[SadieAnn]

My dh & I run our own business. We were matched @ 2 mos before birth and then lost the baby after we had him home 5 wks. This particular 3 mos was the absolute worst time of year for our business for us to be distracted. We felt pulled in so many directions! We felt like we were dropping balls left and right! (And we were!!) I am a big PLANNER. The lack of control was very hard to accept!

But even despite the hard circumstances following birth, up until our loss, there was a huge CALM for us while we had this baby home. Even amid the chaos, everything was worth bearing while he was in our lives. So just remember that there is an end in sight, and once you have that baby in your arms it will all be worth it!! But as far as thinking about MORE SLEEP later... dream on!!!! (((hug)))

Good luck!

[Casey677]

SadieAnn, I am absolutely amazed by your strength. I can't even begin to imagine what your family has gone through. And yet, here you are...... optimistic, uplifting, strong, witty, and helping others.

Casey

(Wishing she was more like SadieAnn......)

[joskimo]

I totally relate to the overwhelmed, I work and I think my boss is getting sick of how much this dominates my life, especially since I didn't discuss this the adoption prior to match in Dec. To make it worse, my job is ending in a few months so I"m sort of trying to find another job, my heart's not in it because my heart is with Peanut right now. I've aplied for a few jobs but how's that going to be that my first thing to say is "by the way I"m going to need some maternity leave?" I've been crunching numbers to see if I can find a way to stay home but we'd still have to have a supplimental income so it's just aggrevating me. I was offered one job last week but turned it down because of pay, and I've got one more out there waiting to hear back on, I'd like the job but would rather stay home w/ the baby and DD#1, maybe at least thru summer - which we could afford. It's just not the ideal time to be looking for work.

So enough about that. It's February!! We're in our month, the final stretch!!! 21 days but hoping for less then 18

Biny, you're life will get a new "normal" soon, the nice thing about newborns is that they sleep ALL THE TIME. You have to love that. It'll give you and your partner time to coo over her and relax and regroup.

Casey, hope your wrong about the overdue, no one likes to go over!!

Blueeyes, you are doing wonderful, resigned or patience, 6 of one, 1/2 a dozen of the other, you seem to be keeping it together..Ohio in Feb? Haha, just like us, Kansas in Feb :P My adoption coordinator had a good laugh if I get stuck there to be enjoying lovely Kansas in the spring. I pointed out that I might live in Alaska but it was 20 degrees warmer here then there.

Okay, happy Tuesday to you all. Oh, got our fingerprints done last night, off to fed ex them to Public Safety today. Here's hoping an angel flies them thru the process!

[Sarah0518]

hate to burst joskimo's bubble, but not all babies sleep alot, even as newborns. we had only 2-1/2 weeks from match to birth, an expired homestudy to update, and travel plans to another state to arrange. Things got VERY behind at home during that time period. Thought we'd be able to catch up during all that sleep the first few weeks. WRONG! By the time he was a week old, ds has only taken very short naps - half an hour at a time if we were lucky.

[joskimo]

Originally Posted by Sarah0518

hate to burst joskimo's bubble, but not all babies sleep alot, even as newborns. we had only 2-1/2 weeks from match to birth, an expired homestudy to update, and travel plans to another state to arrange. Things got VERY behind at home during that time period. Thought we'd be able to catch up during all that sleep the first few weeks. WRONG! By the time he was a week old, ds has only taken very short naps - half an hour at a time if we were lucky.

Well every baby is different I know most of the baby books indicate that newborns require a lot of sleep and my daughter was really a glorified paperweight for several weeks. Of course she was up when I wanted to sleep, but I had a lot of peace and quiet during the daytime.

[HopeAlive]

Hi all. Binyasa I must absolutely echo your post! It's totally overwhemling, yet so exciting. I could either vomit or jump up at down all at the same time!

