[kamamsm]

My grandmother gave birth to my mom at age 53. Her dad was 65. Both saw my mom grown. ( And my mom had a younger brother,too!) My mom gave birth to me at 28. I gave birth at 26, 32, and adopted at 39 (hubby is 8 years older than me.) and we are now going for our fourth child. Enjoy your babies and don't worry.

[Philly]

I am a whopping 48 and my husband is 42 - we are in the process of adopting a boy 2 1/2 (bd 07/30) and a girl (bd 07/22) from the same orphanage. 8 days apart could almost be twins.
I am so looking forward to staying young because of these children. My mom is 78 and lives downstairs from us and can't wait either. As other replies stated, a younger person can pass on at any time, too.................Good luck and go for it!!!!!!!!!

[cathy102]

I say go for it, too!!! I was 36 with our first Adoption and then we got our son in Dec. 2003 and I just turned 38 last month.. My kids are 15 months apart and I feel in my early 30's.. I think that is cool that you could be a mom again..

Good luck,

Cathy

[BabsCanada]

I'm gonna play devil's advocate -

We adopted our daughter when I was 36. When she was 1-1/2, we were released for homestudy to adopt again. Boy did I procrastinate. We were so grateful for this child and I so wanted anyone else waiting to have the chance too. I eventually asked to withdraw, because I thought we'd be selfish to receive another child, when others still waited.

BUT now dd is 7-1/2 and I am 43 and I wish I could turn back time. She now wants a sibling, and I wish we had given her one.

That being said - you are presented with an opportunity to parent your child's sibling. Oh what a tremendous (godsent?) blessing.

If the only reason you're not pursuing this wholeheartedly is that you're worried about your age - I vote GO FOR IT.

IMO - the little ones keep you young. Even now, I don't FEEL 43.
Don't let age be the factor.

How wonderful it would be to raise 2 siblings.

GO FOR IT!

Babs

[MyGrlnme]

hi... I say goooooo for it ! I am 46... and single.. and have a beautiful 8 month old precious girl and am considering adopting another child so my daughter will not be an only child... you should check out the post- over 40 moms... there are several out there! I feel i am more mature, financially stable and let me tell you.. i have more energy now than I have in years, thanks to my little one! What a great opportunity you have.. to have a sib coming ! Don't let others influence your decision.... do what your heart feels.... as far as mom goes.. I agree... she maybe feeling she cannot do the gramma thing as she is getting older.. or you will have less time for her? I think this is wonderful.. keep me posted on how things are going! good luck !

[Linny]

If you have ANY doubts about being able to parent at 'your age'.........as if the many posts from us 'oldies' wasn't enough....(LOL!)....then go to the 'Over forty adoption board. There are a lot of us out here who are 'older' and loving every (well, at least almost EVERY) minute of it!

For us.......we will each be 47yo next month.......our oldest is almost 24yrs old.....the oldest of seven (everyone's adopted).
The four at home are 9yrs, 12yrs, 2yrs and 9mos. I think we're done.....but gee, the last one won't graduate high school until we're 64yrs old!
We intend to keep going in our lives.......something about buying an RV, traveling around the country and playing cards until dawn just wasn't our thing. Some relatives and a lot of our accquaintances didn't understand either. (But I've had more women come up to me and say 'Gee, I wish we'd had another baby.... )

Just remember.....it's your life.

Sincerely,

Linny

[djb_97]

Hi again!

I just want to add that my mom will be 70 in April, she never wanted to be a Grandma and since we started to try to have a family two years ago, she has been very excited about the possibility! Not sure what changed her mind, but I'm thrilled she is finally looking forward to it!!

On that note, DH turns 35 in May and I'll be 37 in Oct., this will be our first child.

Please keep us all posted, best of luck!

Take care,
deb

[cindy123456789]

Sorry, haven't read all the replies yet, feel compelled to post. You have one who is an infant, and a sibling on the way, who is less than two years apart in age? That would be great for them to grow up together if you want thatt optiuon, ceratinly better than a sigle child household. On the other hand, my father died for ten years of brain cancer at 38, and I am physically disabled at 30, and have been for a few years. You have to consider not the length of your potential life, but tthe quality of it. If you are concerned, is there someone you have in mind if you, for whatever reason become unable to parent? All parents of every age, even 20, should consider this as an important fact. Things happen beyond our control. You can be prepared to parent, and also have someone who will be there if you can no longer be. that is what myself, and my 40 year old hubby say. At foisrt, when we talked about adoption, he was like, no way, I should be thinking grandkids soon, not kids. We are waiting for older children, not babies though. All depends on you. Good luck in your choice.