[MMC66]

Our Adoption was supposed to be finalized today. All the court documents were where they needed to be a week ago. Now I'm being told that today is simply the earliest day it could be finalized and it could happen any time AFTER today. Why weren't we told this before we were given the date of April 28th from the beginning as THE finalization date - nothing about anytime after that date. We're finalizing in IL. I just thought we'd be getting some good news today and now it looks like we won't Just had to unload a little.

Thanks,

Martha

[LisaCA]

AAAARRRGGGHHH!

I'll scream for you. That must have been an incredibly frustrating call. I know you'd planned a bit of a celebration and it must be hard to tell your older kids that they'll have to wait.

personally, I found that people were more upfront with info preadoption than postadoption. I guess their feeling is 'you got the kid, be happy'-ugh. Our adoption won't be finalized til late summer at the earliest, and may not until fall!!!!! That would make dd at least a year, if not 15 or so months old by finalization. Everyone seems to be dragging their feet, plus we wanted a legally binding open adoption agreement with bdad.

maybe just celebrate today as "addy's day" and have that party:-).

hope you hear that good news soon!

lisa

[MMC66]

Thanks Lisa,
I think I'll just wallow today, combined with a little Ben and Jerry's and plan on the worst case scenario, that way maybe I won't obscess and gain 50lbs. The lawyer said it could be another 6 weeks - this really stinks. Addy is taking it really well though

Martha

[DJAKoala]

I understand your frustration. I express my heartfelt wishes to you and your family. Every visit the SW would say in about 2 weeks, well it was about 8 months later. We did finalize on March 14th, 2005. We were afraid to have a celebration party, we have had so many bad things happen to us in the past. We somehow didn't feel it would go through. It did and we are planning a party this weekend. God Bless you, it will happen.
Deb

[missw005]

Martha,

That is irritating. And frustrating. And depressing. And....

You get the picture. I totally feel for you. We are in the same boat.

The day BEFORE we went to court (in another town, 1 hour away) I got a call from my son's SW. Turns out due to some major legal issues on their end, not only would I not be going to court the next day....we will not likely appear there for 3-5 YEARS.

Yes, I said YEARS.

Luckily, there is no chance of the placement being overturned. Just some yucky legal issues I can't go into. But I can really empathize how much it STINKS!

I'm here for you, girl! Have a pint of Haagen Dasz on me.

And vent away! You are SO not whiny. I have a 3 yr. old that could put you to the mat on that one.

Sandy