Things are moving along down here. Supposedly at the last OB appt last week our pbmother wasn't dilated at all. Today she has been feeling awful, lots of cramping and pressure in her pelvis. We even went to the OB appt early because she had more pain... She's now 2 cm dilated and quite a bit effaced. They said it could be any time now or it could be awhile yet, we just don't know. I think it's odd that she has progressed so quickly so I'm starting to think it will be sooner rather than later. My heart starts racing just thinking about it! Any time? Holy COW!

That's it for me! ONe of these days I'll be able to read everyone's post but I keep getting bumped off the internet at the library since there is a wait.

Take care. Welcome to February!!!!!!

-S

[katmom2]

Hi everyone,

I'm feeling so much better today. Yesterday was awful. Were suppose to get snow tonight. Just hope we don't have to travel in it.

Binyasa, I can totally relate to being overwhelmed. I've been this way for oh about 5 months now. Trust me though it does get better. I've been through this twice before and now on my third time around. Even though right now I have pretty much everything ready. Just the waiting and waiting for the baby to be born is overwhelming. It is soooo worth it though once you have that baby in your arms so hang in there. ((((Hugs))))

Blueyes, I wrote to Tosha today and she is going to request again that the ultrasound be sent. She didn't know what happened.

Jo, I will be praying that your fingerprinting flies right through the processing and is back in your hands soon.

This is the latest update as of today. Our bmom is officially on maternity leave. She rescheduled her doctors appt this week due to the snow they had. So her new appt will be on Thursday.

Well, that's it for now. Hope to have another update Thursday or Friday.

It's almost midnight here so 16 days to go!
amom to
dd 7 years old
ds 4 years old
matched to adopt 9/04
found out it's a girl 1/7/05
due date 2/18/05

[Casey677]

Hi everyone! Glad those with colds are feeling better Nothing much to say, just feeling a bunch of nervous energy now that we are in February. A co-worker's friend who was due on 3/6 gave birth today..... made me realize just how close all of us are!

Anyone have any updates? All is well on our front.

Casey

[Binyasa]

Things are pretty quiet here too... S. has been feeling more and more crappy and uncomfortable and we're ALL hoping this baby comes soon.

DP and I are trying to get things together for our taxes so our refund can be put to immediate use.

Still feeling overwhelmed -- mostly due to work tasks not getting accomplished and a sense of dread that I may leave things in more disarray than I'd like... ugh. Still, I'm starting to see the silver lining.

We have our next Dr's appt on Friday and are hoping for more good news about this baby coming before his due date. Since she went two weeks early with her other pregnancy, we're hoping this one will follow his brother into the world on the same timeframe. One can hope anyway!!

Casey -- I hear you on the nervous energy. I feel it too!

Jo, Hope, Kat and eveyone else who commiserated with my feelings of being totally in over my head -- THANK YOU. It really helps to have had a supportive group of people traveling the same path as we move forward with this adoption. (hug)

I'm crossing my fingers that we all have successful adoptions and that these babies all come early!!!! Who do you all think will be the first to have their baby born? I'm putting my dinero on Hope!

[blueyes113]

Hi Everyone,

No news to report on our end. Just checking in to see how everyone else is doing.

Kat - I'm glad you're feeling better! I think my cold has finally left as well, but now dh has it. I hope you get the ultrasound results soon. The baby may be born before they show up.

Binyasa - I think we're all feeling overwhelmed right now. There are just too many feelings to process. However, I just want to warn you that you and your partner will never have the amount of one-on-one time you used to have. This is not a bad thing, it's just a fact of parenthood. You have to set aside "date nights" and get a babysitter. If either Grandma lives close, I'm sure they'll be more than happy to oblige. I also know you want pbmom to enjoy herself while she is in your town, but that doesn't mean you need to spend every night with her. Take one night per week until the baby is born and make it a date night. And make sure it isn't used for taxes or bill paying. I'm sure pbmom will understand and it will give you both some much needed regrouping time.

