[joskimo]

well our pbmom flaked out on her apt. yesterday so we didn't speak last night. They rescheduled for today, it's the glucose tolerance test and then we're supposed to speak tonight. She has another apt. next Monday and we're supposed to talk after that one too.

Katmom2 - hope your pbmom's doc apt. goes well too -

[katmom2]

Hi Jo,
Well, your not the only one. Our son's bmom also didn't make her appt. today. She did try, but the doctor office is in the process of moving and couldn't see her at either location. They sent her a letter about the move but didn't receive it in the mail until she got home tonight. So, they rescheduled her for Thursday morning. Then we were suppose to have our phone conference today. Well, that didn't happen either due to weather. They were having an ice storm. Neither our socialworker or bmom had electric, so we rescheduled that for Thursday also. Geez, what an ordeal.

Counting down the days until this is over. 38 for me if Feb. 11th is the correct due date. I did buy 3 sleepers today and going out shopping again tomorrow. Also, I charged the battery up on the camcorder and the digital camera. Tomorrow I'm going to look at bracelets and I've been trying to find a baby photo album that isn't pink or blue. I don't have time to make one this time around. Well, gotta go for now. I hope you got your phone call tonight jo.

mom to
dd 7 yrs. old
ds 4 yrs. old
matched 9/04
due date 2/1/05 or 2/11/05

[blueyes113]

Hi Ladies,

It seems as though we're all having some pbom issues. I talked to the SW today, and she hasn't talked to J since the beginning of December. She's left J a few messages but none have been returned. Evidently, she did this the last time, too. No one heard from her and then she called the agency and said "Okay, the baby is born, now what do you want me to do." The SW and I discussed everything and decided that J probably has no intention of going to FL for the birth and doesn't want to discuss it. So if she doesn't call, she doesn't have to. The SW is probably going to send her a note saying that she can stay in Ohio for the birth, but to please contact her.

KatMom2 - Tosha still doesn't have any electric. She called me on her cell phone but said that she didn't have too much power left on that either. Hopefully, she'll have power by tomorrow so you can have the conference call.

Jo - Did you ever get to talk to pbmom last night? How did it go?

Gotta go help dh take down the Christmas tree now. I'll talk to you later.

[joskimo]

Hi All,

Well didn't get to talk to my pbmom last night, she did go to her glucose test yesterday but it kind of got messed up so sh maight have to retake it. We're supposed to talk tonight, it kind of drives me crazy how many times it takes for us to connect, mostly because we're expected to be at home night after night waiting for the phone to ring, it's like junior prom all over again!!

I've been doing some "get ready" things. I've got mailing labels typed up for announcements and I entered email addresses into the address book of my web based email so I can send out pictures when we travel. Silly things, but I know my time will be at a premium shortly. And the most exciting thing for me is that I finally found orthepedic newborn nipples. This had been a quest. My daughter had to have ortho nipples and binkies, watch baby #2 not care, that's okay, I feel better having bought them.

48 days and counting, how are the rest of you holding out?

[HopeAlive]

What in the world??? I thought I would get emails when there are new posts on this thread and have been so busy at work. I got home tonight and thought, geez, are they being quiet or what? Here you guys are chatting away. Sorry for the delay... Whoops!

Okay...polls first:
1) I love my perfume: Pleasures by Estee Lauder. It's a soft, clean scent. Not too sweet. I don't wear anything else.
2) I'm 31, DH is 28 (29 on Sunday ). We've been through multiple miscarriages and decided to pursue adoption instead.
3) I work fulltime. I'm talking 10 weeks off and then return to work full time. I go in around 7:30, home around 3:30 so it's not too bad. We have a SAHM set up for our childcare who lives really close.

DH and I are both cc. Our little guy is half hispanic, 1/4 Irish and 1/4 Italian. His bmother and bfather are quite handsome. He'll be a lady-killer.

I have to second everyone here on the tax stuff. I spoke with our acct a few weeks ago and he said that it had to be the year that the adoption was finalized. So we have to wait until taxes for 2005. Good news though, he said once it's finalized to call him and he'll figure out what we need to withhold for taxes. He says it's likely that we won't need to withhold hardly anthing because of the tax credit.

I also nixed the baby shower until we come home with our guy. Then BRING THEM ON! We could use all the help we can get.

