[Bttrcupps]

Hi All

My husband and I are in the process to become foster/adopt parents. We looked into all forms of adoption and that is the route we decided was the best choice for us. we've finished our classes, our homestudy (but have decided to sell our home--needs too much work) but now my nephew has told me he has a friend who is pregnant and wishing to place the child with an adoptive family. He mentioned us and she said yes. I know it is not as easy as that but I'm not sure how to proceed. I have read so many books and websites and now I'm clueless as what to do first, next, so on. We live in different states, we have an attorney, she has not had prenatal care or any medical coverage, does not how far along she is, the father is from another country and still there, she has not contacted him. She had another child several years ago that has been adopted by her father and his wife through cps. They may choose to adopt this child also. We would obviously not proceed with anything if that is what they decide. What do I do?

[white_cloud_200]

i think it takes absolute courage to have the patients
to wait for someone to give up there child and for you
and others to adopt.there are lot of children who need loving
homes and parents to love them unconditionally.do you know whats really sad? i have a sister who has a baby that just turned
2 years old on halloween. and she don't give a rats behind about
her baby.the father cares but doesn't do nothing to stop the abuse in the home. the maternal grandmother is trying to get him
i would tak him but i have no room and i work.i guess what i am
trying to say is not everyone deserves to be parents.well i hope you get the baby you want or you get a baby that you can love:)

micky

[tobeafamily]

First, have your friend give this pbparent your contact information and see if she contacts you directly to discuss a possible adoption plan.

If she does contact you, and it seems like a connection - i.e. you want similar things, etc. - then give her your attorney's name and number and recommend she contact them so she understands all legal aspects.

Let the attorney get proof of pregnancy, pbfather name(s), etc - they're paid to ask the hard questions.

If you all agree to connect and make an adoption plan together. From there, you wait until the child is born and TPRs are signed.

Does this help?

Regina

[white_cloud_200]

actaully its my nephew . my sister can't or doesn't no how to
care for her child and the baby's dad is a drug addict who can't help neither.as far as the parternal grandmother is concerned
she really isn't in a position to care for him neither.i think the best thing for my nephew is either long term foster care or adoption.but they will have to find out whats going on with my sister.i wouldn't have a problem with her keeping her baby if she could only love him and think of him first instead of herself. the question i have is what do you think i should do? should i talk to my daughters father to see if we could take him in? or just leave him to the system. i am a very selfish person.if i took him in i would want to adopt him and take care of him but my sister would try to come and try to tell me how to raise him. i need someones advice? micky

[quincy76]

You could also go to an agency and do an idetified adoption.
We have our foster/adoption lic. and we just went to an agency
We contacted a local christian orgnazation you can find them in your phone book. Good Luck either way.