[cavcmc]

Hello all. I am new to the whole adoption idea and just beginning the search/process. I will be a single parent and am interested in a group that would discuss single parent issues and joys, ideas and suggestions. I am also interested in general information on the appropriate steps to take to make this all happen! If anyone knows of any good single parent groups please let me know. (I checked one I found on this site and there has not been much activity).

About me: I am in my early 40s and the oldest of twelve children! Most siblings are married and my sixteenth niece/nephew was just born last weekend. The majority of my family live near me in the Boston area. I have only mentioned this idea to two sisters and they are very supportive. (I'm trying to hold off on any big announcements until I am confident that I'll be accepted by an agency and country). Anyway, any advice is appreciated. I feel like I'm just holding my breath these days.

Thanks

[waitinginnj]

Congratulations on your decision to adopt. I adopted my daughter last October as a single parent. I didn't join any support groups, but once I identified a country, I found a ton of support on the country board. Once you identify a country and know that they accept single parent adoptions, your process will likely be pretty close to the process of the couples adopting.

Also, the singles board here is not the most active, but when questions are posted, they are generally responded to. I am also finding that there are more single parents on the board lately.

When selecting an agency make sure that they are truly supportive of single parent adoptions. Some will accept singles, but treat singles differently.

I started my process by investigating countries and then the program available for the countries with different agencies. My decision then came together about which country made the most sense and which agency I thought would be the most effective for me. I decided to adopt from Russia.

Please feel free to PM me with any questions.

Good Luck!

[Prissy]

Cavcmc, I am also a single parent of my son whom I adopted through domestic adoption almost 2 years ago now. I started my adoption process right before by 40th. birthday and had my son home with me, 4 months after I turned 41. It was the best decision I ever made in my life. My only regret is that I did not do this sooner, but then again I would not have my son so I guess in the end it all happens when it is suppose to. I agree with waitinginnj that there have been alot more single post on this forum of late but perhaps we can get the single parent forum buzzing a little bit more. I wish you luck on your journey and remember just when you think that the process is taking too long or it is too emotionally draining, remember the reward.... I would be happy to answer any specific questions you might have, please feel free to ask or PM.

[Support2Adopt]

Hello and welcome!
You might also consider posting on the Over 40 board.
Congrats on your decision to adopt!
JJ

[Peggy]

I am single and adopted through foster care in my early 40's. I almost forgot there was a single section on the boards. I think there are plenty of single parents on the boards, they are just scattered. I mostly post and read under special needs, and older child adoption, as do other single parents with that type of adoption. Best of luck!