[kermy71]

Dear all

I am in the uk so i understand that procedures are different but I am sorry to say that I am going mad with this waiting. I have been waiting for our police records to come back now for TWO months. I was told it was delayed because of Christmas Hols and I understand that but I am just fit to bust.

Please someone tell me that this feeling is normal.

Please someone let me know that I dont have much longer to wait.

Thanks in advance four your time to read this.

Chelle

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where casinos and their potential employees overload the system. Our criminal checks took 5 months to return just because the adoption process is just not a priority. The waiting is h-e-l-l! I come to the boards when my peanut is sleeping and did not discover it until her arrival. Thank goodness I worked fulltime while waiting; otherwise I would have gone insane. It is totally normal! The good news is; once your child arrives, you will forget all about it. Best of luck to you.

[kermy71]

Thanks for your help and advice

How is you "little Peanut" now.

Hope everything is well

Chelle

[Nikki1262]

Chelle
the waiting is the hard part but the only advice i have is that you will get very good at WAITING... waiting for one thing or another. The only thing you can do to keep your sanity is MAKE PHONE CALLS ,,,, call everyday, call your caseworker and simply say "good moring, i just wanted to call and see if there is anything i can do to HELP you speed up this paperwork... i have LOTS of free time on my hands and will do anything you need."
They have excuses for everything... the bottom line is, the workers are understaffed and very underpaid. They deserve much more money than they are paid because i would not want their job. The only way to get through this is to make yourself WELL KNOWN....
once you get your police report back (you already know it is clear) then you will be told you have to wait for your fingerprint report to come back... then you will wait for the follow up homestudy to be done... then you will wait for the ______ get my drift.... face it, by the end of this process you will be VERY good at waiting.... just make sure that ALL your paperwork is in order, KEEP copies of every transaction you do... document EVERYTHING you say and exactly whom you say it to. It sounds a little obsessive but, in the end you have a very impressive diary of all the conversations you have made and it show your interest in this whole WAITING game...
believe me... been there and i KNOW what your going through. When its all done and said... the WAIT is worth it

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Here in Indiana, they say it can take a week or two to get the clearance back, or we could drive to Indy (3 hours from here) and go to the State Police offices and get it done that day. We really were not in a huge hurry and didn't mind the 2 week wait, until we got the call that a mom would be delivering via c-section in less than a week!! Holy Smokes! We weren't homestudy ready because our Social Worker was waiting for the police clearance before doing the interviews. So I called down to Indy and spoke with a lovely woman and told her our situation, she put me on hold, found our forms and said after she finished the next one in line, she would do ours!!! What a wonderful woman! It ended up the the mom parented (no harm, nor foul, our SW still was not able to get our interviews done by her delivery date, so it would have been a HUGE nightmare flying to her state for delivery, flying home for the interviews, then flying back and waiting weeks for her to complete the HS and then weeks for ICPC).
So my whole point that I've dragged out in the long and sordid story is, maybe if you call and sweetly tell them that it is really necessary that you get your clearance soon so that you can be matched. Hopefully you'll get a really nice woman on the other end of the phone who is a mom and understands!!
Good luck,
Tammi