[GreenThumb]

Hi Everyone,

We just learned this morning that our adoption (due date Jan 22)is not going to happen.

Apparently the potential bmom has been trying to get money and financial support from multiple sources, which is a class D felony. She dumped us and our agency when they got onto the game.

We're feeling pretty used and abused. We are worried for the baby and for other couples who may get played in this. In that spirit, I will give this info: The woman's name is Kim. She is in a mid-sized city in North eastern Indiana. She is due Jan 22. She is claiming need for rent and other living expenses. She will probably say she is about to get evicted.

If you think you have been contacted by her or have info please pm me and I can put you in contact with our agency and attorney.

Now we wait for our true child. Sigh.

[melon161]

I'm really sorry Greenthumb that you had to go through this. Hang in there, your child is out there somewhere.

Stacy

[marksmom]

Greenthumb,

I am very sorry to hear about your loss. My husband and I were also part of a scam last year. We even traveled a great distance to be at the birth and to pick up our baby. However, once we made the trip we found out our birth mother disappeared. She would not answer her phone or return any messages that were left. We were extremely saddened and wondered why we were suffering another adoption disappointment. This disappointment hit a little harder than the last since we had arrived at the destination and formed a relationship with the birthmother. We were also angered by the fact that we were out a couple thousand dollars in living expenses. Unfortunately, our agency that we were working with has not done anything to pursue legal action.

Please don't get discouraged. A couple of weeks after our disappointment our second agency that we were working with called and matched us with a wonderful couple who chose us to adopt their baby. Our child brings such joy to our lives and all the pain we went through in the past has seemed to disappear. I know that the wait can seem long but it will be worth it once you have your perfect little son or daughter in your arms.

[bumpkin]

My sympathies for your loss as well. This journey can be long and to have a "scam" is just sooo wrong. Take a deep breath, it will be your turn someday soon I'm sure.

Best to you and your family.

[MamaJem]

Greenthumb, that is indeed sad news. I am sorry that you have had to endure such a trial. I will pray that not only your heart will heal but that very soon, the right child will be placed into your arms and your home.

[GreenThumb]

You all are a great help! Thank you so much for your encouragement. Your kind words are healing.

I was just hanging out in the nursery, dreaming of who will one day sleep there. Today it's unfortunate that I work from home because I'm getting NOTHING done.

You know though, I wouldn't trade a minute of what we've experienced. I still feel privileged to have known Kim and possibly to have helped her in some way. We were given a baby shower 2 weeks ago and I wouldn't give up the joy I felt that day. I wouldn't give up finding out who our true friends are through it all. I wouldn't surrender the prayers that have gone up on our behalf. I wouldn't let go of the love and closeness that have grown deeper between my husand and me.

Something good will come of this.

[tobeafamily]

It always does, though sometimes we wish we could do without the pain.

Hang in. I always think of what my friend Amy says - It'll all be OK in the end. If it's not OK, then it's not the end.

Hang in,

Regina, AMom to Ryan Joshua Thomas

[Support2Adopt]

I am so sorry you had to experience this.
JJ

[GreenThumb]

Thanks for the sympathies. I've made a bunch of calls to let people know and it's helped to talk about it. Hubby has been great but he needed to get out and drive around for awhile.

Regina, I love the quote. I've copied it down to read daily.

As much as the Friends adoption episode annoyed me last week, one thing resonated with me. I am "a mother without a baby." Big sigh.

Here's to all of us who wait for our little ones to come home

[TJny]

Greenthumb -
I love what you said about not trading a minute of all of this. It was just what I needed to read to snap myself out of this self-pity mode I've gotten into today!

We too have had many devastating turns since we began our journey 24 months ago. We have up days and down days and the more time passes without holding our little angel in our arms, the down days often seem to outweigh the up ones. But deep down we feel the same way -- we wouldn't trade a minute of it! Our experiences have truly changed our lives. The people, the learning, the support, the love -- we feel we were meant to be on this journey and hope there is a reason for everything we encounter on the way. I'm sorry for what you have gone through and I hope your little one finds his/her way home to you very soon!!

Regina -
That truly is a great quote -- thank you for sharing!

Hugs to all waiting and especially those who support us (even without even knowing it!)

TJ

[Soccer Mom]

Green Thumb- I am so sorry to hear your sad news. Hugs and prayers coming at ya.

[susanlowman]

GreenThumb,
I am so sorry to hear your news. I know you must be devastated. Your follow up emails do sound as if you are handling this better than I could.

Your future child will be lucky when they find you. Hope they find you SOON!

[NCGirl20]

My heart felt sympathies go out to you...

[redhedded]

I am so sorry for your experience. However, I really appreciate and completely understand your openness and satisfaction with experiencing everything that you did. I, too, felt exactly like that two times before my daughter arrived; I would not have changed a thing. Frankly, I think the strength and perspective that resulted made me more spiritually ready and was a requirement of the journey. Your time will come and it will be so great!

[iss36]

Oh Honey I am so so sorry. it is so heart breaking. You have fallen in love with this baby in my experience I feel like it is like having a miscarriage for adoptive moms. Please call me. I can relate so much to what you are going through. I sent you a pm.

hugs to you
Kim