[Kimmisue]

Our profile is being shown to a birthmother this weekend who is wanting to place her 9 month old son. We just found out today, so I'm trying to be prepared just in case. I'm trying to find some info as to whether or not it is okay for us to change his name. We have a name picked out for a boy, but don't want to be disrespectful to the bmom by changing his birth name. But on the other hand, if we do get to adopt him, he will be our son. Any ideas, thoughts, experiences with this? Anyone know of any good resources I could check into about this?

Thanks
Kim

[BrandyHagz]

If your true intent is to be respectful of the birthmother, then you should talk to her about it and she how she feels.

Keep in mind; you aren’t limited to one first name, one middle name and one last name…having said that…maybe there is a combination of both his birth name and the name that you have chosen, that you can all agree on.

My son has two middle names, simple because I was indecisive about which one I liked better…

[tlc4kidz]

We changed our sons name at 7 months old. We did discuss it with his bparents, and they liked it. We chose a name that had part of both of their names in it, but was not as common as the birthname they had given him (we knew SEVEN other kids with the name). We would have changed it either way, but it was good for us to have their blessing. He will always know what the name was, and I completely expect that at some point in his life he will wish it still were. But, most kids go through a period of time where they wish their name were different. Thre have been lots of threads here on this topic and lots of different point of views....and they all seem valid. So, I think you should do what's right for you and your situation. I think it's great that you are concerned about birthmom's feelings and not just your desires, BTW.