[Lefeh99]

Hello Everyone! I am new here. My name is Lori and my husband's name is Steve. We are in the process of adoptiong! We are waiting for the arrival of our daughter. We will have an open adoption. We went to our birth mom's appointment today and she is 2 cent dilated and 60% efaced. I thought it was time for me to find a support site.

My husband and I have two children in heaven. Our daughter, Virginia Paige, was stillborn at 24 weeks on March 6, 2002. Our son, Keegan Mitchell, was stillborn at 33 weeks on March 16, 2003. I have found several support sites to get me through our losses. Now with "hope" in our life I was looking for something to help me along this path.

I look forward to getting to know you all and talking with you more. I will go read some more posts and then start along here!!!

I am coming back now to add more that I should have put in here the first time around. We made the final decision and call late Decemeber to get signed up with an agency.

We made several trips to different attorneys, agencies and LOTS of calls. We tried to network on our own for about six months. I would have to say our letters were helpful. One person that received our letter sent copies to a small Christian agency just south of us. Then a birthmom also received our letter, from the same person. She mailed it to both people.

I called the agency twice and wanted to get things going with them but then I would lose faith so I would not do anything. Finally late December, I thought I had to do something. So...I called the agency again and made an appointment to meet. Things went FLYING since then.

At our meeting the gal told us she was working with a birth mom and she had already showen her some profiles but there wasn't a couple that "jumped" out at her. She wanted to include us in her choices when they met again. Since the agency is so small they show all the couples to their birth moms. When the birth mom read our profile she remembered the letter that she got about us in the late summer.

She asked to meet us and then she would decide if she wanted to meet the second family she liked. After meeting us she choose us. What an interview! I call it the interview of a lifetime! Much bigger than a job, in my opinion.

We weren't looking for an open adoption at all, but now we can't think of it any other way.

I think that should do for now, again. I have enjoyed reading the posts I've read so far!

[Cricket8351]

Hi and welcome Lori. How exciting for you. Have you been matched long? Are you adopting privately or going through an agency?

Adoption.com has been a wonderful source of support and information for me. I am so thankful for the wonderful group of people here who have cried with me, prayed for me, laughed with me, and cheered me on through the adoption roller coaster.

T

[katieb31323]

Welcome and thank you for sharing your story. What an exciting and emtional time for you. I hope you continue to share! It is great to have support from those who have been there and to hear things and learn things you hadn't thought of before. The boards are a great tool for education and support. Again welcome!

[3girls1boy]

Welcome! Its a long journey to parenthood for some of us. Like you we lost a lot of babies befor adopting. I had one that to 20 weeks. It was heartbreaking, but I never lost faith and always thought my child was out there. The first one came to us through a joyous open adoption almost 13 years ago. We then gave birth to 2 daughters, before the surprise adoption of a 1 year old boy last summer. Waiting for the baby to be born in the home stretch just crawls by for all moms, but especially adoptive moms. I can remember thinking everyday "Is she having contractions? Has the baby dropped? Does she feel like nesting? Does she feel different at all?" Its hard to not contact the poor bmother every 10 minutes. Our daughter was a week late. Longest week of my life, but definetly with the best results. So keep everyone posted. There always seems to be someone to talk to.

[amom4life]

Welcome Lori! It's nice to have you join us and I do hope you will continue to share your progress with us.
Judy

[Support2Adopt]

Hi Lori and welcome to our group!
First, I would like to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your babies. I can't even begin to imagine what you have gone through.
Secondly, congrats on your match! It sounds like the baby will arrive very soon! Do you know if the baby is a boy or girl?
Lastly, please understand that this is no way a critizism, but since you are new here, please know that many of the posters are very pc. Technically, a woman isn't a Birthmother until she gives birth and relinguishes her rights. Just to make sure you don't offend anyone, might I suggest that you refer to this lady as someone who could be a possible Birthmother to your child?
Please keep us updated. What an exciting time for you!
JJ

[iss36]

I wanted to wish you all the best. and I am truely sorry ofr your loss. I sent you a private message.
kim

[foreverbaby]

Hi Lori. you will be in my prayers that everthing will work out for you this time. Good Luck.

[LotAkids]

Hi Lori! Welcome. Congratulations on your match. We will all be here, waiting on baited breathe to hear what happens next.


Liz