One other thing to think about...I work in a hospital so it was easy for me, but, you might want to speak with a social worker for a labor and dleivery floor, your OB or your pediatrician to get the new parent binders, videos, etc that they have for new moms. I got a TON of things including samples, etc. I also called to the hospital that our bmother is going to deliver at and spoke with the RN that coordiates all the adoptions. We had a nice chat and she's going to send me some of their "here's how it will go" papers. Just if you guys are interested.

Work is totally kicking my booty right now, ugh! I'm beat. There's a winter storm warning and we are expecting 6-8+ inches of snow tonight. Maybe it'll snow a ton and then I can't work tomorrow. Ha! That will never happen. Here in Wisconsin they are way to quick to plow the roads. Boooooooooo.

HOpe everyone is having a nice week.

-S

[katmom2]

Hi everyone,
Glad you checked back in with us Hope. Well, I'm slowly getting ready. Bought a few more things today. I didn't get the Charm bracelet though. They were out of some of the letters I needed to spell her name. So, will have to check someplace else.

Jo, Sorry you didn't get your phone call last night. Hopefully you will tonight. It's such a rough road waiting. It won't be long though and it will be all over.

blueyes, That's what I've been afraid of that Tosha still wouldn't have electic. I heard that it maybe days before they get everyone back on. My SIL's mom is stuck there close to where Tosha lives. She was passing through going home and got iced in and tonight she said it was snowing. Ugh! I'm thinking she will have to postpone our phone conference again . I hope the roads are ok for our bmom to get out and at least go to the doctor tomorrow.
Regarding what you said about the socialworker not hearing from your pbmom in awhile. The same thing happened with my dd's bmom. She didn't keep good contact and all of sudden called the agency and said I had the baby. I think this is common also. Hang in there it won't be long.

I'll let you all know what happens tomorrow on my end. Bye for now.

mom to
dd 7 yrs old
ds 4 yrs old.
matched 9/04
due date 2/1/05 or 2/11/05

[HopeAlive]

Anyone with any news or updates today? Not much here...just waiting. Had a nice visit with our pediatrician but that's it. Hope you all are having a nice week.

-S

[joskimo]

Hi all,

Nothing new to report here either. I did talk to my state ICPC coordinator just to get a feel for what I"m looking at. She's worked w/ my adopting state before and says they are quick, the problem is our location, rural so express mail is really 2 day mail which means if we're lucky 4 days to get paper work from adopting state to home state back to adopting state. So we'll definitely have a stay when we adopt. Our adoption coordinator recommended a nice estended stay hotel but I think I"m going to look for one with a pool so dd#1 has something to get some energy out. She wants to come but a week is a long time.

No call from pbmom this week, I talked to the agency coordinator and he expressed that she's feeling down this week and didn't want to call so we're tentatively planning on next Monday after her next doc apt. I also got a care package off in the mail to her but I don't know if she'll have it by next Monday when the agency coordinator sees her next.

Oh and I called a pediatrician's office today. We've all been going to family practice for so long but I want to take baby to a pediatrician for a few years. So I got the 411 on what to make sure I have and when to bring her in, etc. She was recommedned to me by a friend who works in early intervention.

Hopealive, thanks for the advice, maybe I'll call the hospital where pbmom is delivering. I feel better making calls, finding something out, just feels like accomplishing something!

Katmom2: good luck w/ your bracelet, I thought I'd wait until Feb. for the amathyst necklace, since it's the jewel of the month, hoping to find a special.

Blueyes: Hope your SW hears from pbmom soon, there's enough to worry about!

So 47 days and counting!

Jo

[katmom2]

I have news today...
We finally had our first phone conference tonight. It went very well. She sounded very happy and talked alot. She was very happy about the care package that I sent. She said it had all the right stuff in it. Also, the doctor says she is dilated to 3 and she is having an ultrasound tomorrow. So, she asked if we wanted to know if it's a boy or girl and we said yes. We will get a call from our social worker telling us about that.

I need to call the pediatrian tomorrow and give them the heads up. Thanks for reminding me of that.

blueyes, Tosha still doesn't have electric. So, we had to do our phone conference via her cell phone. It worked out though.

