[amskillin]

Hello everyone,

I have been reading the posts for several months now and I have posted some, but I read one that really touched me about someone who was struggling with the "wait time". So I would like to us this thread for all of us who are in the "waiting" time between completed homestudy and waiting for baby.

A friend once told me somthing which I found to be so wise. She is pregnant and we were talking about our adoption. She said to me "I think God gives us this time, weather we are pregnant or adopting to learn patience so we can become better parents" I thought that was so wise and I have gone so far as to put it on my bathroom mirror so I can see it everyday.

So what have I done to fill the time?? I am taking parenting classes, which are required by our agency, I am reading, and preparing the nursery.

We have been selected by a pbmom and we have met. She is due at the end of March and is having a girl. We are so excited, this is our first child. So this "time" is harder to deal with in my opinion. We are waiting for baby to be born, waiting for the bfather to terminate rights and waiting to see if bmom will change her mind. All in all, there is lots going on but I deal with it one at a time. Each one of these items is a short-term goal and as each one is accomplished a sigh of relief is taken and on to the next.

I have faith and an amazing feeling of peace about all this. I feel peaceful about all aspects of this adoption and I know God has selected this one to be our child. I feel it in my bones.

So to all of you out there who are struggling with this "time", use it constuctively. Learn about who you are and the child you want to raise. And find peace about your individual situations. God is good and takes care of all those who seek him

Peace and blessings to everyone out there. I will keep each and everone of us that are in this adoption adventure in my prayers.

Shalom,

[alwaysus]

Very nicely said.
Our pbmom is due in June. LATE June. So we have had plenty of time to wait. She asked us to adopt when she was only 9 weeks pregnant) Her first child ( whom we adopted) was 6 weeks early. Hopefully this one will be on time.
My family is using this time to build a room onto the house ( and extend the Living room as well!) We have a 5 bedroom home, and with this being our 6th (7th actually....we have one in heaven as well) child we decided we wanted one more room. I am also "nesting " cleaning out closets etc... I know from experience that once a baby comes,all those " trivial" things don't get done!
Happy waiting and PRAY FOR PATIENCE!

[jewelewis]

I also nested. I cleaned closets and got the nursery ready. I also prepared to nurse our baby when born. That took alot of preperation and I felt like I was doing something. I cant even count how many times I rearanged the things in the nursery. I must have moved the baby lotion 100 times

[wishingforbaby]

I just wanted to say I thought this was a very nice post. Very well said.

Brenda

[BlessedBe]

Such a sweet and helpful post...thank you!!!

Waiting is turning out to be not so fun for me...heehee. I feel as though this is my pregnancy and although I'm loving the planning, working on the nursery, etc. we've yet to be matched so I do not have a nice, neat, little due date that I can focus on and plan for... Which is soooo difficult for me.

jewelewis...I cracked up at your lotion comment! I am soooo like that too...

Oh another thing I've noticed is (especially since I will be a first time mom as well)....I'm already noticing a change in my personality! I've always had materal instincts but they're coming out in me big time...lol. I am already sooooo protective of our child...a child that isn't even in our lives yet...just our hearts...

Cool thread topic...thanks for posting this! We'll have to check back with each other often to lend support during our wait times.

BlessedBe

[amskillin]

Thanks to all of you for your comments. I have spent the day retexturing the ceiling in the nursery and since dh is away in Eurpoe with his brother I'm going to take this opportunity to "spring clean" the entire house. I won't have anyone but myself to "argue" with about what to keep and what to throw away.

Alwaysus- JUNE...at first it seems like such a long wait, but the time will go by quickly and before you know it, your little angel will be here.

jewelewis- I haven't moved things around just yet, I'm still painting the nursery and I have a friend who will be painting a mural, but I'm SURE that as soon as the room is ready the move will begin. I'm known for changing things frequently. It drives dh NUTS!! HAHA

Blessedbe- We were coosen when I least expected it. At the moment our life is so busy with travels, business and I am having surgery mid feb. I can't tell you how incredibly the timing has worked out for everything. But I just wanted to say to you that you WILL be choosen, it WILL happen and it WILL be when you least expect it. So don't run to the phone everytime it rings and don't wait for the mailman anxiously everyday. Keep yourself busy with friends and family and you will get that call. Above all, keep your faith...God has choosen a child for you and as we used to say in our family... it's cooking in someone's oven, we just haven't found the right one.

Blessings to all

Shalom

[.xXTammyXx.]

Great post!!

Hubby and I are just entering the waiting stage. Our profile meeting is tomorrow night and then we do a short video which is scheduled to be taped next week.

I've been a little anxious since we were officially approved by the agency... but oh so excited! We have started on our nursery and I'm really hoping that keeps my mind occupied and busy until we are matched or receive a phone call!

I hope everyone who is waiting keeps updating this post... that also helps to ease my mind. I love hearing the stories!

-Tammy

[Jenn4615]

Hi Tammy,
First of all Congrats! This forum is wonderful! You might want to check this thread out too. There are a bunch of great women and one man, waiting to be matched! They have all been great! anyone else recently joined the ranks of waiting to be matched?
check it out. Hope to see you there!
Jenn