or two, so you'd have time for baby to be born (so the right day is there ) and get the frame to bmom before she leaves the hospital.

Otherwise what types of things is she interested in?

My birthdaughters parents got me a gift certificate for my favorite store and a card. That worked for me.

[michellemartin]

Cristy,
I LOVE your idea!!!

[tobeafamily]

First, be sure to check with your attorney before giving ANY gift. States' laws are very strict, the attorney may need to file whatever you give as part of the adoption petition. This includes 'small' things - anything can be viewed as an attempt to influence or coerce. Consider too holding any gift until after placement is final.

Having said that, a photo album with baby's first pictures may be nice?

HTH

Regina

[echaos]

Originally Posted by christy78

Kaylee,

We have not been identified yet, but have thought of purchasing two prayer box pendants.

I'm not sure what a "prayer box pendant" is, but if it is of a religious nature, you would want to ensure that the potential birth mother is of the same faith as you, and is okay with "religious" icons.

While I was raised Catholic, I no longer consider myself Catholic and would not be comfortable accepting a gift of a religious nature from anyone.

JMHO

[MkMw]

I like the prayer box idea too - very nice.

Regina is definately right - clear it with your attorney first. We gave our sons' birthMom a ring with 2 rubies (their birthstone) in it, but could not give it to her until after finalization.

[mommieof2cuties]

I second everyones ideas I wish you the best and please update when you can.

God Bless,
Summer