[jandn]

A couple struggles through years of infertility and they finally adopt and the baby looks just like them. You've had baby names picked out since third grade, you're finally matched and the childs birthname is the name you've always loved.


You always hear of these little coincidences that happen with adoption. What are yours?

The day I recieved the call for my first foster daughter they had three babies that needed placements straight from the hospital. We took the baby that needed to be placed the soonest. After being on the foster roller coaster for six months we starting looking for children that were available with no legal risk. When we were chosen as the adoptive family for little "L" her paperwork showed the day she came into foster care. Yep, she was one of the three babies that needed placement from that first call. Both my girls are now heading toward adoption together. They were meant to be forever sisters.


I believe that my daughters were destined to be a part of our family and the little coincedences convinces me that they were. I want to hear your stories!

[momofmykids]

As an only child, I decided at an early age that I would have lots of kids (being an only child ain't all it's cracked up to be!). I always said I'd "have" one girl and then adopt a bunch. Well, that's kinda what happened, I adopted three, had my girl, and have adopted four more and I'm not sure we're done with adoption yet!

[social1]

My husband and I were looking to adopt a boy. If we ever had a boy my husband wanted to name him after him. The whole II thing. Our son had my husbands firtst name as a middle name and his middle name as his first. He had always been called by his middle name and did not know that it wasn't his first. We changed it at the time of adoption. He loves that he is named after his daddy. OUr soon to be adopted daughter is named the name we had chosen for a girl. There have been alot of coincedences in our adoptions.

Social1

[mckenna]

i don't know if you would call this a coincidence. i had started the process of private adoption after having been burned one two many times through dfs ( i have one son adopted through dfs). the same day the private agency called to say my home study was ready for my signature and my profile would be added to their books, dfs called to ask me to take my son's 6 week old sister as a pre-adoptive placement! i took the risk and have not been happier. hopefully the adoption will happen before her first birthday! the kids really enjoy each other also and it is really nice to have my son's sibling with us!

[spaypets]

We didn't tell anyone we were thinking about adoption until we were sure we were going to do it, with one exception. I had lunch with some friends of mine in New York (who didn't know my family or any of my other friends so I knew my secret would be safe) and confided that we were probably going to be adopting. Unbeknownst to me, a world away in India, my daughter was being born.

Second, we planned to name her in honor of my grandfather. Turns out their birthdays are in the same month a couple of days apart. And sadly, he died just a few days after her first birthday and his 90th before we could bring her home.

But the best one? Because of all the delays, I got to become a mother on Mother's Day!

[Deanna&Alex]

Keep the stories coming, I'm loving this thread.

[Leigh131313]

Well...we had pulled our file...decided we needed a break from the adoption world. I went back to school, and as I was finishing, i lined up a new job. I was to start the new job monday, so dh had taken friday off so that we could go out of town for me to shop and celebrate before work started.

The day before i was doing my finals, we talked with our social worker. She was calling to ask if we wanted to become active again, we said no. During that conversation the other line beeped, but we didnt answer it. When we checked our messages it was another social worker. We were to call her in the morning. We assumed it was nothing important.

The next morning I was just finishing my finals when my cell phone started beeping. It was dh, who had contacted the social worker. There was a pbmom who wanted to meet us ...WHAT?? She was due in about a month, and could only meet us on Friday afternoon.

Sooo...since dh already had friday off (very hard for him to get last minute time off, so this was incredibly lucky) we headed off to another city to meet this family. Well, we came home the next day (still in shock) which happened to be my birthday...so we celebrated (in a daze) and three weeks later my son was born......on my husbands birthday.

Now, to add to this little tale....about the similar appearances..... People are constantly telling me how much my son looks like his mommy (strangers)...and whenever we get together with family or friends that we havent seen in a while....they all get this shocked look on their face, and say how much they can't believe he's adopted...he just fits in so well....To which I reply, even if he was green, he'd fit in, and look like family, cuz he IS

thats my story!

