[Momoffive1966]

I Love the Dec/January thread. I followed those lovely ladies thru the holidays with the ups and downs of thier journies....and now I am on that same road. We matched with our birth parents TODAY! The baby is due March 30th and I would love to be able to share the experience with other adoptive parents with March/April due dates. We are excited. The baby is a boy! The PBM and PBD are supported with extended family who ALL support the adoption. We couldn't ask for a better situation. I am humbled by thier love for thier child and the desire to give him a better life than they can offer him. What can I say....I'm going to be a Mommy again. And since this is our last child, I am going to cherish every single minute. But as we all know, it isn't over til it's over. We hope for all things and pray for God's will even if it isn't our will. I can't wait to hear from others...ands thank you to the Dec/Jan thread...you are the inspiration for this one.

[LisaCA]

we're not waiting but I wanted to say congrats! a boy, wow!-and your due date is right around the corner! My guess is that this is old hat for you so you're as prepared as you need to be. I love the excitement of the new parents, so I'll just monitor all the posts and cross my fingers for you and pbfamily.

take care and congrats again,

LisaCA

[momofmykids]

Jillian,
Yippee! Glad to hear that the pbparents picked you. I think it's so cool that they want him to have a bunch of siblings!

Good luck,
Jill

[Momoffive1966]

Momofmykids- Thank you! I really can't believe it! Our other adopts thru foster care were so different. I am gonna take this one day at a time. The forum is a great way to let off steam and feel supported too. PM and I'll tell you the latest on the other issues we discussed as I wouldn't want to ruffle any feathers here LOL.

[lab2012]

Hi Jillian,

Congratulations to you and your family. I think it is so exciting and right around the corner! I am hoping that we will have similar results in our meeting with a pbmother this week. I am so nervous at times and very calm other times. Just depending on my frame of mind I guess. I am trying not to get my hopes up but be positive at the same time.

Whatever the outcome, I will follow your journey and hope your pbmother has a healthy and safe delivery of your new son.

Congratulations Again!!!
Lisa

[chrisandaaron]

Congrats on your match! We have been matched since December. We are expecting a boy as well. His due date isn't until May 16th, but pbmom thinks they might be off by a whole month. She told me to be ready by mid April. I tend to believe her as this is her third child and she was already showing a lot of baby when we met her in December (if you know what I mean)! I hoping to find out more at her Dr. appt. this week (hoping they will do an ultrasound). The wait seems long, but is going so fast all at the same time! In the midst of all this excitement, I am starting my last set of rotations at school. The baby is due 3 weeks before my graduation! Thank God Dh is taking family leave! Although, I feel sort of guilty about not being home full-time for the first few weeks, it makes me laugh to think of DH taking care of this little guy all by himself! Luckly, I'll get to make up for it by spending the whole summer with him!!

Happy waiting to everyone!

Chris

[chrisandaaron]

Lisa- I just noticed that you said you have a meeting this week! That is soooo awesome! Do you know anything about them yet?

Good luck,
Chris

[LisaCA]

chris- sounds great that you dh is taking time off for family leave! If this is your first child, it will set a good pattern for him. My dh tended to default to me, because I'd babysat (yeah, about 30 years ago ) and because I'd spent the whole weekend with dd in the hotel room before he showed up. Frankly we were both clueless, but that's beside the point. even if guys want and plan to do the 50-50 thing, it often isn't and they have this default mechanism that leaves them to think of it as your job. not all guys, mind you, just everyone that i've heard about . now he'll feel confident in his own abilities with child rearing and it will be much better for you. don't take over all the duties when you have the summer, that'll ruin it.

and enjoy that guy you have, he sounds priceless.

LisaCA

[lab2012]

Hi Chris,

I don't have a lot of information. Our SW was going to be talking to her to get more detailed informtion. I know that she is in her early 20's and this is her first child. I also believe that the pbfather is also aware of the situation but not willing to meet at this time.

I am nervous about the meeting. I guess that is to be expected. Oh, I also know that we are the only family she is wanting to meet with.

We are very excited and hoping for the best.

