[Jensboys]

Tomorrow is the one year anniversary of the death of Cindy Jordan. A former member birthmom here who lost a tragic, horrid battle with depression after she placed her daugther for adoption in 2001.

We are asking that at 8pm YOUR TIME you would light a candle in her memory.

We want the world to remember that betrayal of birth parents can have tragic consequences and that Cindy's death not be in vain.

WWW.rememberingcindy.com

[coco46]

I will be remembering Cindy tomorrow, Jen. Sadly, I didn't get to know her personally, but the entire story touched a nerve with me.

[teacher091768]

What exactly happened? I'm so sorry. I suffer from depression and am sympathetic to anyone who does.

[Jensboys]

Teacher -

Cindy placed her daughter Malia (born April 12, 2001) in what was supposed to be an "open adoption". The aparents had carefully nurtured a relationship over the course of Cindy's pregnancy to "ensure placement" but that relationship evaporated shortly after the birth of the baby. No more contact, the promised visits were termed a "misunderstanding", the pictures arrived, sometimes on time, but only twice a year, and often fuzzy. There was never any agknowledgement of the gifts Cindy would send or anything that showed Cindy that she was valued or loved by the same people who had called her every day while pregnant.

Cindy was already devastated by the state of their relationship. Then in January, 2004 the adoptive mother authored a book called "Fast Track Adoption". This book was essentially a step by step guide for OTHERS to do to potential birthparents what they had done to Cindy. Nurture a relationship to "ensure and moniter the birthmom's committment to the adoption".

Cindy was destroyed by the book - becoming aware that unknowingly she would contribute to other birthparents sufferring the same loss and heartache that had been inflicted upon her. The aparents were heartless in their approach to Cindy.

On April 8th, 2004, just before her daughter's 3rd birthday, Cindy killed herself.