[megsmom]

Hi everyone!
I could use some ideas for getting through the day, when you've met a potential birth mom and you love her to death and really care about her, and your excited... and yet you have to wait for her decision.. will it be your family or will it not....??? What does everyone do to stay sane and relax and give her the breathing space she needs??? I'd love ideas please a 100 or so would be great! lol! This is my second time adopting but it seems so much harder to wait this time.
Thank you!
Shannon

[Support2Adopt]

Just do whatever you can to stay busy in hopes of keeping your mind off of this. Go to a movie, rent a video, work on a craft project, etc. The limbo stage is so hard to deal with. Good luck to you that you hear something soon and that she picks you.
JJ

[cathy102]

I was more relaxed with our second adoption because I had a daughter that kept me busy. Do as much as you can with your family. Once my son came my daughter became so darn jealous. She didn't get all of my time to herself. Now I have to make sure they both get my attention. You just have to trust that God will bring the right child in your life. Give the expectant mom alot of space. This is one of the hardest decisions she will have to make for her and the childs future. Just be there for her..

Hope that helped??

Cathy

[2boysmom]

I'm only half kidding,
Pick a hard project and work on it. It will fill your day, take your mind off things and you will feel good when you see what you accomplished. After you have your baby, it will be a good two years before you start anything else....

[jewelewis]

We decided not to do it but dh and I were going to completly remodel our kitchen. We decided to wait and see how much money we have left after the adoption. But we really wanted to get it done before the baby gets here. Now that would take up some time. The night we waited for "D" to call us and let us know if she has decided on us to parent was sooooo long. dh kept trying to get on the computer I would say ,"get off your tying up the phone line she could be calling right now." I didnt so much go out and check the mail. We decided to play a aboard game with my dd and the phone rang. I thought I was going to throw up. Spend time with family, work on a scrap book. I am starting a cross stitch Christmas stocking for the baby (due in August). Even if you have plans to do something once a week it will break the week up and not seem so long.
Julie