Oh, and his birthday..... 04-04-04

Leigh

[lisa in venice]

The first was when our oldest was presented to us. They told us his birthday and we just looked at each other. In my ds's family they are all born in the same week in April. His Dad, his cousins, his brother and sister all in the same week. Nathan was born that week so we knew he was destined to be in that family. The second thing was as a baby he and my dh looked like twins. They don't look alike now but their baby pictures are stikingly similar.

Nathan' birth mother was French Canadian and Scotch Irish and so was Rachel's. Both had birth fathers that were AA/Hisp. I thought that was a coincedence untill we found Sam. His combination is Scoth Irish and AA/Hisp. The other coincedence is ihis name. Samuel is a name that dh and I had on our short list and we found out that his birth mom had nicknamed him "Sam". His middle name was after my great-grand father. When I told his birth mom, she told me that James was suposed to be her name if she had been a boy.

lisa

[MamaTo6]

Our son was born with the same last name as ours.

Warm wishes...Barbie

[foxl]

Adoption has confirmed my belief in FATE.

We brought our daughter home 3 days short of her designated first birthday. We brought our son home 3 days AFTER his second birthday.

Our daughter is astrologically precisely 180 degrees away from me (sun sign); our son is almost 180 degrees away from his father.

Our daughter is Bengali Indian and was born halfway around the world. Our son is Mayan Indian and born less than four hours away by plane.

They look very different. They adore each other. They are our kids.

Linda

[timni]

We had decided to stop fertility treatments and were looking into adoption. Mind you when I say looking into, I mean in the very beg. stages. We were also in the process of buying our first home, without a realtor, so my dh quite sternly asked me to not talk about the adoption process or anything adoption related until after we fnished buying the house as he could only handle 1 life changing event at a time. We closed on Friday 3/4 and on Monday 3/7 we were contacted by E who asked us to adopt her baby. I told dh if he wanted time between house and adoption he should have been more specific.

[votemom]

Our referral was born on my husband's birthday. Little did we know that while we were celebrating my husband's 40th birthday, a tiny baby boy was taking his first breath halfway around the world.

[Momoffive1966]

I called a local attorney to just get data on adopting and I was told about a PBM that we matched with seven days later....that match failed 4 days before due date. I was devistated and really felt the failure was not between us and A but her family. Anyway, for two weeks I cried, wrestling with the thought of ever trying this again. Well, I got up my nerve and within a week or two we were matched with T, a few days later after we hammered out all the details I went by my attorney's office to drop off $$$ for T's escrow account. While in the office, they got the call about Nathan. I was told later that week that had I not been standing right there, they could have never told me about him as it was unethical to do so, but because I heard the unusual circumstances about Nathan, I was asking questions out of pure interest. (Nathan had been placed in an adoptive home since birth and the family was not going to pass the home study and the private social worker removed Nathan and placed him in cradle care for 10 days as the home. Nathan and they were in very poor condition) Cut to me in the attorney's office laughing when they asked if we wanted Nathan...I said sure. I left thinking "fat chance" They said they were waiting on one other couple, the ones who now had him in cradle care to decide if they wanted him or not. That couple prayed and felt it was not the situation for them and too soon to adopt. 9 am the next moring I got a call saying, "Come at 2pm and get your baby" Nathan was 4.75 months old, is now 7 months old and I am confident to say that every single member of the family loves him as though he were with us since birth. You may wonder about T, the birth mom due in August??? Well, we decided to let fate guide her to the right parents for her baby and she found a great family she liked just as much as us and her baby is due in a month..........

[boatsun]

A few weeks after we brought our son home from Russia we had to submit paperwork to my wife's company in order to receive the adoption benefit. When I looked at the date we gave our agency the first check for their application fee, it was the day our son was born.

[Poolside]

These are neat stories and give me goosebumps.

We went through pain of a failed placement after months of being matched. It was without a doubt the worst day of our lives when we did not come home from the hospital with a son.

5months later we were asked to review an expectant mothers profile at her request. The date of conception listed on the forms was the very day our first placement failed. We knew then God's plan.