I'm not sure what I'm feeling right now. Part of me is overwhelmed and part of me is distanced from the whole thing. I'm sure that's a defense mechanism in case we never hear from pbmom again. Unfortunately, I know I'm going to be a wreck starting next week and I don't know what to do about it. The pms timing is really bad this month, especially when we have no clue how pbmom is doing and if she still intends to go through with the adoption. So if my posts next week are really off the wall, please bear with me. By Valentine's Day I should be back on an even keel again.

In case anyone is interested, 37 weeks is considered full term. So Hope, Kat, Jo, Binyasa, and Casey - our pbmoms could give birth any day now..........................

19 days and praying (as of Thursday)

[Binyasa]

Just so everyone knows, I'm not suffering from any delusions that having a newborn will be anything other than a crazy time and I do realize that I won't sleep or have alone-time with my hunny.

I'm just ready to switch out the challenges inherent with having a temporary housemate (my displaced friend who offered up her home to S. while she's in our state) and zero free time due to work obligations/home-readying/entertaining/chauferring/appointments to the challenges inherent in having a new 'housemate' that cries a lot and needs to be changed and fed frequently and zero free time due to the parade of visitors we'll surely get/incessent laundry/constant staring-at-my-baby time.

Luckily though, my mom *does* live close by and is already itching to babysit. So, date nights will hopefuly happen here and there.

Dale -- you're in my thoughts. As is your PBM... I hope you hear from her SOON. I'm also feeling weirdly detached right now... where I was SO excited and emotional at frist, now I'm really not feeling much in the way of emotion... either positive or negative. I think you're right -- it's got to be a defense mechanism.

Bah.

Someone have their baby here already! I can't wait to hear of these little ones being born!

[HopeAlive]

Looks like we're all still waiting...

No news yet on our front. Our bmother is feeling a little better, still with lots of pressure in her pelvis. Next OB appt isn't until Tues if she's still pg, we both wish that she could have appts every few days to see if she's continuing to dilate. Sounds like her cervix is pretty far effaced so that sounds good. She can't stand the idea that this could go on for a few weeks. Me either! It's hard to be patient and hard to find stuff to do to keep us busy. Especially since she's not feeling the greatest.

Today is her atty's bday and we're heading off to lunch with her and a movie. We have tickets to the comedy show tonight. So today will be busy. The rest of the weekend we don't have much planned.

I hope you are all doing well and hanging in there. I'll post when I know more and to see how you are all doing. I hope these little guys start arriving soon!

Take care.

-S

[katmom2]

Hi! I just have a minute. I have exciting news I wanted to tell everyone. Our son's bmom will have a c-section on Wed. Feb 9th. I'll explain more later. Gotta go for now.

[mamacrina]

Originally Posted by katmom2

Our son's bmom will have a c-section on Wed. Feb 9th.

AWESOME NEWS!!! Early Congrats! Wow, a mom in 5 days....

M. called me today and she has pneumonia. I'm more than a little scared as to what will happen. So far, she is home, but if she develops a fever, she'll be hospitalized. She is coughing so hard she might've broken a rib.

I'm trying to find out what pneumonia will do to her and the baby. M. is at 35 weeks. Does anyone here know?

Hugs, A worried Crina

[katmom2]

Hi!
Crina, Sorry to hear about your pbmom being so sick. I will say a prayer for her that she gets well soon and doesn't have to go into the hospital.

Here are a few more details on what is going on with us. We got a call today from our socialworker stating that our bmom went to the doctor. She is miserable and asked for them to induce her. Well, to make a long story short they decided it would be best to do a C-section instead. So, the baby is suppose to be born Wed. Feb 9th. We will be leaving sometime on Tuesday to travel in that direction. Talk about being overwhelmed. Now I am more than ever. I've got a hundred things to do before then.

Wow, Only 5 days to go!!! Everyone hang on your babies will all be here soon too. It won't be long now.

amom to
dd 7 years old
ds 4 years old
matched to adopt our son's bio sibling 9/04
found out it's a girl! 1/7/05
due date 2/18/05
Baby to be born by C-section 2/9/05