[kls0926]

Help, My husband and I drove 1 hour , 1/2 to be in the delivery room with our **. I saw the baby being born, fed him, changed him, held him for 2 days in the hospital. I even was able to stay in the hospital over night. I became attatched too quickly. She has decided to parent the baby.

[Casey677]

((Big Hug)) I know that you are really hurting right now.... and you will probably hurt for some time to come. Nothing I can say will make it any better. But it does get easier.

We had a similar situation 2 months ago except that CPS had a hold on the baby. Because of that we REALLY let ourselves get attached knowing that our pbmom would not be allowed to parent. But alas CPS released their hold and she decided to parent (very condensed version... LOL) I still think of him daily, especially with Christmas coming.

Now I really feel ready to go again and my husband and I are waiting (im)patiently to hear from our agency about another situation. Our little one who is meant to be ours is out there and yours is too! I know it is hard right now to have that faith, but you can't lose sight of it!

Casey

[kls0926]

Thank you. I told our agency that I want to be on the list right away. We watied 14 months already, I do not know if I can wait too much longer, especially if we go off for a while. This way we can be shown right away.

Karen

[Happy2Bhere]

HI!
Same thing happened to us a few years ago- the birthmom started doing drugs in the hospital, so the social workers removed the baby before any papers could be signed. I was SO sad, but hindsite- looking back, the birthmom didn't want to list the birthfather, she was into blackmailing & suing everyone, the situation would have been less than desirable, but I didn't care at the time, the baby was so sweet, and I loved her right away. At the time, I didn't care about the baggage that would come with the adoption, and I was devestated- came home, sold everything, took me a year to brave starting the road again.
I know you're in pain right now. It doesn't take long for your heart to grow attached.
All I can say, for us, I know the situation wasn't "THE ONE" and if it had gone through, we wouldn't have our dear sweet little Annabelle. She was DEFINETLY meant to be in this family.
Take time to heal. When women have miscarriages, they are allowed to grieve- but for us adoptive families, when this sort of thing happens, people don't quite understand & say "Better luck next time" or "Keep your chin up"
Luckily you have the forum for answers, support & encouragement. I didn't have it back when this happened to me, and even family didn't understand the pain.
Take care-
Melissa

[susanlowman]

Casey,
I am so sorry this happened to you! I hope that you find your little girl or boy soon! Take time to grieve (all the time you need) and I admire your willingness to start your search again!!

[79nic]

kls,

I'm so sorry this happened to you. ((hugs))

Nicole

[amom4life]

Karen~ This happened to us last year so I know what you're going through. We also opted to jump right back in and I believe it helped in our healing and we were called about our son almost exactly one moth later.
Judy

[Ldyjane60]

So sorry to hear Dh just had Our DD recliamd after being with us for little over a wk we know how heartbreaking this can be but just give urselfs time to heal take time cry and take care of yourselfs. DH and MIL are going out tonight as hard as it is for me too even leave the house right now. I know I need to get out and do something. Our thoughts and prayers are with you Take Care God Bless Bea

[squeek]

How devistating this could be.

The agency that we've chosen to work with does not allow us any contact with the baby until the revocation period is up. Thankfully, here it is only 7 days. The baby goes to a respite care worker who cares for the baby until the 8th day when we pick him/her up.

[mommy2savanna]

I am so sorry for your lost and remember it is a lost and you need to grieve it as such. ((HUGS))

DH and I had a failed match back in Sept., it was one of the most heart breaking thing I had to go through. We decided not to wait and had our agency start showing our resume right away. We are currently matched (matched in Nov.) again. Of course we are scared but we know that it will work out according to God's plan....good or bad. Regardless, we have faith that we will be blessed again with another son or daughter just as you will. Please keep the faith ((HUGS again)).

Ruth

Mom to Princess Savanna thru adoption 07/27/00
Awaiting #2 since 08/06/03
One failed match
Currently matched again - it's a boy due 01/07/05

[Support2Adopt]

I am so sorry this happened to you. I know how devastating it can be. I applaud you for getting right back into the swing of things and hopefully you will have a baby in no time.
JJ

[Livingmydream]

hi- we had different circumstances, but the same outcome. We also left the hospital with an empty carseat. We had even named the little girl. We jumped right back in, received a call wthin 2 months and guess what- the bmoms name was the same name we had named the baby. I knew instantly, that this baby was mine. Hugs and please keep your face to the sunshine!