[LGA]

We adopted an older child. We were very clear that we would not adopt this child if he was diagnosed with Bi-polar. The agency tested and he was cleared. About 3 months after the adoption he was diagnosed bi-polar. Along with a host of other problems. We tried several methods of therapy. We had people coming to our home to help. We finally hospitalized him when he threatened to kill us. It had been months since I had slept. In the hospital he was further diagnosed with attachment disorder, conduct disorder, ADHD and Schizoaffective/bi-polar type. It was advised that we not let him come home. We had to call the foster agency and place him into a treatment home. We have since battled with the agency about his behavior and them accusing us of not being able to take care of him. Of course we could not take care of him, he wanted to harm us. Anyway we now pay out child support each month. I am very hurt about the agencys lack of diagostnic tools and the fact they just wanted a placement. We have contacted the agency of adoption and asked for financial help to off set the child support. They have denied the help. It was a hard decision to adopt, and now I feel used by the system. I would really like to reverse the adoption process.

[aMarylandfamily]

Our family has an almost identical situation (but we are getting more help) ... I cannot take the time to write this afternoon ... have to pick a child up from school but will pm you later.

Just know you are not alone!

[aMarylandfamily]

I sent you one on this ... hope you got it and it helped.

[faithmylord]

I am SO sorry for your situation... You and your adoptive child will be in my prayers...C

[slp2860]

I know how you must be feeling. I have been struggling for 13 yrs. please feel free to email be back

[SCAdoptGoneBad]

We adopted a special needs child from the SC DSS. This child which we will call "Timmy" has hurt our pets, children (one he tried to smother while he was asleep in his crib), neighbor's children, been kicked out of school, etc. etc.

Timmy was placed into 24 hr/day supervised group homes where he could be monitored and given the counseling he needed.

Last December SC DSS told us he was to be released from group home to return to our house. County mental health stated that he was not ready to go home, but due to SC DSS financial bottom line we were told to come get him. We pleaded with DSS not to let Timmy back into our home in fear that something else would happen to our other children (all younger then him) because each time he comes home he does something worse then the time before.

Timmy came home and with in 6 months he committed a felony sexual assault on one of his younger siblings. Timmy pleaded guilty in court and now the rest of our family is going to counseling and my children a scared that he will return. The pain and suffering that was caused by this whole thing is unbearable.


My e-mail is SCAdoptGoneBad@aol.com