[mommytobug]

I posted last week about pbmom not being in contact and not answering the phone for almost 2 weeks. Then, she called and said everything was fine,,bla bla bla. Anyway, the cw offered to meet her to help her with something she needed. She said she was going to call me that day. 2 hours and 200 dollars later she called to say she was confused, etc and could not take any more of our money for living expenses. I was DEVASTATED. We were DEVASTATED. UGHHHHH Felt like somone died. I cried til I could cry no more. Prayed and prayed. Well it is now a week later and the tears are gone. I am sad and i am worried about her. Funny, we are not rich by any means and have borrowed up to our eyeballs to make all this work. I am not mad because I truly think she had an adoption plan. Frustrated that she took 200 more that morning before she told us. And WORRIED she will call back because it is first of month and she will be BROKE. We are now going to have to save again. Just venting and updating. please keep us in your prayers. My SIL has offered to carry baby for us. She very easily gets pregnant. Would that make in vitro easy for her. When i say easy, I mean she knows when she is ovulating and she can get pregnant after 1 time................can you believe that)))) How blessed is she!!!

[redhedded]

Mommytobug, I am so sorry for what you are experiencing; I know how painful and disappointing it is, because I have been there - twice. First, have you considered an agency where you do not pay living expenses (or any other expenses); the agency pays them, and it is their risk, not yours. There are many such agencies, and were this to happen to you again, you would be emotionally devastated rather than emotionally and financially devastated. Knowing that our funds were applied toward a successful placement rather than a specific match enabled me to be strong, confident and feel okay both times that our matches failed.

On a sidenote, my sister also offered to be a surrogate mother for us. We never considered it for a moment though she was certainly sincere. Only you could examine and determine whether or not that will work for you; though I have lots of opinions about it. Adoption will happen for you, so please do not give in and throw in the towel on this journey due to impatience and disappointment. Wishing you peace and a short wait.

[tomandcate]

I'm sorry mommytobug, my heart hurts for you so much.

I am wondering the same thing redhedded mentioned as far as fees based on placement as opposed to based on a match. Our state doesn't allow PAP to pay anything other than non-insured medical, so it's not an issue for us...but if it were allowed I could only imagine how hard that would be for us to make decisions like yours.

I wish you peace in the days ahead, and I hope you can stay strong. It will be hard if she calls back but I have to wonder about her commitment at this point.

I will be thinking of you.

Cate

[Support2Adopt]

I am so sorry. I know how much this hurts.
JJ

[Cricket8351]

I too know how it feels...been there done that...as so many here have experienced as well.

It is tough but have faith...pray if you pray...and hang in there.

When your child comes, you will know why all of this happened to you. I can't explain it but you will just know.

Take care,
Cricket