[34andhopeful]

Hello All, I am not sure if this is the right place to pose this question, but I am not sure what to do - I hate waiting.

To make a long story short, I was diagnosed with blocked tubes, one was unblocked during this one procedure (I forget the name, its when they inject dye in your uterus to see if your tubes are blocked). After 5 failed rounds of infertility treatments (IUI and IVF) we adopted our son, Chris last January! We are sooooo lucky and blessed to have him.

Anyway, I am 10 days late! I took a pg test and the test was negative! The dr. sd said to wait a while - another week and do it again. That was last Friday.

My question is could it be an etopic pregnancy? Will the HcG HOrmone be present if there is an etopic pg?

Of course I have been daydreaming about my son's new brother or sister. I am trying not to get my hopes up.

Any advise would be awsome. Thanks for reading/listening.

[MommyofEli]

If you had and etopic pregnancy the hcg hormone would still be there. If you were thinking about babies or are under stress it may make you late........OR to be positive maybe you ovulated late and the hormone level was not up high enough for the test to read. You should retest!!!! Good luck and let us all know!

[sadiegirl]

Hopeful:

I had an ectopic pgy once, and my preg test was positive! I even went to the dr for a blood test and that came back + too. So yes, the pgy hormone can be present, even if it's tubal.

Are you having symptoms of a tubal? What makes you think it could be that?

If you aren't having any symptoms, unfortunately, you'll have to wait a week and take another HPT. Or can you take a blood test at your drs? Then they can do another in 2 days to see if your numbers double. If they don't, then it's an impending miscarriage or a tubal pgy.

PM me if you have q's. I will say a prayer for you that everything is ok.
HTH
Tina

[DBM68]

this is most definetely the wrong place to post this. call your doctor and/or find a more approp forum, the LAST thing I want to read here is pg chatter. I am reporting your post too.

[BrandyHagz]

Seeking advice/support from forum friends in a time of need is not against the ToS...nor is talking about pregnancy on any of the forums.

I'm sorry you're offended...

[MommyofEli]

DBM68......SORRY THAT THE POST BOTHERED YOU!! She just got done adopting a child and has been a member for a long time (2002) so she has made friends on this forum and can ask what she likes. I for one would be very happy for her if she was pg. she has been through alot and never got pg, so she adopted. now to think that she could be is wonderful and it is hope for everyone that it could happen when you least expect !!!! Again sorry that the post upset you.

[redhedded]

Um, I thought that I was confused. Thanks for the response Brandy. DBM: I have been a member of these forums for a long time, and I have found that no topic, of course within reason , is inappropriate for the forum here. We are here to provide support and encouragement, strength, glean advice and share our experiences when needed. We all share one thing: the adoption journey.

34: Hoping the best for you and wishing you peace during this stressful wait. Keep us posted.

[Snowfah]

Good luck Hopeful and 34. Let us know and don't worry about the tattletale that replied and said she was going to turn you in and just had to be hateful to make her day! Mel

[DianeS]

An ectopic pregnancy will produce the same amount of HcG as any pregnancy, right up to the point where the embryo can no longer grow properly, which is several weeks into the pregnancy. So an ectopic pregnancy won't affect a pregnancy test at this point at all.

Are you paying any attention to when you ovulate? Many factors can delay ovulation, and will therefore affect your period date as well.

Have you ever had an ovarian cyst before? Probably not, since you didn't mention that in your treatment list. But they can happen from time to time, and basically it's a cyst left over from ovulation that does not go away when it should - it stays around, continuously releasing the hormone that keeps your period from starting. I had one once that delayed my period for 8 days past it's scheduled start. They usually dissolve on their own, but the doc can dissolve it for you if it causes pain or worry.

But there is also the possibility that you are pregnant, and just don't have enough of the hormone in your system yet to show on a test. If waiting and testing again like the doc said still results in a negative, go in for a blood test anyway. They're much more sensitive than a urine test, and the follow up exams could reveal a reason why the levels aren't following the expected rate of increase.

Nothing to do at this point but wait and see. Good luck!

[Brat]

Omigosh, 34! It's so good to hear from you!!!! What a blast from the past! I think it was about a year ago that we were corresponding privately, and you encouraged me to get checked out at an infertility specialist. Thank you for pushing me to get that out of the way so I could move on to what I really wanted to do: adopt! You are one of the people I attribute with giving me the support I needed during a difficult, confusing time.

