[AMom2Two]

Oh my gosh, it's finally happened. We have been waiting 5 months for a match and this morning it happened. Just last week we lost out on the placement of another little boy because of our desire for open adoption, that was the second loss for us. This morning we got the call that we have been selected and the bmom wants some openess, yeah!!!!! It's a little boy (seems meant to be) due to be born mid June. She is inviting us to go thru the end of her pregnancy with her. Oh my gosh! She has invited us to attend her doctors appts. and the ultrasounds, yeah (I've never listened to heart beat over an ultrasound, this will be the first time for me). She also wants us present at the hospital. Yippee!!!

Even though I am so thrilled to be picked, I can't help but feel for this young mother who has to place her first born child. Already I feel the bond is growing between us. I hope to meet her within the next week. Her parents support her decision. The bfather is denying this is his child and wants no part of the whole thing.

Thanks to everyone here who helped me with my profile letter and for your encouragement and support when we were not selected in the past.

Hugs to everyone!!! I am walking on air!!!! A son......

[mckenna]

congrats, can't wait to hear more about the match!

[Scarlet]

congrats!!!! that is great. I will be praying for you and your family. And I will add the potiential birthmother to that list.

[NCMom]

Im so happy for you! I hope this does turn out to be the perfect match for you! I know you had concerns that your desire for openness might be standing in the way of your being matched. How brave and patient you were to stick by your guns. I just knew the right potential birthmom would find her way to you. Heres hoping this is the start of a wonderful relationship for you and her.

Laura.

Happy Dance!

[Support2Adopt]

Cingratulations on your match!
JJ

[Jackiejdajda]

AMom2Two

I have enjoyed reading your posts.. I am happy for you..

I hope you post about what you are going through.. I know I will learn from you..


Jackie

[bumpkin]

WHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO


I am so happy for you!!!! Congratulations!!!! I'm sure you are all so excited. How far apart will the kids be, your daughter is still quite little, correct? You'll be one busy momma!!


Best to you and your family!

Bumpkin

[Cricket8351]

Oh my goodness! I am so happy for you and will hope and pray for the best!

Do keep us posted will you?

Cricket

[jewelewis]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!That is great news. I cant wait to hear how your meeting with her goes.
Julie

[enerad]

Isn't it a wonderful feeling when it happens! Congratulations. We are due in mid-may, and I never thought we would have the openess we do. It is totally worth the wait.

That first meeting is so hard when you meet face to face, but so worth the experience.

Keep us updated on your progress.

Darene

[amom4life]

Amom2two,
I couldn't be happier for you!! Please keep us updated and continue to share your wonderful experiences with the expectant mother.

June isn't really that far away! I'm so glad that you got the desire of your heart for a woman who wants openess. I know how much that means to you!
HUGS
Judy

[AMom2Two]

Thank you everyone for your well wishes!! It looks like I am finally on my way to being a mom to two! Oh my gosh! I feel so blessed. I am so happy that this young woman wants openess with us. I hope this is the start of a great relationship! I haven't in my wildest dream imagined someone would invite me to go thru the end of her pregnancy with her. How sweet and kind and thoughtful this young woman is! Gosh, she is only 17 and having to place her first child. My heart also aches for her despite the joy I am feeling. I can only imagine her fear and pain.

Part of me, tells myself to go ahead and be happy about this baby. Someone needs to be excited to welcome this little soul into the world. I am sure his mother is, but also sure that the moment will be filled with hurt, sorrow and loss for her, if indeed she does have to place.

When this moment comes to you, it is so wonderful! Adoption is bittersweet. Our first child was placed directly from the hospital. We received custody of her when she was 5 days old. That is the first time we met her bmother. This time, I get to form a bond with this young woman. We get to talk about our desires, our hopes, our needs. The last time, it happened so quickly, there was no time to talk and plan and just get to know one another. I feel so honored that she choose US. I can't wait to meet her and get to know her.

I'm going out today to buy the baby's coming home outfit. My daughter, who will be three next month, is so excited. I don't think she grasps that a baby is coming but she see's my excitment and she get's excited. I had two dozen baby boy balloons delivered yesterday and hung them all over the house for when my husband arrived home. He is so excited also! Our daughter is having a blast pulling the balloons down and running around with them. She feels like it 's party time and it is is I even get my daughter to talk on the phone and she's been telling our family and friends, I have a baby brother! Everyone was anxious to know what the sex is and when this will happen.

I'm floating on clouds right now but I know that in the back of my mind, I have to be prepared in case she wants to parent or the bfather changes his mind. I will be happy for her if she does parent, despite my loss. I've already decided that, but for now....I'm going to be happy and plan on the arrival of a son!!!

Oh my gosh... by the way, how do you play with boys? With my daughter, it's easy, she's all dolls, dress up, and things, but a boy, I'm afraid, I don't have a clue with what to do

Hugs everyone!

[DebCsMom]

I feel your excitment in your posts! It's almost like living it with you!! CONGRATS!! I know the feelings you are having about this Birth Mom placing her child. I've had those each time. You are SOOOOO unbelievably happy only to know that as happy you are is exactly how sad she is. It's hard. I cried each time the Birth Moms left the hospital without their baby. It hurt me so much that they were hurting.

It's great to be able to get to know the Birth Mom prior to the birth. You can get to know her likes & dislikes, her favorite color, food. What music she likes, movies she likes. She can share her feeling with you about placing & about her whole pregnancy. You can talk about everyday stuff just to get to know each other. Maybe even discuss names together. That's always a good bonding thing. Naming the baby together. It's also a good time to share your feelings with her as well. Birth Mom need to know that we too are scared & have pretty much the same feelings as they do in some ways. Like, "Will they like me", etc. You'd be surprised at how many things you are both scared of! LOL

Have fun & enjoy every moment you can with her! It's awesome to be able to share in as much of the pregnancy as you can!

GOOD LUCK! I can't wait to hear more of your updates! I LOVE feeling your excitment! We're SOOOO DONE so it's nice to at least feel it with you! LOL LOL

Deb

[conman50]

So happy for you!!!!!!!!!!! It's a wonderful time for you and you should enjoy every minute of it.

We have allot in common. My son will also be 3 next month and we are adopting a boy due mid July from a birthmother who is also 17. We have been matched for 2 months and have enjoyed time getting to know both the birthparents. Their parents and family are in full support of their decision and they both of high aspirations of college and careers.

I have been playing with names for the last few months and it has been very challenging to say the least. I have been trying to explain this whole thing to my son but he doesn't understand any of it and actually is not very happy when we tell him that he will be an older brother - why should he share all of mommy's attention with someone else? I am also trying to be low-key with him in case she changes her mind. I would hate to get his hopes up only to be crushed. How are you handling that issue?

Hope all goes smoothly and keep us posted - it's nice to share stories.

[jewelewis]

I can "hear" your excitment. You are so cute. I cant wait to hear your updates. June isnt too far away. Enough time to get things in order but not too long that the wait is unbearable. I am glad to hear that you get to go the dr appts and be in the delivery. That is very neat. I too have been to "D" dr appts and get to be in the delivery room. She isnt due until August. I am enjoying getting to know her.