[mom2alex]

I still don't know how to turn off my avatar for certain posts without removing it completely.

Help!!!

[Dragonfly82]

I'm not positive, but I don't believe you can change your avatar for each (or some) post(s). (??) From what I've noticed, every time you change your avatar, it changes to that avatar for every post you've ever posted in the past also.

Hope this helps.

[mom2alex]

I know on another BB I post to you can disable it for certrain posts. This is usually desired when posting to board that might be insensitive to display a baby picture on (ie: infertility or birthparent boards).

Considering my Avatar, I was afraid of being insensitive. Maybe someone else will know if it is posible.

[Missy M]

Originally posted by mom2alex
I know on another BB I post to you can disable it for certrain posts. This is usually desired when posting to board that might be insensitive to display a baby picture on (ie: infertility or birthparent boards).

Considering my Avatar, I was afraid of being insensitive. Maybe someone else will know if it is posible.

Mom...I understand your concern and while I am not a person looking to adopt or parent (mom-mom, b-mom, grand-mom, reunited, retired)I want to ask that you reconsider your desire to turn off your picture. While it may seem insensitive TO YOU and you are very kind to think of other members here, maybe you should see it ( the avatar) as an inspiration instead. Before you remove it maybe you can post a question asking if it seems insensitive to anyone... As a b-parent I'd feel honered to have you post (my) your childs picture here or anywhere. Heck, paste it on a flag and fly it over your home!!!
You have every reason to be proud and display your childs picture....Its Ok IMO...MissyM

[cathy102]

I wouldn't remove it!!! You have a gorgeous child and be proud that you are a mommy!!

Cathy

[mom2alex]

Missy and Cathy- I had to chuckle at the flag suggestion (if you knew me better, you'd really know why). I think I've done EVERYTHING short of that already. I have her pictures professional taken about every three weeks (no exaggeration), take tons of 35mm pics (usually a roll a week), just learned how to use my digital camera, and have 2 websites for her (one though our agency and one designed for her birthparents easy access to her latest and greatest pictures).

So yes I am SO SO SO proud of my little girl, I could shout it from the roof tops (maybe I'll try that next)!!!

But I also know that some poeple DO take major offense to preceivedly insensitive Avatars. People see things so differently. Maybe I'll take your suggestion and ask and see what they say on the other boards.

Hey, actually Missy, would you mind posing that question on the birthparent board. Perhaps, people might answer a bit more honestly. Just a thought. If not, that's ok, I'd be happy to pose the question myself.

Thanks for the input!

[Brat]

Hi Alex's Mom!

Every once in a while, out in the real world, I get tears in my eyes when I see a baby or a pg tummy. That tells you how sensitive I am on bad days. That's pretty common for IFers. You are so sensitive to suspect this--or maybe you even experienced this.

But I ALWAYS love seeing pics of babies in these forums. Rather than being a source of pain, they are a source of joy. Seeing your little one's face gives me hope!

For example, this Christmas I got all kinds of pictures of my friends' babies, and I really am happy for them. But the picture that touched my soul was of my friend and her husband and the two children they adopted. To see her two happy little ones nestled in their parents' arms was heart-warming.

I agree that it's good to check around with other folks, but I'd be sad if you removed your avatar. Your munchkin is darlin.'

[MamaJem]

There was a period of time that I would cry everytime I saw a new baby. (Especially if I was on my period.) Of course, this didn't happen when the baby was adopted. IT was a joyous reminder of hope and how there would be other avenues of my joy. Thank you for being so sensitive butI'm with the other folks, I love logging on and seeing your posts with your sweet baby's face reminding me that it will be my turn again soon.

All the best to you,

[Sharon]

I agree; keep the avatar! It's precious.
There's nothing insensitive to anyone about displaying a picture of your child; I mean, that's your child!
Infertile people and birthparents may be in pain, but nevertheless, they have to live in the real world, a world that is shared by many parents and many children. There's no way to avoid seeing children, and I'm not sure it would be advisable anyway.
Truly; I don't think it's an issue you should worry about. If anything, that photo of Alex probably cheers people up.
Keep it.
~ Shar

[Cricket8351]

If there was a vote on the subject...I say keep it!

I love the pic of Alex!

T

[Brat]

Sharon, I love you dearly, but I think your post was a little harsh.

In fact, I do have friends who avoid being around children, and sometimes it's the best thing for them. I choose not to live my life that way, and I love being around children, but I don't judge. Until I've had a doctor, ostensibly, enter my bedroom, until I have seen my baby drop into the toilet, or until I have seen my child die in my arms, I will keep my thoughts about how others should deal to myself.

Sharon, please continue to speak for how it feels to be a birthmother. I learn from you every time. I also learn when you share your wisdom and support to someone who is adopting. You're amazing, really, and have brought me to tears more than once.

But please be careful when it comes to the topic of infertility. It's been truly devastating, and I haven't been through *half* of what some women have. I'm happy to say that I'm moving on...yet there are days.... So, I'd hate for someone whose having a bad one to come across your post and feel diminished.

[Sharon]

Okay, sorry.
I didn't intend my post to be harsh at all, but rather, encouraging to an adoptive mom who has been very encouraging to me, and to the other bmoms on this forum.
It's true, I have not experienced infertility and don't really know how people who have would respond to MomToAlex's avatar. Maybe it causes them pain. If so, then I guess she should remove it.
Again, I apologize for speaking for a population that I do not represent. It was a thoughtless assumption. I did not imagine that such a sweet picture could cause anyone pain. I guess MomToAlex has more insight than I do in this matter. It is characteristic of her thoughtful and caring nature that she would think of such a thing. I know that she would never deliberately wish to cause anyone on the forum more heartache.
~ Shar

[Brat]

((((Sharon))))) Your post is another reason why I love you dearly. Thanks for being understanding, as usual. This forum would be a whole different place without you.

[MNelson]

Mom2Alex -- I, too, smile every time I see your sweet baby's picture. I speak for one (not all of course) woman who went through miscarriages and IVF treatments, and I vote YES!

[alicia hunter]

I love the pic and have been trying to get my avatar to be a pic of my daughter, but, being the computer dummie I am, I am having probs. I say leave it.