[wishing4real]

I want to prepare a special package for the ** of what will hopefully become our daughter and first child in approx. 2 weeks.

We cannot offer the gift until she signs so that it does not make her feel obligated to place her child with us. So, I will take flowers to the hospital, but also wanted something nice following placement.

Our daughter will be born via C-section, so I thought a nice care package would be in order. I already have a nice leather bound scrapbook which I will fill over the years with pages (we promised pictures twice per year for 18 years, I will lay them out and send them for her to include in the book).

I also bought a comfy pajama set from victoria's secret and some lotions, etc. Just these few items (with the scrapbook) total nearly $100 and look like nothing at all in the basket (it looks almost empty).

I am trying so hard to come up with a personal, appropriate and impressive gift that will sincerely convey our appreciation and love for B. And without giving birth or having had a C-section myself, I am not quite sure what she would appreciate and enjoy. Any suggestions?

[wishing4real]

Saxxy - thank you. I tried to reply but your PM box is full.

[Sarah0518]

Some of the items we included in our care package to "K" were some lotions and bath products from Bath and Body so she could pamper herself and a very pretty picture frame that said "My Precious Child".

We thought about getting her a journal, but instead got a scrapbooking program for her computer. She and her mom had expressed an interest in creating a scrapbook for the baby about their family's history, their experiences, etc. I am so looking forward to seeing it myself.

Also, "K" had complained so much about her stretch marks and looking like a zebra. Avon had a new product out that is supposed to reduce scars and stretch marks. I realize this item is little too personal for some to consider, but "K" was thrilled about the idea of getting rid of them as quickly as possible.

[michellemartin]

My suggestion, always of course the massage certificate, but c-cection vs vaginal delivery??? I dont know if that'd work. But my other fav. suggestion is a locket/frame with babys name and DOB engraved in it. There are some stores in the area I live in that you can bring in a frame, or anything with a mostly flat surface and they will engrave it right there. They also sell frames and wedding gifts and stuff here.

[LisaCA]

we bought her a photo album with a few pictures already, and a white gold locket with a lock of christiane's hair. we didn't have time to get a small photo of her to also add to the locket. btw, lockets are increasingly hard to find-go figure. We also gave bgrandma a silver box with a lock of her hair.

I'd add some scented soaps, lotions, books, videos/dvds, anything that a person on bedrest could use. I suspect that she'll be resting awhile and bored to tears.

good luck

LisaCA

[wendelin]

Another idea or two that we did as well - we included a beautiful procelain statue of a young girl holding a child (really not expensive at all, but much loved as a gift). Also, we gave matching teddy bears so that she would have something to snuggle with in the coming hard days, that her son would be snuggling with too.

[mckenna]

my sister just had a baby, and i got her a memory box from things remembered. i got it engraved on one side and there was a place for a picture on the other side. i bought it to keep her daughter's hospital bracelet, hat, ect. this might be nice for a bmom to keep memories in as well. you can have whatever you want engraved as well.

[overflowing]

For our daughter's bmom, we gave her a beautiful teacup and saucer, with a tea spoon and a stand. We also bought the exact same one for our daughter. We told our daughter's bmom these would be special teacup's for her and T to have special tea times when she's older. She loved the idea of their special time.

[DebCsMom]

We gave our Birth Moms photo albums also. We also gave them a book called "Birth Mother Memories" You have to order it online on like Amazon. It's a journal type book that goes through the pregnancy, her decision to place, the family she chose, her feelings, etc. It also goes into her family history, family tree etc. It has a spot for each Birthday of the child to write her thoughts of the day.

We also gave them a "Mother Child" pendent for one Birth Mom. The other we gave a heart shaped Birthstone necklace. Babys birthstone. The other we gave a birthstone necklace & a porcelin woman holding a child.

Deb

[hpoefull2003]

We purchased a necklace for L. I wanted something that represented the fact that she had twins and that they will always be close to her heart. I found a really nice one on sale and paid about 80.00 for it (gold) the store was going out of business. She had given the babies the necklace she wore when she was preg. and angel so this one had 2 hearts and an angel on it. She loved it and it will always be close to her heart just like the babies.

Good luck in your search for the gift to convey your feelings.

[azprincess]

My bchild's Aparents sent me a locket with a picture in it and a lock of her hair. My most treasured peice of jewelry.

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Just these few items (with the scrapbook) total nearly $100 and look like nothing at all in the basket (it looks almost empty).

for this, try to put some paper "grass" in the basket, a bath scrubbie and some bath soaps maybe. She won't be able to use it for about 6 weeks after the C-section (if I remember right, I had 4 c-sections, but forgot how long it was to be able to soak in the tub). Maybe a blank journal with lines in it. If that doesn't fill the basket, buy a smaller basket. I don't mean to sound tacky but to make the gift look beautiful, sometimes you have to do that. Maybe get some clear wrapping paper and put that around the outside of the basket and tie it up with some ribbons. Hope that helps!