[MMC66]

Our pbmom is due to be induced one week from today. I haven't slept in days - maybe 4 hours a night. Everything is packed, baby's room is ready I can't think straight, can't stay on task, I should be enjoying the peace and quiet and getting lots of rest in preparation - no such luck. Any advice out there??????? Our pbmom is doing much better than I am LOL

[LisaCA]

wow, how exciting!

my advice: accept that this next week will probably be one of the least productive of your adult life:-).

I had only a couple of days from possible match to birth, so i can't speak to the emotional toll. I can say that I'd try to do some fun stuff, maybe go out to dinner most of the week, do as much laundry as possible, cook a few meals and freeze them (no matter what happens, everyone loves to not cook), and shop. I shopped the month I was waiting for a match, just looking at used stores (nice because you need to go there twice or so a week to catch the deals), or shop on line (endless baby crap online-fantastic). I read a ton of baby care books, novels, etc. I also had a project I had to complete so I was working about 12 hours a day at home-nice to try and focus on something even if it was pretty useless.

and get in the car and go shopping far away. we live inland LA and so we went to other parts, outlets etc to find stuff. killed much time that way.

oh and forget the rest. I was totally sleep deprived before baby arrived, and was comatose her first week:-). thank god i didn't have to drive much in chicago, or I'd have been a safety menace.

and finally, hang out here online. we can always use your time wisely:-).

good luck and keep us posted on all the details,

LisaCA

[kashicaat]

LOL...no advice here, but I understand how you feel. Our pbmom is now almost a week overdue and everytime the phone rings, my heart nearly jumps into my throat...and let me tell you, it's hard to slep because I am ready to crawl out of my skin waiting and I am SO NOT a patient person!

Good luck, and just try to keep as busy as possible. (I know my dh has enjoyed these last few days...I have been baking all sorts of new things..lol)

[Leigh131313]

I'd say pick up some pina colada mix....but....I'd hate to see you show up at the hospital a lil tipsy...lol

I bet your house is absolutely SPOTLESS by this time huh? lol

Just wanted to wish you luck!
Leigh

[lonzygray]

Ahhhhhhhhhhh.....

YOU ARE an expecting mom and acting perfectly "normal"!!! You may not be expecting from the belly, but your heart and nerves ARE and they are experiencing what all expecting moms do!!!

Congratulations and best of luck!!!

[MMC66]

Thanks for the replies. now I have only 6 more days left. Talked to pbmom today, she is sounding a little down but still committed to her decision. She doesn't know if she wants to have the baby in her hospital room or not. She just wants to go home as soon as possible and recover and get on with her life. I admire her SO much. I wish I could make this easier.

Yes Leigh, my house is pretty darn clean and not a speck of dirty laundry. I think we're going to the movies tonight, then a couple of soccer games tomorrow. I leave for Chicago on Tues to go with pbmom to her ast Dr. appointment then we're going to "hang out" together on Wednesday before she is induced Thursday morning. I CAN'T STAND THIS!

Thanks for the support.

Martha:

[AMom2Two]

(((Martha))))

I just saw your post and couldn't help but get excited for you!! Oh my gosh you are so close. I think it's great that the pbmom has invited you to be part of the process. That melted my heart. I'll be following your thread. Keep us posted please, as soon as you can. I'm only thinking good thoughts for you.
Hugs,

[katieb31323]

Martha - I am right there with you! Our PBmom's official due date (finally got one) was Oct 12 (yup that 3 days ago). We heard today that pbmom is going into the hospital tommorow (Saturday?) and will be induced between 4-6pm. Anyone ever hear of anyone going in to be induced on the weekend?

It has been a long haul for us the last two weeks. We were first told the due date was Oct 1st. When that day arrived, we were told that that was incorrect and the correct due date was Oct 12, and a c-section was planned for that day. On Oct 12 we were told the dr wants to wait until Friday. Thats today, and now the doc is saying tommorow. I had the house clean and every bit of clothing that even considered being dirty washed now 2 times. And of course, there is more laudry and cleaning that could be done all over again! This time I just don't have much excitement in me....it has been replaced with anxiety which I tell you is making me a whole lot less productive.

I am sorry I am kind of hi-jacking your thread going on about my situation! I meant to post just to tell you, I with you and truely understand your anxiety!! I got it too!

That is so cool that pbmom wants you there, at the advice of her SW (I think) we are waiting until after the baby is born to travel and visit....I am guessing the SW wants to make sure she is still comfortable with her decision. And we do to. So hard to be patient! Good luck to you!

Katie

[amom4life]

Martha,
It does seem to go by so slow doesn't it! Keeping you in my prayers.
Judy

[Katrinad]

I am smiling all over my face reading all your posts about baby-waiting. It reminds me that with adoption and bio babies everything is DIFFERENT, but everything is the SAME!!
GOOD LUCK, THIS IS THE HAPPIEST STUFF I HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT ALL DAY AND I AM SO EXCITED FOR YOU ALL. THERE IS NOTHING LIKE THE JOY OF A NEW PERSON.
Kat

[MMC66]

OK now 5 days to go!!!!!

2 soccer games today. Juggling a couple of extra kids, doing a mojor grocery shopping, changing sheets on all the beds - do I know how to have fun or what Slept great until about 3AM then couldn't get my mind off that precious baby girl!!!

Tomorrow is more of the same. Trying to give our kids some individual attention 'cuz I could be gone for up to 2 weeks I'm told. Probably closer to a week though.

This board is my social life lately. Thank goodness y'all are here. All the different stories make me realize anything is possible and I need to leave it all up to God (sometimes easier said than done)

God Bless!

Martha

[georgiagirl]

Hang in there you are so close. I am so happy for you. Life has been so exciting and wonderful, I don't think that I have caught up on sleep yet and it has been close to five years.

[tomandcate]

Thinking of you Martha! Try to get some rest and take care of yourself!

Cate

[MMC66]

Freaking out a little today - OK A LOT. After reading all the posts about the "change of heart" statistics being 50% after the birth of the baby I have been completely bummed. My whole family will be so sad if this doesn't work out. I know all about risk - but now that it's so close, I am so emotionally invested, I don't know how I'll handle it if she changes her mind. She has seemed so committed to her decision all along. Her cw thinks she is committed as well. She even asked me if I wanted to cut the cord in the delivery room. I'm completely nuts today. I leave for Chicago on Tues AM, maybe I'll settle down a little when I get there - probably NOT. Thanks for letting me whine.

Martha

[AMom2Two]

Martha...

I have to doubt the 50/50 stat's. That sounds high to me. When both of our adoptions failed, the social workers were very surprised also. You just never know what will happen. I think it's great that she wants you in the room. She thought about it and feels comfortable with you being there at the start of this little baby's life. She doesn't want you to miss that. I think that's really special of her. Hang on to your hope and hang on to the positive that this is going to happen. Don't second guess yourself now and don't start worrying, cause it won't change a thing. Just be happy until you have a reason not to be. Go with the happiness. I'm here for you!!!!
Hugs,