Well, I better go. Need to plan some things. I think this baby might be coming sooner that we had expected. Hmmm, wonder if it will be a January baby.

mom to,
dd 7 yrs old
ds 4 yrs old
matched 9/04
due date 2/11/05

[katmom2]

More good news!!
Just found out this morning we are having a GIRL!!!
We are very excited now. The baby has lots of hair and is head down and in position. So, it could be anytime. I could be having a January baby. Gotta go for now.

mom to
dd 7 yrs old
ds 4 yrs old
matched 9/04
due date 2/11/05
Found out "IT'S A GIRL 1/7/05

[HopeAlive]

Congrats Kat! That's great news! How very exciting!

We're still working on the whole repeat ultrasound, etc. Turns out her OB's office had the wrong home number and has been leaving messages where she doesn't live anymore. I got all panic-y before realizing that they had the wrong number thinking...did she take off? Has she changed her mind? She does have an appt scheduled for Jan 11, so we should know more then.

Our atty for our bmother we know pretty well, she was teasing me and told me not to be such a "worry wart". Ummmm....easier said then done. We are weeks away of seeing our dream of becoming a mommy and a daddy come true after much pain and loss over the last year and a half, it's hard not to be a nervous wreck. Am I allowed to be an anxious wreck? I try and keep it together for the most part, but sometimes it's hard. It's only going to get worse before it gets better, I can't help it. I'm just scared. What do I do, just sit here and duct tape my mouth shut? Maybe I should. Looks like I should let DH do the talking since he's able to be a bit calmer then I. ((sigh))

Ugh...

-S

[blueyes113]

Kat - A girl! How wonderful! Dd's been driving me crazy today but girls are so much fun. And boy do they decide on clothes preferences at a very early age! LOL And she's already dialated to 3 cm? I think you're going to end up with a January baby. You're not going to desert our group if you do, are you?

S - I can relate to the "worry wart" side of all this, especially now since pbmom doesn't want to communicate with the agency. I'm not sleeping well at all. I know I should try to get decent sleep now before the baby is home, but it's hard when you're nervous. And I'm not going to be able to sleep when the baby sleeps because that is when dd will demand her time. You don't need duct tape, though. Just vent all your worries here. That's why we're all here!

We don't know what hospital pbmom is going to deliver at, and we won't be going to the hospital (she doesn't want her family to be nasty to us), so we probably won't get any of the goodies from the hospital unless pbmom gives them to us. Having "been there, done that" we really don't need any of the binders or videos, but the samples would be nice. I registered on all the formula sites, the Gerber site and one other (can't remember which) last night, so I should be getting a lot of samples. I'll probably get a lot of "taking care of your body after birth" type stuff too, but oh well. Their sites don't recognize adoption. Maybe we should all write to them and ask them to add adoption to their questionaires for registration.

We're on our way over to the in-laws. Talk to you all later!

[joskimo]

Katmom2 -- congrats!!!! Girls are so much fun!!! I know my dh would have been thrilled with a boy but I was so happy when we found out we are expecting another girl. And you are not allowed to leave us even if you have a Jan baby okay? Are you going to get the u/s pics?

Hopealive -- I'm a ball of nerves as well, there aremoments I want to shout off the roof tops "I'm having a baby!!" but I'm so nevous things are going to head south. I have what I call "restrained joy". I'm trying to temper my excitement so if it fails my whole spirit won't be crushed, though I know it would anyways.

Blueyes - thanks for the tidbit on the sites, I should cruise some and sign up for freebies. Goodness knows I need all I can get!

I got no news of my own, but pbmom has a doc apt. on MOn and hopefully we'll talk afterwords.

Good thoughts to you all -- J

[sadiegirl]

JO,

I feel as you do; sometimes I want to even tell the woman in front of me in the grocery line, "I am having a baby in 3 weeks!" and then other days, you wonder if it is REALLY gonna happen! And you're right, restrained joy is a perfect way to describe it. To top it all off, I am now more excited than scared and we have been slowly working on the nursery. DH keeps balking at doing it, I think to protect himself. But you are right, it's gonna hurt no matter what if it falls thru.

I may be joining you in the Feb group; our bmom is due 1/31 and I just feel she will go past her due date.

Anyway, ++++ thoughts and happy endings to all of us!

[joskimo]

Hi Sadiegirl and welcome to the thread, 1/31 is so close! You must be just beside yourself. Due dates are definitely an imperfect science, I had dd a week and a half early and she was 9.1 -- not sure if I could have delivered naturally if I went to or past term!! I"m sure hopeful that dd#2 will be early as well.

I think we all try to build in a little padding for self-preservation but not sure if it works or not. Here's to hoping none of us need that padding.

Jo