Thanks for asking.
Lisa

[chrisandaaron]

LisaCA-

Thanks, I agree that my DH is AWESOME! Most of the guys he works with take the family leave as a nice vaction for themselves and do very little to help their wives. Mine is being a real trooper and really seems to be looking forward to this time alone with the baby. Of course, I think any guy that would choose to try adoption before even trying "to make his own baby," (LOL) is pretty awesome. I do agree with you on the default thing, that already happens when it comes to taking care of our dogs (and a lot of other things). I've learned from it, but I"m sure it has to do a little with the fact that I can be a bit of a control freak at times. Although, I'm getting tired and trying to learn to let go a little. I think we are both really looking forward to being involved as parents, so hopefully we can play off the strengths of each other.

Other Lisa-
That is pretty exciting. We found out most of the information at our meeting. It is impossible to say not to be nervous, but do be yourself. I think the meeting will actually turn out to be fun! When we got home, I took a little while and wrote a letter to the baby with everything I could remember about his pbparents. This way if it works out I won't have to worry forgetting anything about them. We'll be waiting for an update!!

[StacyM]

I'm so happy for all of you who are matched and waiting for your babies to arrive! As I read your stories, I'm getting teary eyed remembering the ups and downs we had...which are now all ups and the incredible blessings we've received with our precious little girl. We have been so fortunate and I wish all of you the best through your adoption process.

We had a January baby and the Dec/Jan thread was so helpful to me...especially as her birth got closer, reading of everyone else's experiences really helped calm my nerves.

Our baby is now 2 months and I can't imagine life without her. She is such a joy.

Treasure every happy moment.
Stacy

[Momoffive1966]

I went shopping today and bought the basics for the baby YYYYEEEESSS!!!
LISACA- You said I probably have it all together and the answer is NO. This is so different the FC adoptions and it is so meaningful as the relationship with PBM is growing and I am like a school girl. I'm giggling and totally out of my mind with joy.

LAB2021- What's happening with the PBM?

CHRISAND AARON - any more details yet or have you heard anything?

STACYM- Thank you for your kind workds it means alot to me.

Let's keep this thread up, the next few weeks should be very exciting and eventful

[chrisandaaron]

Well, I guess I am officially waiting for the May adoptions thread! No more ultrasounds, but everything is looking to line up with the May 16th due date. Pbmom is still hoping for earlier, so we are going to start counting down the weeks.

On a side note, does anyone have a cure for those days when you just feel like something is "off." The Dr. appt. and seeing pbmom was good, but something just felt "off." I tried taking a nap, but I just can't shake this gloomy feeling today. I"m hoping this isn't the feeling you get when things aren't going to work out. She didn't give me any indication that she was changing her mind or that something was wrong. Maybe I"m just tired. Thanks for letting me vent!

Thanks,
Chris

[LisaCA]

hi guys,

chris: have to say that in order for there to be those exciting ups, there have to be those days where you're convinced something isn't right. I took this time to be similar to adolescence, where you sat and deconstructed how that boy looked at you (what did it mean?). very scary hormonal time. My advice is to pamper yourself when you're feeling gloomy, do something just for you, maybe take your spouse out to dinner, plan a three day vacation, something not adoption related. You'll find that you swing back to the happy in no time.

and yeah, I'm a control freak too. dh is one of those guys attracted to strong women (i know his girlfriend from college and we are very similar in our control "issues"). dh calls it his "character flaw" . turns out that dd doesn't mind that he's not doing things just like mom (though I'm freaking out ). And turns out I think she likes him better, or at least gets more excited when he comes home than when I do. still, she's only kissing me and not dh, so there . I have relegated many jobs to dh, which he's taken gladly, though he can't seem to figure out a few things: how to pee with a baby in your arms, how to feed our rabbits with a baby in your arms, and how to eat dinner with a baby in your arms. Fair warning - your dh may have these same issues (sans the rabbits).

best of luck everyone, I hope your time flies by!

LisaCA

[chrisandaaron]

Lisa CA-

You made me laugh and I totally needed that! I think it was the visual of DH trying to pee with a baby in his arms (hee hee)!

Thanks you some much!

Chris