[Sylvester]

Hello all, bear with me if I babble through this... We have two adopted girls, 3 and 6, we did open domestic adoptions. We are a military family and it seems everytime we move I am ready to adopt and researching. We have tried foster care, it was not for us. We have gone back and forth for three years now with the great debate do we adopt again or don't we. We have set up training with a private agency twice only to cancel right before we were suppose to attend. We are now scheduled to do training for foster/adopt later this month and I am getting cold feet and wanting to cancel. I don't want a newborn, we have moved past the diapers,strollers,and bottles. I would love a toddler, but I want a healthy child, race does not matter to us. I can't decide if I am letting this potential third adoption linger b/c I don't want to move on with me going back to school and having a career. I don't want to limit us we are young, not even 30 yet,and say we are done having children, but I don't want my girls to be too old to enjoy another sibling. With our girls it was so clear cut we had one and it was just assumed we were having another one. I keep looking for a sign or clear answer and I am not getting it. Has anyone else gone through this? Does anyone know were or how we can adopt a toddler that is healthy? I need some guidance from someone who knows what I am feeling!!! Please help!

[melon161]

I think your feelings are normal. I would take the scheduled classes and see how you feel after that. Just because you take the classes doesn't mean you have to adopt. I think you're just getting nervous just take things easy and go slow.

Stacy

[traceyk]

As for your and your childrens' ages, we are mid 30's with two bio teen daughters and we just adopted an AA newborn a few weeks ago. My daughters love her to peices and at their ages it is a huge help to us. Perhaps maybe in time when they are older you may want to consider the newborn thing again Oh yeah, we are adopting again in ywo years!!!

[smedf]

Congrats on your addition Traceyk. We have 3 bio boys and had already called it quits 2 times but God wasn't done with us, we had our 3 rd bio boy and now adopting a girl for the bunch. The 2 boys I have at home are now 10 and 14. Even thinking of adopting a few more. I love children but let something get in the way and stopped but that was something Dh said we could fix so now we are adopting. Guess just saying its never too late.