I've got prayers sent, fingers and toes crossed, hopes and dreams lifted all for you. I can't imagine being any more happy for you if you are pregnant. I, too, have heard numerous times that if you test too soon, the HCG levels may not be high enough to detect pregnancy. It's easy for me to say, but hang in there!

This is for DBM68: you sound like you are having a rough time. If you'd like, I actually *can* refer you to a newsgroup where no one ever talks about pregnancy. I can remember the days that when, if I saw one more pregnant woman, I thought I was just going to die. Seriously. I didn't care as much about being pregnant, but about being a mom, and I'd feel miles away from that when I'd look at their bellies, hurt and unnerved--as though my inadequacy was being thrown in my face. Now, today, I spent a half hour talking to a pg co-worker about her ultrasound, with happy tears in my eyes. I cannot imagine doing that a year ago. There's healing to be had.

This evening, my husband dropped off my daughter at my office because he had to go to a meeting. As I walked out the door with her, I spied a woman who I know is having a very difficult time, and is still trying to have a biological child. I tried to slip past her, unnoticed, because I didn't know how she was feeling. I know that there were some days when I just didn't want to be around babies. But, she called out to me. I walked over, she reached out to my baby girl, and I could see the hope in her eyes. She didn't know I knew about her infertility, and I decided to take a risk and be real. She was honest that she was hurting, inferred pressure from her mom. I spoke with her about adoption, and at the end of our conversation she hugged me tight and warm as only sisters on this journey can. I had tears in my eyes again on the way home, but this time they weren't the happy ones of earlier in the day. I cannot wait for her to become a mom, and I don't care how. She's been on the journey, and I couldn't imagine not being happy for her.

So, I know where you are right now, and it doesn't have to be this way. But while it is--know that there are places where you can express exactly what you feel and get amazing support as you work through your infertility. Meanwhile, this is *exactly* the place where 34 should share her good news, among friends.

I wish you peace, I really do. PM me if you'd like.

[cathy102]

I agree with everyone here.. This should be a place that we can post anything, including GREAT news that someone became pregnant. Some people end up having Bio children after adopting and I think that's great!!. It happened to one of my friends that Adopted. She tried for 12 years. She was in the process of adopting her second child and then found out she was pregnant. I was so happy for her..

So, if 34 and hopeful is pregnant, I think that is GREAT and we should support her...

Cathy

[34andhopeful]

Hi Brat!! Long time no see. Well, I am sooo chicken to take the test again. But I know that I have to. I will do it this Friday and see what happens. Am I under stress? YES!!!!! LOL

My period is late, I stopped working so I could be home with our Son - I'll attach a pic. Oh, did I mention that he is heading towards his second b-day? Oh, and I am gaining weight, every pang of hunger, I put food in my mouth (gotto take care of my ID...LOL) and I know I should just drink a cup of water and then if I am REALLY hungry I will eat - but yummy yummy. lol

DBM68 - I know how you feel. I tried to get pregnat for three years and nothing. Did I mention that everyone of my friends, except one got pregnant during that time? I even witnessed one of my friends have an abortion! Our friendship has not yet been repaired.

However, I have learned that you should not stomp on anyone's impending happiness but support what they are going through. BTW, I learned that lesson after I got pregnant a year and a half ago (thanks to IVF) and thankfully, I had the same outlook after the fetus did not grow and I had to have a D&C -My heart still aches for what might have been.

But, how awsome would it be for Chris to have a little brother to take care - if its a girl, we'll have to move. (we have a two master bedroom townhouse) Oh, that is also adding to my stress.

I am sorry about your sadness, if you want to talk, PM me.

[34andhopeful]

oh, to answer the question about why I assume etopic, if there is a pregnancy at all. My tubes are not good, so my chances of etopic drastically increase.

[cathy102]

34...Your son is so cute... Hope to hear Happy news on Friday..

You will be in my prayers...

Cathy

[mroot]

As many have already said, you would detect HcG in the blood with an ectopic pregnancy. I had an ectopic pregnancy (the second of three miscarriages in one year!) and things looked great in the beginning. I did an in-home pregnancy test when I was only 5 days late and it was extremely positive! I did the blood test the next day and my HcG was 167.5. Two days later it was 390! So it more than doubled in 48 hours (which is what the HcG is supposed to do in early pregnancy) and things seemed to be going well. I was a little queasy, tired, etc. Two weeks later, I experienced what I thought was a miscarriage and found out it was an ectopic pregnancy.

I do hope that if you are pregnant, that it is not ectopic! Let's hope for the best and pray that things will be well! Good luck!!!