[stone]

Hi my name is Stacie,and I have one bio child ,age 9,and two adopted daughters ,age 6 and 9 months.I will tell you there is absolutely no difference in the love and bond that is felt with any of my children.The one thing that aggravates me,is when a person wonders if you can love an adopted child as much as a biological child.There is absolutely no difference!!!!God chose to build our families in different ways.I am sooo blessed to have these children in my life.

I wrote and published a book in responce to DD questions concerning this topic.Please check out my homepage through my profile page.I would love comments and feedback.The children's picture book is written for an adopted child wondering why she grew in her mama's heart instead of her belly.

I have done such a good job explaining how special adoption is,that my bio son actually was worried that he may not be as special ,since adoption is so wonderful.So we have to remember to glorify all the special ways,in which God brings us our children.

After you check out my website,send feedback.I'd love to see what each of you thinks about the idea.
Stacie

[Victoria Lane]

I have a bio son and a foster to adopt 6 year old daughter as you know. You're right you can absolutely love an adopted child as much as a bio child. I still can't believe how our daughter has compleated our family. We ALL adore her. I did get your book and I have to say it IS the best childrens book ever written. I love it, my daughter loves it as does my whole family. You have no idea how it touched us.
Victoria

[ucme4dk]

Hi Stacie,
My husband and I had our first child Ethan and then expanded our family through adoption. We had always planned on adopting children at some point...and since we were having secondary infertility issues we knew that G-d had planned for us to adopt when we did. I totally agree with you in the statement that there for my husband and I atleast is *NO* difference in the amount of love/bond that we have with any of our 3 kids. I think sometimes my son Ethan feels a little cheated since his story of being born ect is not quite as glamorous to him as our adoptions. He has before told me "mom I was adopted too!!" I know that G-d chose for us to have all of our children not just the biological ones...The one thing I *do* know for sure is that I have been blessed immensely to be given the opportunity to raise and guide such amazing children!!
Sincerely,

[Jensboys]

ROFL Stacie - both of my bio boys have gone through stages were they were ADAMANT they were adopted too and very sad when it was explained that they werent. They want birthparents who love them and send them gifts

Jen

[stone]

Hi girls,I agree with you that sometimes our sons or bio children feel cheated.I work hard to make them all feel special.My son wanted me to write a book for him,so I just finished writing a song.My mother will sing the song with her music group.I certainly do not sing,so that option is out.LOL I did not inherit that trait from my mother.I wish I could sing though.Hopefully the song will make him feel more special.It is so difficult, at times ,to make them all feel special.Sometimes we overcompensate for the adopted child,and the bio child is left out.I think adoptive parents with bio children,worry that adopted children wont feel special and loved enough,so sometimes we go overboard.We can be creative though in many ways.
Victoria,Thank you again for all of the compliments.You are such a sweet person with a big heart.
Stacie

[Colorbind love]

Yup. We have 3 bio kids and are working to bring our our 5th child (2nd adoption).

We also have more children who entered our extended family via adoption than birth, believe it or not. Once while we were in the process of bringing her brother home, my oldest dd asked me who else in her great big family was like her and only had 1 mommy. I swear, I had to think hard about that question! This is the same dd who wants to know why her brother's African family isn't also HER African family. She thinks its kind of unfair that she has 1 great big family and he has 2. But, she's okay with the adoption issues. In fact, all of the kids are super excited about getting their brother home from India--now if we can just actually get him here!

[2boyz1girl]

I also have two bio sons (oldest was adopted by my dh though) and we just adopted (TODAY ) our daughter. I bonded with our baby immediately and think that I might have even been more protective of her than I was with the boys (but then, she was only 1/2 their size at birth). My four-year-old often talks about his "other Mom," or he'll say "when I went on visits..." (Dd came through foster care and had visitation off and on for her first year). I love the fact that our children can come from anywhere and we love them all the same.

[HappyMomAnna]

I have two of each--no difference here either!

My uncle had three children and one was adopted--he used to always say he couldn't remember who was who because in those days they didn't let men in the delievery room so it was all the same to him.....

[Jensboys]

Anna - thats very funny!

[traceyk]

Although we haven't adopted YET, we do have two bio daughters and are adopting due to unexplained infertility. But I must say, things have changed a LOT since my teenage daughters were born so it is like starting all over again